I've seen this guy around school, and I think he's very attractive but I don't know how to come out of my shell and talk to him. I tend not to stop talking and I start to get annoying OR I blush and don't talk at all. How do I go up and start a conversation with this guy?
2007-08-17 15:30:37 · 9 answers · asked by riquer578 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just take a deep breath. Think to your self that everythings gonna be fine. Worst case scenario is that he ignores you or something, but come on-life's about taking chances. Just say hi or something simple. If it strikes up a conversation then monitor everything coming out of your mouth-make sure to talk slowly and keep it simple. Be confident in yourself. Confidence is one of women's sexist traits. If your confident (or pretending to be!) than everything will be fine.
2007-08-17 15:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say plan it out a little in your mind and imagine how you'll proceed if he's receptive AND how you'll proceed if you get a cool response.
Think of a sincere compliment you can give him, like
"I've noticed you...
-have such a great sense of style, where'd you get that belt?
or, -have the most interesting face. Where are you from?
or, -have the best arms, or eyes, or face, or smile, or legs,..etc.
If he's icy, be ready to just say,
"Gotta go, see ya."
But if he's receptive, be ready with some questions about him, like his name, where he's from, what he likes to do in his free time, what he's studying, etc.
But before you approach him, tell yourself you're not going to ask him more than 2 questions. If he doesn't reciprocate with any show of interest, give him his space, and just whenever you see him, say hi and say something fun but quick.
Let there be some give and take in the conversation. If he doesn't ask anything about you, either he's shy and doesn't have social skills, preoccupied with someone or something, isn't interested, or self centered.
I don't recommend approaching him if he's with someone else. Better if you can catch him alone, or maybe with some other guys and you can compliment him in front of his friends. That will really flatter him. But practice in your mind that you're not going to chatter away nervously. Let your eyes and body language do a lot of the talking. Let him do about 50% of the talking. And if he won't, don't take it personally. He could be a real D'head.
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2007-08-17 15:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to him and ask him a question like...Say....Hey, can I ask you a question?...Do you think it ok for a girl to ask a guy out for a date?....see what he says...then say....What would you do if a girl did that to you?....see what he says...that's ur hook...If you get a negative answer then just say you were asking about a friend of yours. If he answers positively, then you are in. Good luck.
2007-08-17 15:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sass M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start talking to him and dont be annoying like you said!
2007-08-17 15:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by sunearth_moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by giving him an honest compliment. "Hey, like your shirt" then walk away.
2007-08-17 15:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by say_tay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, if you feel yourself start babbling just say in your head to calm down. Or just start small! just say HI!
2007-08-17 15:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you run into him, be like, hey hows it going!
2007-08-17 15:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him come to you. you might intimidate him
2007-08-17 15:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compliment him on something
2007-08-17 15:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by Adam S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋