There's a guy at my school who really fascinates me, the way he talks, acts, looks of course too, and it's developed into this crush.
But I don't want it. Although he's very intense and interesting, he goes on and off intensities of friendliness, sometimes really distant. He also knows I like him, but didn't reject or accept my feelings because he "doesn't want to ruin another friendship", but he still flirts with me a lot-later countered by the distancing again. One thing that bugs me is how insensitive he can be, but then other times he'll say something that's really really kind and it just draws me back.
I get so frustrated sometimes when I'm around him, but I'd really like to know him just personally, instead of that added to wanting to just...jump him, or whatever. It's really affecting my mood and attention focus, so
How do I stop this stupid crushing?!
Thank you.
2007-08-17 17:36:13 · 15 answers · asked by primapeache 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the answer is in your question, to begin with.
It's a crush and you know it.
The fact that he's sending you very mixed signals should tip you off that he's unsure himself about what kind of relationship he has in mind. Typical of nearly everyone at school/crush/friendship age. Lots of conflict between wanting to jump on or whatever, just because you can, or could, and establishing real friendship that could lead somewhere very good.
Enjoy the benefits of friendship, daydream about the whatever, if you want to, and work to be a friend first and foremost. Give it time to untangle itself. Life isn't just a schoolterm long, and nothing needs to be settled or decided immediately. Really.
2007-08-17 17:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural feeling.. u cannot just make it stop even if you want it to.. feelings like that come and go, enjoy the moment go with the tide.. be friendly towards him and savor the feeling.. when u get older it would get more complicated, enjoy that part of being young and let nature take its own course. Just don't do anything stupid.. its ok to get crazy and all as long as you are not neglecting other more important things in your life like your studies, family and friends. Good luck.
2007-08-17 17:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by geeg70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
crushes happen into ripe old age, depression in grade 4, that sounds like puberty, not depression, it will pass. not finding interest in others over the course of a year may be a function of being surrounded by people that don't interest you. i wouldn't loose sleep over not having crushes on people. claiming depression should be setting off alarms, obviously if you identify it as a potential issue, you should get it addressed, not be online asking less then important side bar questions.
2016-04-02 03:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem! Well I am still getting over him but its going very well. Find someone else that is interested in you and even if its not serious you will totally forget about the other guy!
2007-08-17 17:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by lilygirl110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a crush is just what it is. a crush comes and go. i would be worried about who you are liking as a boyfriend he seems to be emotionally abusive. i have had tons of crushes but the best thing for me was to view them without being their girlfriend. i found out a lot my crushes were jerks and not boyfriend material. also a lot of mine were just for eye candy to get through the day.
2007-08-17 17:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by tasha m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're well on the road to being over your crush. Just keep thinking about all of the qualities he has that you dislike, and remind yourself that you don't want to be with someone like him.
2007-08-17 17:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can kill him....
no really,
u gotta eliminate him from ur life as much a possible... i've been hurt in relationships lots of times because i couldnt let go... you have to stop thinking about him and avoid him if possible
2007-08-17 17:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not possible. ive had a crush for a year now. and i cant ******* see straight because all i think about is that. so if you have a crush then your screwed. im sorry to be the one to break that **** to you.
2007-08-17 17:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mind is a strong thing you can make yourself sick try making your mind stop thinking about him or get him out of your mind i tryed it worked on me but people are different
hopes it helps
:)
2007-08-17 17:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself from him and find a new interest.
2007-08-17 17:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋