There is this sexy, quiet, and cool guy at my school. He's really popular with the girls and a lot of guys at my school are nice to him or hate him. He's a professional model, has a nice car, and comes from a lot of money. His mom used to model and is now a trophy wife while his dad is a business man. I fell in love with him the first time that I saw him which was 3 years ago. I've seen many good looking guys but this guy is truly beautiful. Yesterday he actually came up to me and asked for one of my ribbons that held up my pigtails. I gave it to him and he wrapped it around his wrist, bent over to my ear, and whispered " I'd like to have sex with you." OMG what am I supposed to do? I'm a good girl which also means I'm still a virgin. My parents are really strict I'm not allowed to date until I'm 18 and I'm 17. Every girl at my school wants to be with him so why did he pick me a shy, quiet, good girl? I'm not ugly or anything it's just that I'm so innocent. Should I let him be my 1st?
2007-08-17 17:13:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
please don't let this guy be your first.
any person who would walk up to you and say that to you has no respect for you. he just wants to have sex with someone. chances are, he wouldn't see it as an important thing like you do.
sweetie, i can honestly tell you that i wish i had waited until i was married. sex is such a wonderful thing - but only when you are totally loved and totally love your partner. don't settle for sex without being cherished.
no - i'm not a Christian - but i do believe that sex is one of the most sacred things we share with another person. don't let some hot guy who acts like this to treat you like the flavor of the week.
also, talk with your mom about this - i bet your mom is pretty much in love with you and will be the best person you can talk to about your love life. you are the most precious thing in her life - trust her to help you do what it right for you.
bright blessings.
2007-08-17 17:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by yarn whore 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
idk. don't do anything foolish, that's for sure.
Those rebels are hard to resist.
Desire is fleeting
Love is deep.
But how can you tell which is which?
You may end up being hurt. He may have found you an easy target. Some guys like that tend to get what they want and treat you like a toy. You may have to make decisions that you are not prepared for.
I am probably the last person to give advice, but seeing as this is the R&S section, if I were you, I'd pray on it for a few days before making such a deep commitment.
2007-08-17 17:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with him. You will thank me in 5 years when he turns out the be a huge loser and you do not have a child that you are raising on your own. His comment showed that he had no respect for you, why would you even like someone like that? Have enough self-respect to say no- you'll thank me later. Your first time should be special, and he is not special.
2007-08-17 17:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pangloss (Ancora Imparo) AFA 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Please don't fall in for him. Dating is a must and to be religious you must be married before you can go into this. Stay true to yourself and stay as that good, innocent girl becuase if you do fall for this you will lose that identity that was your's for so long. He could have chose you because of your innocence and so don't let him take advantage of you like this. View this as temptation and stay strong to yourself.
2007-08-17 17:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Animal Girl 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well this can only be concluded with a song!
You should listen to Last Emperor - Do you remember
Listen to the lyrics and how he flows with it, and then think to yoself is this good, should i do it?
Do u realy want to do it?
Or u dunno?
Listen to the song!
2007-08-18 18:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better to get HIV than to realize you are an immature teen ager with a shallow view of life and a brain that will not fully develope for years to come . need I say more . think about it!
2007-08-17 17:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he knows you are naive about such things and wants to take advantage of you. Don't let him use you like that, it seems to me that you would be just another notch on his bed post.
2007-08-17 17:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your screen name is Amy O. but your avatar looks male. And this little story sounds made up to me. Sorry, but I can't advise you....because I don't believe you!----peace.
2007-08-17 17:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Native Spirit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say do it, then when it's all over, get up, shrug your shoulders, and say, "eh, I've had better," and walk out.
2007-08-17 17:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO!!!!!
That's just wrong! He's taking advantage of you!!!
2007-08-17 17:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Otaku in Need 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋