spend the night he sleeps on the sofa, unless he wants sex. How should that make me feel?
2007-08-17 14:55:08 · 24 answers · asked by SPARKLES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it shouldn't "make" you feel any certain way.
How you feel is how YOU feel. You're allowed to feel any way you want about it. If it hurts your feelings, say so.
But IMO, it sounds as if he wants his cake and eat it too. You live with the baby, he comes and goes as he pleases, and if he wants sex he gets that, too. If he doesn't feel like it, he treats your house like a damned hotel. Does he spend any other time with the baby without you around? Does he take her for a weekend, for example?? Does he help you out with the baby financially? (Diapers, clothing, doctor's appointments...etc) If not, then he's using "seeing the baby" as a ruse to get laid when he feels like it.
It all depends on what you want. Why doesn't he live with you and the baby? wouldn't that save money? He IS your b/f, right?? not just the baby daddy?
2007-08-17 15:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by tiffany p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of arrangements you have established with you and your boyfriend but it is clearly unhealthy with a baby in the picture now. Now that the baby is in the picture did you talk to your boyfriend about responsibility? Is your boyfriend assisting you financially or supporting you in other ways like assisting with the baby? Otherwise, if he is not helping there is no need to come and sleep on your couch and there is no reason why you should be sleeping with him either. It seems to me everytime you have sex with him you are degrading yourself to a lower level. Your BF needs to act more responsible and deal with the consequences of having a baby more maturely. Frankly, if he cannot help you then you do not need him and there are other ways I am sure that you can get help. So, next time he comes over I think you guys have alot to talk about. You should not let him use you for his needs...what about your needs too?
2007-08-17 15:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ariaxis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, how does it make you feel?
Then how ever it makes you feel, you should discuss it with your boyfriend...communication is the key to all good
relationships...tell him how it makes you feel and see how he reacts and if you can work it out.
And so what?...you automatically spread your legs every time he wants sex? What about you and what you want??? It is a two way street ya know.
I'd feel stupid letting him have his way with you only when he wants it more than his sleeping on the sofa.
Maybe he doesn't like the feel of your mattress or he can't take the body heat...some people are that way.
What ever...you two definitely need to have a talk and you need to let him know how you feel about this and see his take on it.
2007-08-17 15:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the baby sleeps with you, maybe you should establish somewhere else for the baby. Also..communication is the key to any lasting and fulfilling relationship. Definitely tell him how you feel and maybe he can come up with a solution also. Choose your words wisely b/c you wont' want the words to come out wrong or at an inappropriate time.
2007-08-17 15:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by 65sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time that he comes over you need to let him know that you are feeling like the only reason that he is there is for sex or someplace to crash and you would like him to sleep in the bed with you and the baby for a night or two without sex and see if he is just afraid of fatherhood or having a hard time seeing the truth
2007-08-17 15:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird! It's difficult to believe that he likes to sleep on the couch, unless you have really bad morning breath or snore like crazy. Or maybe he has some "issues" from childhood. If none of these situations apply, then you might consider being a single mom. I think he is just using you.
2007-08-17 15:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd put a stop to that! Does he help out a lot with the baby? Maybe he sleeps on the couch to avoid being woken up???I'd be saying "when you are here you have dad duty and I get to sleep through the night!'
2007-08-17 15:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Barn Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you JUST had a baby, you shouldn't be having sex until 6 weeks- 8 weeks after you gave birth...
Next, do you invite him into your room when he sleeps over? Let him know it's ok to share your bed.
Otherwise, if its uncomfortable, just wake him from the couch and tell him to go home.
2007-08-17 15:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by THE QUEEN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why he sleeps on the couch. So the baby doesnt wake him up at night? Or do he or you snore alot? Does he go back to the couch after the sex is over? Ask him why he does it.
2007-08-17 15:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by sunearth_moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you and it would make me angry and tell him to leave the next time this happened.
You deserve better treatment than this.I would right out and ask him what his intentions toward you and the baby are.Have a talk with him the next time he's over and get this out in the open.
2007-08-17 15:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋