I don't like my new pure breed kitten, what to do?

Question

I have 2 cats, the newest is a purebreed kitten which I paid a lot of money for. I've had him for a couple months now and I just don't like him. My other cat despises him and I think that is influencing my feelings toward the new one because I hardly see her anymore and I love her dearly. I've followed all the rules on introducing kittens to existing cats that are available on the internet but she still wants nothing to do with him.

I've owned cats for many years and have loved them to death. I've fostered litters of kittens and found homes for them. I'm a volunteer at a local shelter. I'm really not a bad person but I feel awful about the way I feel about this cat. And I think it is affecting how I treat him although I try to give him plenty of attention. Someone told me that a cat can tell when you don't like him and I think this is probably true, but I just can't help how I feel.

What should I do? Please don't be mean. I feel horrible already.

The kitten will definitely not end up in a shelter I would find it a good home.

I didn't think a breeder would take it back and although I said I paid a lot of money for it I don't care if I get any of it back I just want him to be happy.

The kitten is not neutered yet, but is due to be next week.

All of my previous cats have been rescues as is my current little female. This was the one time I wanted a cat with a predictable temperament (ie. a pure breed) and I guess that was a mistake.

The female and the new kitten are both 6 months old.

Answer 1

Your cat can feel the dislike you have for him. When you pick him up he can feel the tenseness. It appears that you have given this much thought and given up on this cat. I admire you for admitting that this is not a match. Have you looked for a new home for him? Forget about the money, You owe it to him to find a loving,stable person to take him. He deserves this, and I think you know it. Good luck and happiness to both of you.

Answer 2

First of all, I am curious if this is the kitty that you talked about in a post about two months ago...the one that you were worried about "clicking" with? The one that your initial instincts said wasn't the right kitty?

Remember to go with your initial instincts. It's just like how you feel about a person that you first meet. Sometimes, you just don't like someone no matter what. And, remember, the kitty has feelings, too. I am oftened surprised that people don't seem to understand that animals feel love, fear, hunger, pain, etc. just like humans. And that kitty can sense how you feel and knows it is in an environment that it has no control over. (I swear that they can read your mind.) Perhaps you need to think of it in terms of what would you do if you had a child that you didn't like? Would you make an effort to solve the problem? Or get rid of the child? Of course, in this case, it is easier to get rid of a cat. As the other posters said, you sort of owe it to the cat to get it a good new home.

As for the cats not getting along, I have three cats that are very different in age. One is eleven, one is nine, and the youngest is five. They all pretend that they hate each other. They never hang out together. The oldest one tries to never let me forget that she once was an only "child" until I brought in the "others." But let the alarm go off, or it thunders real loud, or someone rings the doorbell...you'll find them all huddled together under the bed. Perhaps the original kitty senses how you feel about the new kitty and is following your cue.

So, maybe it would help if you look at it from the new kitty's perspective. Try a new attitude. Practice patience and tolerance. If that doesn't work, then make your best effort to guarantee that kitty the most loving home that you can find. Either way that way the kitty will be happy, you'll be happy, and you won't ever have to look back and feel guilty. Good luck!

Answer 3

You say your other cat is female, is the male kitten neutered yet. That could be why she doesn't like him. This could be what's causing your problem, I've had it happen several times. Once the male is neutered everyone is happy.
The only reason for not neutering him would be you wanted to breed him and that's the one thing this world doesn't need is another person breeding cats, there are too many out there without homes now.

Answer 4

This is the problem with our society. So long as breeders have poeple like you to buy their animals, they will continue breeding, and millions of cats will be left in shelters, disposed of outside, euthanized, and neglected. You KNOW this to be fact, yet you still purchased a cat instead of adopting. There are hundreds of pure breed rescues out there you could have gotten a breed from.

Cats, like people are unique. We can't force a personality on them. You just have to either give them time, or realize this cat just doesn't want another housemate.

I would see if the breeder would take the cat back (and not return your money). A respectable breeder would be concerned for the cat and take it back. If not, try placing it yourself - you owe it that much not to make it sit in a shelter. I'd think long and hard about "Buying" a pet every again.

Answer 5

Offer her for sale, at the same price you paid for her. Include all papers and certificates all vet records to the new owner, and she'll be placed in a home that's better for her.

Or contact the breeder on this, many have a 'take back' policy if the cat doesn't work out. I'm not sure if they refund all your money, but a responsible breeder does what's good for the cat so they won't leave you hanging.

Answer 6

If you don't like him you should probably put him up for adoption, because if you don't want him there then there really is no use of keeping him and suffering having to go through life with him. I kinda felt that way about my pet once too and I feel really bad about saying this because I grew to love her and she just pasted away and I'm really upset, so upset that I made a memorial for her and cry every night thinking about it. I won't mention what pet becauseI feel really guilty about it. So I think that you should give your kitten one or two more months, you'll probably adjust. If not then put him up for adoption someone out there will provide the perfect home and love him and even spoil him. So just give him sometime before you go to thinking about the adoption option. I'm very sad about my pet and don't want you to go through the same.

Answer 7

I have a cat and when I first got her, I hated her. She always hid from me and my other kitten always fought with her. I was already shopping for another cat the day I got her. I just loved her and petted her (even if it was against her will sometimes). And now I love her to death. She sleeps with me every night. She's always coming to me for attention, even to the point I have to turn her away. Just work with him. I think in time you will learn to like him and if you get rid of him you will be sorry.

Answer 8

That really sucks... I mean really. It's like buying a new car then deciding you really hate the color, only worse because it's a kitten. I would find someone else to adopt it. If you lived in my area I would adopt it, but that's highly unlikely, so I would place ads, maybe try Craigslist. Just make sure you don't give it to a schmuck that won't care for it. Good luck dearie, sorry that you don't like your kitty.

Answer 9

try returning it back to the person or place you bought it from. you might have to deal with losing out on the money you paid for him but at least he will have a chance to find a home where he is wanted and loved, not hated and depised

Answer 10

SO YOU MADE A MISTAKE WITH THE NEW KITTIE..GIVE YOURSELF A HUG AND FIND A NEW HOME FOR HIM. YOUR CATS AT HOME ARE NOT EVER ACCEPTING ANOTHER CAT. SO IT IS BEST TO LOVE HIM BY PLACING HIM IN A HOME WITH NO OTHER CATS.HE PROBABLY WILL BE ADORED BY SOME CHILD STARVING FOR KITTIE ATTENTION. GOOD LUCK