ok its not cuz im a slut. not cuz im a hater. i do actually like the people i sleep with. i only sleep with one person exclusively. so why does this happen to me? before i have sex, i like the person. the passion is there. the sex is good. i like the person during sex. i let him do what he wants for the most part. but after sex...i become seriously bitchy and mean and...just weird. i wont let the guy cuddle with me. i wont let him carress me. no touching. keep your hands off. i just want him to leave me alone. but i wont let him LEAVE ME ALONE. if he tries to sleep, i mess with him. pull his toes, tickle his feet, pull his lips, plug his nose...anything to bother him. so i dont want to spend time with him...but at the same time i want him to be annoyed!!!is there something going on with me that i dont know about? its like i seriously hate the guy but only after sex!
2007-08-17 19:05:17 · 17 answers · asked by Love Child 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I may venture an opinion: it sounds as if you've got intimacy issues. I think you're afraid of people truly seeing who you are. Sex is the most connective event on earth. Afterward, you may become afraid that you've shown your partner too much of yourself. Perhaps you push him away as a result.
Do not listen to this intolerant dumbsh*t 'B' who posted the first answer to this question. Sex does not mess with your head. Sex is why we are on earth, it is one of the true pleasures of life, and the human body is tooled to have sex early in life. I don't know what this hack's deal is, but he's wrong as wrong can be.
Also, please ignore the idiots who are stereotyping/generalizing/profiling men and women. PEOPLE are different on a person-by-person basis; they are not different by sex.
2007-08-17 19:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're comfortable with having sex, but not being truly intimate. Insecurity and trust issues obviously. I'm guessing you never had a strong father/daughter relationship when growing up? If so, I'm sorry.
The good news is that you can take steps to deal with this.
1) Decide when you are ready and want to have a serious relationship with a guy.
2) Then, wait at least a month or two before having anykind of sex with someone you are dating seriously. Don't have sex unless you really like the person regardless of any sexual chemistry. If they leave during this period, fine...wasn't meant to be.
3) Be upfront and honest with the guy about how cold you might be after sex. Tell him not to take it personally and that you are working on understanding why you react that way.
2007-08-17 19:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ian D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe the ignorance of the people who said there is nothing unusual about this. The fact that you won't let the guy touch you and won't let him sleep is angry behavior. You don't feel angry towards him until after you have sex.
You have to figure out what is making you so angry afterwards. The fact that you get angry after sex with every guy indicates it has nothing to do with the individual guy.
This problem you have is not just a quirk that can be ignored because it indicates some serious internal conflict about men or about sex. If you can't figure it out by yourself it would be helpful to talk to a therapist.
I hope this helps. My best wishes in your future life.
2007-08-17 19:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you exactly what it is, it is Hormones. When a person has sex certain chemicals get released in the brain. Sometimes too many or too little chemicals get released, thus causing the dramatic mood swing.
For example, sometimes just after I orgasm, and I mean right after, I start cracking up laughing. Sometimes I laugh to the point that it hurts. In my case, too many chemicals were released causing the stated reaction.
Question...does the sex satisfy you???
2007-08-17 19:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by mike c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL, it sounds like you're a guy.... I'm the same way, but i hide it better; after i bust a nut on/in the girl i feel like i want nothing to do with the girl, but before and during it is like you said: passion. I suppose that means both of us are crazy or we're both normal? I think normal.
~John
2007-08-17 19:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jonh Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might be bi-polar and not able to control your emotions. This could be released tho after you have sex because of the build up of sexual tension and sexual release. When your bipolar you often have huge mood swings if one mood is expressed very powerfully. So because your horny and have sex your hella into being touched and everything but when the deed is done the hormones/chemicals in your body that makes horny is gone so your bipolar disorder kicks in and tips the scale to the oppisit side making you become "catty" and not wanting to be touched.
2007-08-17 19:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Stars_mccloud 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like sexual frustration. Even if you are being physically satisfied it is possible that you are not emotionally satisfied. Maybe you should research your own true desires. Maybe you are having sex too soon, with out the actual connection you need to be giving yourself to someone.
2007-08-17 19:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something happened to you that you contribute those feeling afterwards towards him. I like to mess with my husband but I am not mean to him. Maybe you have a hormone imbalance? Good luck
2007-08-17 19:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by tabbikat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wronf with you. it happens, and depends alot on how the sex was. some women dont want to be touched after a big o, but others want to cuddle lots. depends on the person really.
2007-08-17 19:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by msharleylover68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up! Honestly,you need to stop having sex until you know you'll like that person when it's over. Maybe you should redeem yourself by not having pre-marital sex for awhile.
2007-08-17 19:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋