Why am I unattractive to women, 18 and never had a girlfriend?

Question

I am 18 almost 19 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had my first kiss, never been on a date, and barely had any girls that were friends. I am 5'9" and really athletic and built ( ran about 10 miles yesterday so pretty good shape). I am a nice, kind, caring guy. I am pretty good looking, but only been told that by girls who have seen my pic online (msn,myspace,etc), never has a girl in real life told me I look good. I am smart going to college this fall and always had pretty good grades. I love all sports and can have fun doing just about anything, like to party but not go crazy. I dont want to be one of those guys who thinks hes a player, just want one good girl that will like me for me and want a relationship, haha but none do like me for me. So what is so wrong with me that girls dont find me attractive at all. The only thing I can think of is that I am really shy, but for no girls to ever be interested cuz I am shy thats weird. Please help what is wrong that girls dont like m

I never went to prom

I never went to prom

Answer 1

When you meet a girl, any girl, whether you like her "like that" or not, start talking and making friends. See what she likes to do, and ask if she wants to do it sometime. She'll probably say yes, so then make plans.

Answer 2

Maybe you haven't let them know you. Girls are not usually all about looks. Girls tend to like guys for who they are. If you don't put yourself out there how can they know who you are? Get involved somewhere and start talking to some girls. Do you have guy friends? Usually a guy, your age can find a girl through mutual friends. Hang out in groups. Church functions are a good place to get to know people. Study groups in college is another place. YOu say you go to parties. TALK TO SOME GIRLS THERE! Even shy people talk sometime. By the way, just because you feel shy, does not mean you have to stay that way. Force yourself to say something to someone. The more you do this the less shy you will be.

Answer 3

The reason you never had a girlfriend is because you ARE shy. I'm sure girls have found you attractive, but it is still the man's job to ask HER out. Girls don't normally approach guys, so YOU have to do the approaching. "The only thing I can think of is that I am really shy,...". Come on, THAT'S YOUR PROBLEM. And it's a big problem. If you're a smart guy, you can figure out how to overcome that.

Answer 4

There probably have been a few that were interested, but you didnt see the signs.

I was the same at school. Dont be frightened of being involved with girls, but looking for the one is just as bad for guys as it is for girls, you need to get to know a few in order to know what you like and dont like in a girl, dont take it too seriously, have friendships, take interests in girls, be relaxed around them, and find out about them, spend time with them, find something you can do together

you wont find the one by looking for the one....because whoever you decide is the one will take on too much importance and you will get too nervous, basically be friends with all the girls, and spend more time with the ones you fancy, and see what happens ;-)

you dont need to ask a girl if they like you, or to ask them on a date, or whether they will be your girfriend....just be relaxed, and happy, and smile, and chat to them

if they are interested they will chat to you, just try not to be nervous, and try and think of some things to say beforehand, but dont appear to be reading from a script

find reasons to spend time with someone, get to know them, and take it from there....

good luck!

Answer 5

It could the community you're in or the girls you like are just jerks. I am kind of like you. Whenever I meet a girl I like they are unavailable for some stupid reason. Its really annoying, I know.

Maybe you are coming off too strong, too soon for the girls. If they get the idea you want to jump in a relationship with them they will run. I know from experience.

One helpful things I have learned from a counselor I used to see is that thinking leads to feeling leads to acting. If you think about relationships with a girl, the girl will probably sense that if you are not careful.

Personally, I am mad at girls right now. They need to get over themselves lol. Anyway, take care.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with you, you'll meet the right person someday.......I just turned 19 and I've never had a boyfriend or been on a date either. So, I know what your going through, but like I said just keep hope alive.

Answer 7

I sound a lot like you dude. Except Im 17 and funny. I used to be really funny, now im just regular funny. I used to blame this problem on girls not relating me with sex, so I turned the comical side of me down, but the result is the same. (for info Im not like that annoying guy who says jokes at the wrong time and who thinks hes funny but isnt, Im genuinely funny and make girls laugh easy). I guess guys like us are just not meant to get as much *** as toilet seats are. Sucks though. Hey what did you do for prom, cause i have a lot of friends who find it hard to believe that I dont 'get around' with the ladies, so not going to prom is like a really worrying issue for me idk what to do.

Answer 8

mm, thats's weird. Maybe youre photogentic. Well, maybe its that youre shy! Try talking to girls more. Like just about anything. Say hi, or being funny also gets attention, or talk about the weather haha.

Answer 9

i don't think there is anything wrong

maybe you haven't taken the initiative to ask someone out? perhaps do that -- ask out some girls. more than one... have fun while you are young.

i'm sure that you will meet a lot of interesting people in college. and expand your horizons.

i wish you all the best!! take care.

Answer 10

honestly shy guys remain good guy friends not boyfriends you gotta get more gutsy if you show some confidence i'm sure you'll be able to find a girlfriend.