2007-08-17 20:07:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Roll playing is fine and normal, as long as both people are comfortable with it.
2007-08-17 20:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by e13333 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Some people (both men *and* women) have fantasies about having sex with a stranger. Having power over another is a valid fantasy. So, even though it is "rape," in reality, there is no similarity to the criminal, forced intercourse act that is so reprehensible.
If you agreee to this fantasy of his, make sure that you have a safe word to tell him to stop, if it gets out of hand (as Sal*UK mentioned). Also, you want to pay attention to his feelings (and how he expresses them) regarding this fantasy. Does he talk about it incessantly? Has this been part of a gradual escalation in increasingly risqué sexual practices? Has he ever been violent before / how long have you known him?
The answers to these questions should provide a broader context, as to whether he is just into exploring a fantasy (which is somewhat out-there socially), vs. has unhealthy fixations on violence towards women. This is a judgement call you must make, but if the tendency is more towards the latter, then he should seek professional counseling immediately.
2007-08-18 03:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Marc M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not that weird. Its one of those fetishes that some people have.Let me be frank. It can be sadomasochism, where one partner likes to be torture, while the other likes to be agressive. If it is not that, its a Dominance Submissive thing where your guy likes to be in control and have all the power, while you whimper and be submissive.
hey, i am just being frank. it is true people have weird or normal fetishes, it depends on your own defintition not others.
2007-08-18 03:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what's his motive behind wanting you to pretend he's raping you lehh. ):
I just wish you to be careful. He may be up to no good.
Even if he wants to do it with you, why would he want you to feel it like he's raping you? Doesnt make sense..
2007-08-18 03:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by preciouslittlestars 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow... does he have some control issues. (Rape is ALL about power and control.) If it makes you uncomfortable, don't go along with it. Let him know that you are not okay with that. If he doesn't understand, then you probably shouldn't date him anymore... Sorry.
2007-08-18 03:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kicks like a girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Role play is great in a secure relationship - but if you're willing to play this game, you must agree a word that means stop beforehand.
I'd have to question him a little more first though - depends on how far he actually wants to take this fantasy.
2007-08-18 03:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sal*UK 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
hes a weirdo, maybe he wishes he could rape. usually when a guy wants to pretend he really wants to do it. i would get a new man.
2007-08-18 03:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Drop this loser as quick as you can. He is just a six-pack away from switching from a "harmless" rape fantasy over to the real thing. Run....don't walk away.
2007-08-18 03:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by rthumphreys 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
This is not normal! He has something wrong upstairs. Be very cautious and consider backing out and away from him.
2007-08-18 03:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
there have been cases of serial killers/rapists who force thier girlfriends to "submitt" to them in bed. maybe it's time to look for a new man.
2007-08-18 03:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by celticriver74 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋