Someone asked a question last week if people RSVP and an overwhelming amount said "If it's an adults party, no." If you went to a party that the host was only expecting 20 people and 40 showed up how upset would you be if there was no food left or chairs to go around? Especially if you were one that did RSVP.
2007-08-17 17:52:22 · 5 answers · asked by Gregory G 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If one does not RSVP, one should expect to not only not be fed if they show up anyway, but also be prepared to be turned away at the door as they were inconsiderate and rude to not respond to the invitation. Not to mention the fact that they showed up anyway. They should also expect to not receive further invitations.
By the way, adding the "if it's an adults party, no" qualifier is amazingly rude.
2007-08-17 18:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Apollonia23 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I throw parties I usually put on my invites "RSVP required by a certain date". Some people may find this annoying or rude, but I always throw really expensive parties were I have to pay per person. I usually cater from a restaurant or have it at a restaurant. For an example at my daughter's baptism I had the reception at a local steak house and had to pay per head as well as pay $5.75 per slice of cake (had a special 2 tier cake ordered). I cannot stand when people don't respect the RSVP. When I receive an invite especially if they are paying per person I call or mail the response back within a day of two so they could put me on the list. It's nice to get a head count. Even if your not paying per head, the party coordinator Will have some idea on how much food and drinks to have. You don't want to not have enough, but on the other hand, you don't want to cook for an army when only 10 people show....
I also have a few people in my family that never RSVP's and we have to call because they always say they forgot to call or they lost the invite. Which is annoying, when I pay for personalized invites and send them out like 3 weeks ahead.....
I hate the e-vite thing, not everyone checks their e-mail everyday or even has an e-mail account. One time I got a text on my phone which was my invitation to a birthday party....GHETTO!!
2007-08-18 02:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's rude to not rsvp when it's requested. some people have parties, etc on a budget. you gotta respect that. i think it's also rude to rsvp at the last minute.
i have a cousin who waits for the last minute and then when she was called to verify if she would attend, she had a smart a#$ answer. But when she throws something, we get like 10 evites before the event. sorry, just had to share that, cause that's annoying too!!
2007-08-18 01:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by yadal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is good manners to RSVP whether you will accept or decline an invitation...I also would say failure to respond to an invitation would most likely mean you are no longer invited.
2007-08-18 01:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Toddacanda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I don't RSVP then I don't go. FOR the fools who just show up that really pisses me off.
2007-08-18 01:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋