How can I talk to my parents about having sex?

Question

Well Im 17 senior in highschool. My boyfriend is 19 second year of college. And my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years now And I love him more then anything. Weve been thinking about having sex for the past year and we feel that were ready. but i want to make things clear with my mom at least. Id feel much better if she new. How would I go about talking to her about it? what do I say? What do i do?

uhh we waited 4 and a half years.
So NO.

Its leagle in canada.

Answer 1

It's very difficult to talk to parents about having sex, particularly initiating, even if they try being open-minded. Most parents i know of , would rather avoid or "pretend they don't realize" the situation till it becomes more than obvious and must accept it
This may or may not be the case with your mother. I suggest you put yourself in her place, think how she would respond or react and work it out from there

Answer 2

I appreciate your maturity and your desire to talk to you parents, or at least your Mom, about having sex.

I think the best approach is just to be straightforward. Tell her, "Mom, I love you and value your opinions. I am considering having sex with my boyfriend, and I would like to know how you feel about it."

Some other things you should consider are birth control and STD's. If either you or your boyfriend has been sexually active in the past, you should get tested. This is to protect both of you. Additionally, make sure you visit a doctor (or Planned Parenthood) and get on birth control. Most birth control methods don't protect against STD's, so use condoms also if you decide to have sex.

Answer 3

Ask your mom if just you and her can spend the day together. Go to the mall, get something to eat as long as the two of you can talk privately. Look her in the face and say mom I have something I want to talk to you about. I don't want you to get mad but I know you will, so I am saying to you now stay calm, let me talk for a few minutes without you interrupting me I have something important to talk to you about. And then take a deep breath and let it out. Explain to her the situation and then she will have a lot to say. Just listen I promise some of it will be worth hearing. She will be proud of you for talking to her first and she will respect you for it. Also, plan on going to the doctor and getting birth control and condoms. Always use protection because your senior yr of high school is the best and you don't want to miss it because you are going to have a baby. Sex is enjoyable but can be scary too. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Sex is not a easy topic, especially, moms with
daughters. Moms look for the best in their
daughters. Finishing high school and going
to college. Finding a good secure job and
starting a family. Not planning carefully, can
sometimes alter your plans. Focus on your
education. Explain to your boyfriend that you are
not really to commit to a sexual relationship.

Answer 5

Don't tell her right in her face "I plan on having sex with ____". Say something that will suggest that you and your boyfriend are having thoughts about having sex. Say something like "Mom, I was thinking that maybe I should start going on birth control pills." I'm sure she'll take that as a hint, and then you can open up more after that if she asks anything else. Good luck!

Answer 6

If your Mom is cool and laidback, then u might want to let her know that you and your bf plan on doing it,, but if she isn't that might be a problem ? and your Dad too. here's my advice to u, I would wait until you graduate.... then if you and your bf are still together then make your decision ? because the reason why I say this, is that you never know what's going 2 happen by the time school is over ? and plus u and your boyfriend don't need to be parents before u both get married anyway right ?

Answer 7

Well you'll have to tell her sooner or later.
Sooner is usually better.
She should respect your opinion because you feel a certain way. And 4 1/2 years is defininetly a long enough time to be thinking about sex with your dearly beloved.

Answer 8

I'm impressed. Way to go.
First, don't kid yourself. Your mom already has her suspicions, lol. She'll be flattered when you do talk to her.
You are a senior in high school. Take a deep breath, ask your mom if she has a minute (or 20, lol), and lay it out for her.
Include the sentimentality that you're looking for advice (or guidance) so that the initial shock will wear off easily.
Parents love to be in the position of helping their children any way they can.....and if they don't say it, I'm proud of you, lol.

Answer 9

You may have gotten this alot but you both have to be ready to have sex. Letting your mom know you guys are haveing sex is really smart make sure she allows it. You dont want to let your mom know at the last moment when your pregnant and anger her.

Answer 10

Boy, this is a tough question!!! I have friends whose daughter was going off to college and was in a stable relationship with her boyfriend. They actually took her to their family doctor and got BC prescribed for her and they talked about STD prevention as well. I don't know how open your relationship with your mom is, but you might try that tack. Good luck to you.
And, this is *my* advice as a mom....really, think SERIOUSLY about sexually transmitted diseases. As a parent, I can live with an unplanned child, but I don't think I could ever forgive myself for not talking to my kids (and I did this) about STD prevention...NO ONE should have to die because of a natural act (and yes, sex IS natrual).
Hope this helps. Good luck to you.