Well we've already talked about this issue and shes claims she 'doesnt like talking about things' though always talks about them, and when i suggest perhaps since she talks about these things so much it would be a help for her to have a therapist....but she just goes on about that saying 'they're stupid' but i know she is the talking type and that therapy would help her....well considering how much she unloads to me. so anyway she hinted the other day that 'well i would want to commit suicide but now i over think the whole thing and realise it would be pretty selfish....' why is she telling me this? does she want attention? is she crying for help? or what? she drops hints like this all the time, what do you think she is trying to get across to me? should i suggest again that she tries therapy? im not the best person to behave as a sounding board....
2007-08-17 20:56:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
we aren't kids living at home anymore...so the 'tell her parents' call isnt valid in my situation....
Thanks anyway everyone:)
2007-08-17 22:19:06 · update #1
ALWAYS take someone seriously when they say they want to end their life,if they are calling wolf,they will think twice about it next time they even think of saying it cause they will KNOW that someone took them seriously.
2007-08-17 21:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also tried to commit suicide several years ago. I won't go into why (it's a long story) but what your friend needs most right now is love. I know that sounds corny, but that's what she needs. If you're popular maybe you can stand up for her when people pick on her. A little moral support never hurt anybody. You might even try introducing her to some of your other friends. If they are cool they'll understand. If her home life is bad invite over to your house for dinner or whatever you girls do now days. It'll get her out of her house and away from her hating mom. My mom wasn't great either when I was growing up. Good luck, I'm sure you'll find a way to help.
2016-05-22 01:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling the parents/guardians is a good idea, but since she seems pretty messed up, it's possible that her parents had a hand in that and might not do much about it, or might punish her. Better bet...tell a trusted teacher at school and ask their help to deal with it with the girl's parents.
Don't be afraid to call 911 if you fear she's gonna do it before you get a chance to speak to her parents or teachers. All you have to do is say she's told me this, and I don't have the experience or knowledge to know if she's serious, can you please get her some emergency help?
Your friend might be initially mad at you for not keeping a secret but that may change as she realizes that you at least care enough to try to save her life. If she never gets over it well you've done your best and that's all that you can ever do.
2007-08-17 21:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pat D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's got some serious mental problems. If she was REALLY wanting to commit suicide she would. You do, however, have to give a person the benefit of the doubt in situations like this. She might REALLY want to die. What reason is she giving you why she is so obsessed with the idea of death and killing herself? What is she SO distressed about? If everyone wanted to kill themselves when their lives were not going just as planned there would not be anyone left on this place. Some people verbalize this kind of thing because they are reaching out for help and something said by someone they feel close to in order to build their self-esteem. I have noticed in the past 10 years that young people in particular seem absolutely obsessed with the thought of death. I don't understand what's going on. It's very concerning. Suicide is a VERY selfish thing. It is NO HUMAN BEINGS RIGHT TO DECIDE WHEN TO END THEIR LIFE. NONE! What benefit is there for the person killing themselves? NONE. They just end up a slab of meat on the funeral home table. After the funeral home gets paid, nobody cares anymore. Tell your friend she needs to think about all of these things I've said here. They might be crude and I might get ridiculed for these things I've said, but you know what? I don't care because it's the truth. I truly feel sorry for your friend. She is trying to find out if you care enough to stop her and if you do, you will help HER get help. All the best!
2007-08-17 21:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell her parents or guardians. She may or may not be serious, but you are not qualified to make that call. The old saying " better safe than sorry" is an old saying for a reason. Whatever her true intentions are, a professional can help her, not you. It is too much to ask of you. Hope this helps!!!
2007-08-17 21:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by sigfussonp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that as much as you would like to help her, you don't have the knowledge to do it. Tell her she knows she needs to talk to a professional amd see if you can go with her to the school counselor, if you are still in school, to arrange for a professional to see her. Then the counselor may contact her parents, if that's the procedure. Take her seriously.
2007-08-17 21:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never know if she is trying to get attention or if she is really thinking about it. If you can't convince her to seek professional help then it is your duty as a friend to tell her parents or caretakers. Better safe than sorry.
2007-08-17 21:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by SWATgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY 1800 SUICIDE
2007-08-17 22:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her be. Dont do anything... you might make thngs worse. she may be seeking attention.
2007-08-17 21:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋