its our first night toghether they are sleeping ok but i feel like a nervous wreck what can i do to make them feel safe in their new home.
2007-08-17 15:29:44 · 19 answers · asked by blenyuk 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just spend time with them, playing with them, or let them lay together and be around.
No one has mentioned it but routine is a major important part now as it will reassure them to know that this happens, then this and then we... it doesn't have to be overly structured but try to stick to a rough routine eg tea, quiet time, bath, milk and biscuit, story, bed. and try and keep to a regular bedtime etc.
Good Luck and Congratulations x
2007-08-18 01:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dynamicnanny 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The best way to see a question is get back from it. It's about the atmosphere the big broad question of you whole perspective of life. Now is down the road in a nutshell the answer for now is also your the future, attitude opens the door to see your whole mind set and innate itelligence. Look up "Emotional Intelligence" on trans4mind. com and other free ebooks to solve the big picture and all the pieces will already be in place. There's plenty of free ebooks on that site. One issue is a microcosm of the whole complexity of life. If you don't know where your going nothing makes sense over anything else. If you know your going to California, on the other hand, the details take care of themselves like you will need a toothbrush. People come on here with the questions like, how do I buy a house when they are leaving for the coast tommorow and they can't get their mind off the house. I'm telling you how the mind works, how to step back and 'see' instead of getting caught up in the details and the horse before the cart. Get the basics and it all flows smoooth. You'll be in Easy World where everything is easy. You must leave Difficult World first. You need to take a little trip. I kind of wonder if your getting the picture. There's some skills you need. Your at the river, I can't make you drink, but you got a very good answer, no matter how poorly worded. You need a little study and yes rest and understanding your emotions or they will lead you aroung by the nose like they do everybody else. Hint: Science says we have the emotional maturity of a two or three year old. How can we think or measure anything with emotions tipping the scale. You need to learn this well enough to teach it to those around you.
2007-08-17 16:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by hb12 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have them choose some toys for their bedrooms, but my advice is do not go crazy and spoil them rotten best thing you can do is relax and go with the flow. Also make sure that if they do something that is unacceptable tell them do not let them get away with it even in the early days.
BTW congratulations on your 2 new children i hope you all have a lovely life
2007-08-17 22:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make them feel welcome, give them freedom to get to know the house and garden, maybe take them out shoping to let them choose some bits and pieces for their bedroom, if they have their own things then help them to put as much of them on display as possible, pics up etc
It will take time but it will be fine, kids dont come with a set on instructions unfortunantely, it will be easier for them being 2 of them as well.
2007-08-17 20:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by misspinkkitten1978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for my area i don't accept as true with homosexuals adopting toddlers despite the fact that i think of that's quite hypocritical for the mainstream heterosexual society to restrict homosexuals from adopting yet almost all of them are unwilling to undertake those toddlers themselves. it is the equivalent of asserting "i don't want the youngster and you will't have the youngster". finally the loser in this situation is the youngster. hence the main suitable thank you to try by contrast occasion is to make orphaned toddlers unavailable to homosexuals not simply by fact of regulations yet simply by fact all of the toddlers are being observed by skill of classic families. truthfully everyone have the final to have toddlers gay or as we talk. you moreover could won't be able to furnish up homosexuals from having the desire to undertake toddlers. i think of in those social subject concerns we could look at ourselves first and ask what are we doing to better the region. How do we are saying what's interior the main suitable pastime of a toddlers yet be unwilling to create an atmosphere it is interior the youngster's maximum suitable pastime? lower back we won't administration the desires and movements of homosexuals yet we can administration our very own. it quite is a clean case of placed up or close up.
2016-11-12 19:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
I am adopted. I wish I could remember what my adopted parents did. But I don't really think they did much (it's been 20 years)
More than likely, they're perfectly fine. Just be nice, love them, dote on them. But allow them to come to you for cuddle time. It may take a bit of time. Depending on the age, they all need something different. Some want a toy or clothes. Some just want someone to read to them or play ball.
ASK THEM!!!
2007-08-17 15:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by Autumns Lamb 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lots of hugs and acceptance. Take a deep breathe, you were able to adopt them becuse you proved worthy... now believe it! Just remember to keep the lines of communication open with them. You've done a great thing!
2007-08-17 16:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by beach mama 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well juz teach them right and kind but not 2 different as if they were aliens jus treak with care nd respect and talk 2 them if the boy likes baseball talk bout baseball or play it nd for the girl if she like bratz or barbies well at least try 2 communicate with that lolz good luck
2007-08-17 16:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some sleep! They will need you in the morning. You are their support now. You are their rock. They will probably be scared. You will need to comfort them. Right now you should get some rest so you can get up with them first thing in the morning.
Congratulations on your new additions! Good luck and best wishes to you all!
2007-08-17 15:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by mjh 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well when my aunt adopted my two little cousins{both girls}, she brought around all of our family. She took them on playdates with me and my sister. Also she threw a big Welcome To the Family party for them and all the family and family friends came and bought them gifts and stuff like that. Also don't force them to call you mom and dad immediately.. with my little cousins they started out calling their adopted parents Mr. and Mrs. McGee then Kriste and Gary then eventually they got used to calling them mama and daddy. I'd say the best to do is to just throw them a welcome to the family party just like we did so they can get to know the family and vice versus hope this helps. :)
2007-08-17 15:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by lessyjohnson 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋