I have a 4 year old, nearly 3year old and 8 month old. I dont know if I can cope. I have a new business under 12 months old, and not a great deal of help. I dont know if I can do this but not sure I can live with the alternative either...
2007-08-17 15:34:49 · 14 answers · asked by Angie R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You can do it hun, with the babies getting older, in the fall your oldest should be able to start preschool which would free up a portion of your day and if you coordinate nap/quiet time with all 4, that would also make things easier. Please do not consider abortion. Look at the faces of your 3 babies and see if you could imagine life without one of them. Difficult? Yeah...the little sweetness inside of you has a little face too, one which you will not be able to live without as well. Friends, family, daycare....all these things can and will help ease the load.
Mommas are super heros. Allthough it may not always seem that way and the only thing that works is to lock yourself in a closet and cry for a few minutes.....mommas are super heros. You are a momma....you can do it!
2007-08-17 16:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Katie B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy. It sounds like you have a full load but eventually it will get easier. Dont think of the alternative. You have been blessed. You may struggle for a while but I am sure you can adjust. In another year your 4 year old will be in school and I as I am sure you already know kids grow up so fast. As they get older it gets easier. I am not sure if you are married or have a boyfriend, but if not reach out to family and friends. It is amazing how much help they can be. I have 4 kids myself, ages 18, 13, 9 and 1. I work full time plus overtime as well as attend college. My daughter is 1 and is a handful. My husband does nothing to help so I know how hard it can be. But it seems like yesterday when my 18 year old was just a baby and the years fly by. You will get through it just as every mother does. Mothers have a way of just doing it.
2007-08-17 23:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ms K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm well nine months from now, your oldest will be going into kindergarten, so that should help some. And hopefully you still have the baby supplies. The main problem is time. If your friends ask what baby gifts you'd like, ask for a couple of hours of babysitting instead of a tangible item. And since you don't have much help right now :( reach out to neighbors, join a place of worship, visit a crisis pregnancy center (it's not just for teens!) I wish you and your family the absolute best.
<3 Kelsey
2007-08-17 22:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's strictly up to you unfortunately. Obviously you know how babies happen at this point. I too have a 4 year old, a 1 year old and I'm 36 weeks pregnant. You need to make the right choice for you and a choice that you can live with.
2007-08-18 01:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 ages 15 months, just turned 3, 4.75, 7 in a month, and just turned 8. I did run a business until the fourth came along, but it wasn't because of her I quit. I quit because I wanted to "just" be a mother.
You can do this. Actually, you are blessed. Birth control? No, same thing as abortion, really. So you've made your choice. God will get you through it. And He'll provide if you rely on Him. Learn to train them well and you can have a joyful life. Children are like arrows in the hand of a mighty warrior. Happy are the parents whose quiver is full of them.
2007-08-18 00:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by GrowingMama 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'll think you'll do fine. You're doing great already with the three you have AND a business. I have tough days just being Mom. If your dream is to keep the business too, maybe you can find a business partner. I see lots of stay at home mom businesses with two moms running it to help lighten the load.
2007-08-18 01:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by bkcwzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can handle it. It's the business that should go if anything. For right now anyway. It's not more important than any of your children or children to be.
Be strong. Maybe after this one is born you or your hubby can get snipped or tied?
2007-08-18 00:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the truth is you just deal with it. Four kids under 5 is tough, but doable. Your oldest should be in kindergarten soon, and the 3 yr old can go to preschool, which will free up alot of time.
2007-08-17 22:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by parental unit 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, just to be real and blunt, you should've thought about birth control methods if you wasn't thinking about bringing another child into this world. There are plenty of options. But I think it will be hard but possible to keep your business going and raising four young kids. I've seen it done plenty of times. Just keep faith alive. Hopefully everything works out.
2007-08-18 08:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lena 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Adoption? It is only 9 months out of your life and there are couples out there who are crying to have a baby.
2007-08-17 22:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋