I don't mean idiot in the scientific way, but just someone so "slow" that they can't stand up for themselves, let others walk all over them, and generally are in need of help.
I hear such stupid questions here by people who are apparently unable to deal with the most outrageous things done to them, but still only want to be "nice" and not offend anyone.
2007-08-17 16:42:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Please note, I didn't use the word RUDE, and feel that just telling the truth may not be nice, but isn't necessarily rude either.
2007-08-17 17:03:01 · update #1
i think that everyone should make an effort to deal with conflict in a cordial way, but, there is a limit to what you should take and if polite requests are not getting the job done then perhaps it is time to do a little offending.
I am a firm believer in saying exactly what you mean and meaning what you say.
I dont think that being a doormat makes you an stupid, it just means that you are going to be taken advantage of most of your life.
2007-08-17 16:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stand up for yourself without being rude. I don't feel like I'm a victim in any sense of the word, but I always try to be nice to people. Granted, I'm not always successful, but I try.
I also try and see conflict from the other perspective; if someone is rude to me for no apparent reason, I assume they have some issues in their life. I don't want to add to their problems by being rude back.
On the other hand, I have no problem fighting for my rights or defending myself or my family and friends. I can think of very few circumstances where there's been a need to be rude, even in those kinds of situations.
Being strong and being rude are two different things.
~Kyanna
2007-08-17 16:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being nice doesn't mean that you have to give up your rights. The key here is to be assertive and express your thoughts and feelings while protecting your rights and the rights of others.
While it is ok to get angry sometimes it is still important to be respectful even when others won't be respectful back to you.
2007-08-17 16:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by the redcuber 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself in your response to others and trust your judgement regarding what is the "approipriate" response is and you'll be fine. When in doubt - At the end of the day you will catch more flies with honey. that said - but no one likes a doormat so respecting yourself is key!
2007-08-17 16:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by theresajl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when your have conflicting emotions going on, its sometimes hard to see as clearly as an outsider (such as us). ppl might also be nice just to keep relationships and out of fear of losing relationships, or could be partially brainwashed. those aren't really stupid questions.
2007-08-17 16:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Branshaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep and Nope. You should be nice all the time but being a weak person isn't being nice at all!
2007-08-17 17:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Palestini Detective 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much that as being unrealistic. The world is not always a "nice" place.
2007-08-17 16:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, some people need to learn that it is ok to go off on somone once and while.
2007-08-17 16:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by Morganna 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋