What is so bad about premarital sex anyways?

Question

i dont see why people make a big deal out of it, especially the zealous religious nuts and overprotective parents.

they say u'll be ready if u've waited till marriage but think about, just becuz u walk about 30ft (approximentaly the length of the aisle where the bride and groom walk)...that doesn't mean ur gonna all of a sudden be ready

and besides, my parents waited till marriage for sex and now they hate eachother to no end.

I'm not saying u should get drunk and do it with some random person u've never seen before and won't see again...but whats so bad about it if u truly love ur partner and u use a condom so u dont get pregant or an std.

oh yeah and to the religious nuts who think its a sin or that its un-holy or w/e: After the great flood passed, God said to Noah: "Go forth and multiply", he did not say "go forth, marry and multiply". So how do u feel about that?

queen...i appreciate what ur saying, but can u show me the exact verse that says that?

oh yeah and queen, one more thing, i agree that he shoudln't be foolin aroudn with other girls and u shoudln't be doin stuff with other guys. But sex is sex, whether u wait to do it or u don't, its the same thing... u still saved ur gifts for eachother even if u have sex before marriage cuz its not like u've done it with other people

angel...read what i said carefully, i said to use a condom to avoid that

that girl 92-i dont think it was God who said that, it was some prophet, and prophets say a lot of untrue things...i may be wrong tho...but anyways, how is a virginity a gift? girls say that the first time they do it, it hurts and is painful...some gift lol

desertpunk-ur right about everything u said lol..thanks for the compliments

packers4wes-1)u should really find the verse where God says that, and u should really read it carefully to make sure that God actually said it and not a prophet, prophets make lots of untrue statements.

2)no there was no evidence that they were already married, even if they were,he didn't just tell Noah that, he told everyone that, and i'm sure not everyone was already married

jenny-read what i said in paragraph 4

JP-if u love them u can wait? wait for what? a walk down a 30ft aisle? whys that so worth waiting for...

people dont get the point, sex before marriage and after marriage are both sex...its not like marraige is a magical condom that prevents all STD's either

yea ok jenny, u might be right, but i can't say anything for sure cuz i'm not a dad yet and i dont have a daughter...maybe when i do, i'll see things differently, but untill that day, i'm just gonna be me.
but anyways thanks for answering and i appreciate ur opnion

oh yeah and sorry about the religious nut comment, i was a lil caught up in emotions when i wrote this, sorry to anyone who was offended

Answer 1

Okay, look around the bar, and take a look at your future daughter. Which one of those guys do you want fondling your girl?

Which one of those ******* will be good enough for the offspring combination of you and the woman you are entirely head-over-heels in love with?

Pre-marital sex isn't discouraged purely by zealots. And marriage isn't necessarily the 'answer' to commitment issues. But it's more than "Hi, you're convenient, so I'll bone you and our offspring may or may not be one of my beloveds"

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I didn't think you were going to be the one in the bar drunk and random. I was just attempting to switch the perception, because if it were your daughter and a man used this same argument (and believe me, it will happen), it colors the way you see things. You may have noticed that not all men are as honorable as you are. That is why guys don't hate premarital sex, but DADs (who actually used to be guys) want their daughters to remain pure.

Answer 2

totally, I totally agree dude.

As for what "packerswes4" said...hahaha
"Okay first of all it is sinful because God says it is. I dont know where exactly but it's there. And you have to understand the context of your example. At the time God had destroyed the earth with the flood. The only people left were Noah, his wife, his 3 sons, and their wives. God told them to multiply in order to replenish the earth, so that human kind would go on existing. That is the reason why. They were already married and God has never commanded an unmarried man to "replenish the earth". So how do you feel about that?"


I say this:
Wow!!! hahaha, there must have been a lot of inbreeding, the human race would have died out you moron! So, first, adam and eve created the billions of people we have today (a **** load of inbreeding) and now noah and his "gang bang" family inbreed to say human kind? haha, honestly, ask yourself, "does this really sound plausible? does this even make sense?" as for the answer? uh, no!!! haha. Anyway. This is why I hate religion, there are good morals and stadards that come out of the bible, but when people say that what comes out of the bible is "god's word" it's a bunch of bullshit, I could have said that I saw a vision and wrote my own bible "according to god's word". It's all about interpretation, and whether you choose to believe the few crack-pot prophits and religious people that wrote the stupid thing. Thank you! :) Religion sucks, it creates sooo many problems!
BTW: If the bible states that violence is bad, why were there sooo many bloody and gruesom wars over it?
Also, most religions state that if you are not a member of thier specific religion, then you are going to hell, with the number of different religions that state that, basically, EVERYONE is going to hell? So how can their be a heaven? Religion is one big contradiction? Yeah........right.....haha. I don't waste my time with religion, it's all nonsense.

Answer 3

those are ten rapid motives why you're able to attend merely off the top of my head. God bless & Merry Christ mas ! a million. it fairly is a sin against God 2. it fairly is a sin against your person physique. 3. intercourse binds your soul to a pair one you have not even made a dedication to or understand in case you staying with. 4. It damages your emotions 5. Hardens your heart the place you have much less of a means to love others 6. you're taking an excellent gamble of having an undesirable unplanned being pregnant. 7. you're taking an excellent gamble of catching STDs 8. people who've premarital intercourse have a plenty larger fee of divorce in the event that they do marry. 9. You pass over out on the Blessing of the marriage evening 10. waiting is a try of exact love

Answer 4

Sex diseases can kill you, and a pregnancy will ruin your life. You will pay for her new lifestyle and support the child for the next 20 years, instead of making a good life for yourself and the woman you could have loved. That is what is wrong with premarital sex.

But you are correct in that it does not have to be that way. You should use two forms of birth control: hers, and a condom for you. (Do not ruin your life, her life, and mess up your child.)

The other thing that is wrong with premarital sex is that women typically fall in love with the guy they have sex with on a regular basis. Not every girl, but most girls do. It is programmed into their genes. Then she will accidentally-on-purpose get pregnant. All she has to do is skip using birth control one time. (But she will do it many times until she is pregnant.) So never, never trust a girl with your birth control. If you want it done right, do it yourself.

The "Just say no" campaign did not work for drugs or sex. But before 1960, there was no birth control for women. (It had not been invented yet.) So if you wanted to stop very destructive results (unwed mothers raising kids on their own before there was government financial aid), but the sex drive is too strong to stop, then it helped if you could say that God will send people to hell for premarital sex. So, the religious nuts made good sense before 1960, and some of them are still around.

Even now, if you screw up on the birth control or catch HIV, you will wish with all of your might that you had listened to those religious nuts.

Premarital sex is not a bad thing, only the results are if you screw it up.

Answer 5

Okay first of all it is sinful because God says it is. I dont know where exactly but it's there. And you have to understand the context of your example. At the time God had destroyed the earth with the flood. The only people left were Noah, his wife, his 3 sons, and their wives. God told them to multiply in order to replenish the earth, so that human kind would go on existing. That is the reason why. They were already married and God has never commanded an unmarried man to "replenish the earth". So how do you feel about that?

Answer 6

This is a very personal subject. Personally, I believe in waiting until marriage. Realistically, if you just not bed hopping from one partner to another, a committed relationship is a decision left to those two people. The only thing I would warn you about is the user's and abusers who are only out to take advantage of you.

Answer 7

well your right about the serious relationship thing. But I think alot of younger teenagers even at 16 think that they are in a serious relationship and can just go and have sex whenever. I dont agree with pre-maritial sex, but I wont be all upset about a 20-year old couple who are really serious and have true love compared to a 14 year old doing eachother every night because "they love eachother".

God made sex as a wonderful gift to be enjoyed freely with real married couples. But then again, he gave free will, so its really up to them to have the comprehension about what theyre doing to make that choice.

but good argument

Answer 8

Well, sweetie, just because you wait to have premarital sex doesn't mean that you won't get a divorce or that you won't have problems. That's just crazy! I completely respect people who choose not to. It's what God's Word says. He intends for a man and a wife to be together--no one else. And I know you are trying to get all defensive about the whole Christianity thing...but if you truly love the person you can wait. Just keep in mind this is only earth. If we follow the steps that Jesus has set in place for us, we get to spend eternity with him! How awesome is that? :] on one final note--by your partner being on the pill or you using protection may keep you from getting pregnant, but it does NOT prevent STD's!!!

Answer 9

In tribal societies, often a daughter represents a form of wealth to the family. She can command a good price from a suitor which helps her family when she's gone. Her value would be decimated if it was known she was not a virgin. Then she would become a burden to the family, potentially forever.

Answer 10

This really is based off religion. If you go back 100 years sex before marriage was taboo. These days it's down to personal preference. If you and your partner feel you are both ready then go for it!! (assuming you are both of consenting age.) If your partner doesn't want to have sex, you have to respect her choice.