How come gays are more open about their sexual feelings towards men, than straight women are towards men?

Answer 1

Probably for the same reason men in general are more open about sexual feelings than women.

It's a purely social stigma that women for the most part impose on themselves and other women.


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Answer 2

Really? You think so?
Well, to start off with, it is assumed when you meet a person that they are attracted to the opposite sex, so gay people need to be a little more vocal so that other gay people know that is not the case for them.
It's been my experience that women these days practically throw themselves on the men that they are interested in. Are you talking about how they feel about sex or their sexual urges? Women want to be treated like they are respected. That they are loved and that their man truly cares about them. That is intimacy for them. Sex is the culmination of the loving and emotional feelings that the woman has for the man. It's not just sex, so it's almost ridiculous to ask why they aren't more open. It should be obvious. And it's not just physical acts that they desire.

Answer 3

A group of the closeted gay men who do not practice gay sex tend to act very anti gay to try to balance out any 'giveaways' that they might be a homosexual by orientation. Unfortunately most of them put more pressure on themselves by mixing with other anti gay people who share their 'fake' beleifs. For gay men who have come out the closet to everyone and practice gay sex: then I would say no. Most of them tend to act very much how they like when they are in a gay bar. There is no stigma attached to being macho in a gay bar and a few gay men are like that, but many I think are just not terribly good at it hehe. When gay people are walk down a street and pass a gang of 8 hoodies they might put on a bit of a macho front so they do not look like targets, and they will not tell them they are gay. However straight men do exactly the same and it is just called being street wise. However some gay men probably have to put on more of an act than most for their survival in a society where not all groups of people tolerate homosexuality brilliantly well. On the whole I would say that OPENLY gay men tend to be more open and feel less pressure to behave in a certain way because they have already surpassed certain barriers by opting out of being like the conventional norm. However some straight people could be just as self assured and individual and alternative, but because they have no feelings for the same sex some of them might show it by being different/unique in other ways. However you do find small groups within gay communities like cliques and regulars of the same gay bar, who know one another and gossip a lot about each other and critisise fashion and things like that. Personally I do not care much for those types of people.

Answer 4

That's a heck of a generality to lead with, and how do you know?

But to the point: We still live in a culture where men are expected to be the aggressors in any relationship, where openness in sexual expression in women is generally regarded with suspicion or unease in men. Too darn bad, but there it is.

And, by the way, did you ever have the feeling that if men knew what women really think of them, they'd have no confidence, sexually or otherwise, whatsover?

Answer 5

Are they really, though?

I would like to examine this matter, because I have seen both very conflicted, secretive gays, and very open and bold straight women. I don't think your assumption should be so quickly held. Are gay men really more open about their sexual feelings toward men than say, straight women toward men, or even straight men toward women? Is this true in every society?

Answer 6

I wonder the same thing myself. There is an area near the coast where I live and there is a system of trails winding through the bushes. Nothing but gay men there looking to hook up with somebody, and doing it in the bushes. Pretty gross, but it got me wondering, you don't see a lot of women hanging around by some bushes waiting for a guy to come along. I guess it's a guy thing. They are just hornier, whether straight or gay.

Answer 7

Well, I'm going to guess that maybe it has something to do with the notion that society has given unto men greater permission to be open about sexuality than what it has given to women. Translated, most men do not have to worry about being seen as "too forward."

Answer 8

Because women are sometimes called wh0res or slvts, unchaste or unclean, when we try to be open about our sexual feelings.

Also, women are raised to be sexually pleasing to men and derive our sexual pleasure from being objects of men's desire. Not the subjects of desire as men are taught to be.

It is a double edged sword for a woman. If she is not sexy enough then she doesn't exist, if she is too sexy she is a wh0re.

Answer 9

It's not ALWAYS the case, but for some, the reason is probably that men understand other men. Most of problems straight couples, or potential couples, have is that one is always complaining that he/she can't understand the other, ie, "I don't understand girls" or "Men are pigs!" Men are more likely to understand other men and are therefore more likely to be comfortable about sharing their feelings.

Answer 10

Society says we're not allowed to. Most woman are honest, privately with their man. Some women find it hard and intimidating to speak frankly in privately.

Start the conversation. Keep an open mind.

Good luck!