Why Why do you worry so much about what other couples or same sex couples do in their bedroom??

Question

and how come you never ever get over it?
People have all the rights to be who they are and you have
a right to be who you are or do you?

Answer 1

Jessica, prejudice comes in many shapes and forms, the worst of which is misdirected vitriol stemming from religious interpretation. I agree 100% with you about peoples rights. Homosexuality is not a choice, it's not something you go into Wal Mart for and think I'll have some of that. There are quite alot (not all) allegedly religious folk who dismiss homosexuality as a sin solely and utterly beacuse their version of faith has interpreted their version of a book that has no foundation says so. I was a soldier for half my life, gay and lesbian people were persecuted, encarcerated, and then dismissed if they were open about their sexuality. Personally, I have never been attacked for being straight so I can't relate to how gay people feel about this archaeic mental and physical abuse.
My opinion for what it's worth, is, men in particular who are homophobic, are often just putting up a front because they have gay feelings which they are having trouble oppressing.
I say tolerance for all, if you're not gay, mind your own business, all humans of any creed, sexuality, colour or shape have the same right to be here, do waht the hell they want and live their lives.
Peace.

Answer 2

Because we care about people and while they are free to do as they choose it would be wrong and uncaring not to warn them as diplomatically as possible that adultery and sodomy are serious transgressions of God's law and the ultimate penalty could be very serious indeed.

Would it also be wrong to tell a burglar that theft is wrong or to remind a tax evader that cheating on your taxes is wrong and there are going to be consequences when the law catches up with him?

After that it is up to them, no one has restrained them from doing what they wanted to do, or taken away any of their rights, but now they can't claim they didn't know and weren't given a chance to do the right thing.

It's not us who are judging them, it's the law (both man's law and God's moral laws) that are judging them.

People might be born with an inclination towards theft, violence, mass murder, promiscuity or attraction towards the same sex, but how could you prove they were born that way - there's no known homosexual gene or serial killer gene.

Even if there was, they can still chose to act on those impulses or they can chose to resist them. Resisting immoral impulses is the difference between civilised behaviour and savage animals.

If it were otherwise then it would not be moral to prosecute anyone for any breach of the law because it's not their fault they were born that way.

Answer 3

I personally don't worry so much about what other people do in their bedroom. But you need to understand that same-sex couples do not live in a vacuum, but their actions affect everybody around them.

I am against gay marriage - I think that this country is already giving gays a whole lot more slack than they deserve. Now gays want to change the definition of marriage, a definition that has been essentially unchanged for millenia, and fight against an institution that all the major monotheistic religions recognize as being the basic social unit of a society.

Another thing I want to mention is this: individual freedom is not some unrestricted thing. But you're suggesting that it is when you say "people have all the rights to be who they are" - so you mean if John decided that incest was what he naturally wanted to do then we should all agree with it too? As a society we need to work for the greater good, and this requires that some rules and limits be put into place. This is why religion is so important in serving this function.

By the way, AKA D2: You obviously like to twist words around don't you. What Kitty means is that we are not supposed to judge people's morality explicitly. God ultimately judges all of us, and none of us has the right to judge somebody elses position in God's eyes.

Look at you with your "have fun" bit - oh, so is that fun when people get AIDS and die a slow and horrible death? Is it fun when people get rectal failure? How about divorce and rampant promiscuity? Is that fun - all those STDs?

People usually don't know what's best for them.

Answer 4

I think it all boils down to envy. Sex is possibly our biggest drive, so people who feel unfulfilled sexually tend to get really envious towards those people who seem to have satisfying sex lives.

Another issue is that the Ruling Class has always meddled in people's sex lives. They want the little people to only have procreational sex in the missionary position because it guarantees an endless supply of cheap labor and cannon fodder. Thus the prohibitions against gay sex, birth control, and any other kink that doesn't result in another foot soldier for God.

What helps the Ruling Class to control people's sex lives is that there's a huge army of sexually-frustrated puritans who get a perverse joy out of peeking in on their neighbors. The puritans always give some sort of religious justification for trampling on the rights of others, but it's pretty damned obvious they're just jealous that other people are getting laid more than they are...

Answer 5

What someone does in their bedroom is their own business. As a Christian, I don't have to say it's okay, just because it's the politically correct thing to do. My rights to my opinions and beliefs are just as valid as someone else's rights to the same. Still, it is not for ME to worry about someone's bedroom activities. The thought of ANYONE doing ANYTHING in their bedroom with someone else, no matter WHAT the gender, is a little bit too much TMI for me. The only sex life I really want to be worried about is mine, and the only One who can judge what any of us do in the bedroom is God.

Answer 6

People have rights and I don't worry at all about them.
However, my beliefs have been established by understanding, and that will not change.
If someone asks me what will happen if they run their engine with a low oil level condition, I will tell them. They may not like to hear the result, but that is not my problem, and it certainly will not get best answer on R&S, but I suspect if Jesus answered a question on R&S, He would not get best answer either. Human thought never did (nor will) embrace the truth.

Answer 7

I agree with you. I am not gay nor do I really know any gays and I say let them be. If they want to get married, go ahead. If they want kids, let them have them. Kids in foster care, seems to me, need a family. If they can raise them safely and in good homes, why not. This whole issue is really a religious one. If religion didn't play some role in our government, they would already be treated as equals. Remember, Hitler persecuted these people just as much as the Jews. Lets learn from history and not repeat it.

Answer 8

i don't worry about it at all, why do you?

it's a funny question because if i didn't like it, wouldn't i have that right to be who i am? a person that didn't like it?

how the heck would i know what you do in your bedroom anyway? do you know what i do? gee, i hope not. that's private.

your question seems hypocritical. i think a person that isn't 'getting over it' is just being who they are. get over it.

Answer 9

If you think that what you do doesn't affect those around you, you have a very poor opinion of yourself, and a inaccurate view of life. What people do, good or bad, affects those around them. Look at all the answers you got from people who are verbally poking their heads in the sand. They don't want to judge anyone for fear of themselves being judged, and in this they are wise. But in the same way, we are all going to be held accountable for everything that we do. If we instill good habits into our lives, then good occurs not only for us, but for those around us. When we dabble in what we know to be evil, (or at least, against the rules), it affects not only our own soul, but also the souls around us.

Also, a good advice to understand and contemplate upon is history repeating itself? One of the warning signs that an empire is about to fall is the condition of public morals of that society.

Answer 10

I don't have a problem with what a person does in the privacy of their bedroom. But please keep it private instead of pushing it in front of others and saying that they must accept it or be considered hateful.

I especially have a problem with anyone who feels the need to "out" someone. Should a person's privacy not be respected?