How do you rebuild a relationship back to what it once was after someone cheats?

Question

Ok so last weekend I cheated on my gf (well shes a bit more than that we are engaged) and she found out and this week she took me back with the promise I never do it again for the sake of our future. So now she can't sleep at night really she keep having dreams of me cheating. As well as shes not ready for me to really touch her or look at her when shes wearing certain clothes. So things are weird and shes not sleeping well and I can sleep through the night no prob but anyways things are weird. When do things go back to normal? And how to go about making them normal again?

Answer 1

You can't!! Things will never get back to normal, you screwed all that up!! Once a cheat always a cheat!! She should kick your a?? to the curb!! You ruined all the trust. It sounds like you messed up big time. You hurt someone that loved you. She took you back because she loves you, but you obviously did not love her to do this to her. It will never be the same.

Answer 2

It's really hard for a girl to trust a guy once he cheats. Especially, when you're really serious, like you are. She probably felt really secure with you before but, then you do that and it brakes that. She will start to question 'does he really love me?' 'if he really loved me how could he do that?' It's going to be really hard for her to get over it. Try to talk to her about it and, fully explain why you did it and why you will never do it again. Plus, try to prove in someway that you will never do it again and that you love her.

Answer 3

Everybody cheats, even the goodie too shoes on this board, get over it and move on. If things don't go back to normal, there are always more fish in the sea.

Answer 4

It wont ever go back to the way it was cos the trust is gone and she will never forget. OOPSY

Answer 5

in my experience it never goes back to how it was, just gets worse then ends. should have kept it in your pants