Is it normal if I felt disrespected?

Question

A week ago I made a presentation, and after I gave presentation, the audience were pleased to give comments or question.
one of audience asked a question, but before he asked, he said:
"Thanks for the interesting presentation, but the presenter is more interesting" and he smiled.
I felt disrespected by that man. I think he didn't appreciate my presentation at all, and that comment sounded so rude to me.

I just guess that man thinks women like to be appreciated their appearance more than their intelligence.

I felt so sad, coz it was an Important presentation for me, and I prepared it for long time, as best as I can

to be objective, his question was good

He said "interesting" it was objected to my appearance (He said it in my language, and I just translate it in English)

I just answered him.
I didn't give sarcastic answer

Just felt disrespected

Answer 1

In years past, this would have been an entirely appropriate way for a gentleman to try to make a lady, even a stranger, feel comfortable and put her at ease. It is possible that this gentleman's intentions were nothing but the best, albeit a bit outdated.

You say he also asked a question. Was it a good one? Did it show he really had been listening and was interested in what you had to say? If so, it could well be just a case of outdated manners.

Answer 2

He gave you a double compliment and your are offended. I don't get it. Women of today, just confuse me. They want men to acknowledge them and when the men do, they go and get all upset over everything and over nothing. This was this one man's opinion, it was not the opinion of everyone else. What does it matter, he did not say you were not interesting or your presentation was not interesting. You are part of the presentation are you not. So he found you interesting too, why are you taking it in a sexual way? That is how I am assuming you took it. I believe the man meant no harm. I believe He was trying to put you at ease with his two-way compliment in one sentence. I am sure he told the truth..as he watched you give the presentation you must have held his interest as much as your presentation.. and that is good. why not?.. who knows it could have been your schooling, looks, voice, posture, whatever. Accept it for what it was and move on... don't let things like this destroy your confidence and assurance in yourself. The world is not such a rotten place, only we can make it if we take offense in everything. Life is good. Smile and good things will come back to you... Take offense and look negatively at all things and you will receive back negative feedback.. In situation like this, I would just smile and say Thank you. End of Subject. No harm done to anyone. That is how I see it.. Good Luck..

Answer 3

How are people getting that he was commenting on her looks when he said she was interesting?(and how are you getting that?o.O) He could have been talking about your schooling, your background, your intelligence, and your credentials, and he could have been doing it to put you at ease by first paying you a compliment(two, really, since he did mention that he felt your presentation was interesting). Not every compliment a man gives a woman is meant in a sensual sense, or is about her appearance.

Answer 4

Hello ..
Take the compliment in the positive way, even though you are the best judge to know his intentions.
This comment if made to a lady in the West is taken as a compliment, but in East the same comment is not allowed, especially to a lady.
In my opinion the comment has been made in a good sense.
Let you think it that way.. all other is his "neeyat" for which he is answerable to God.

Answer 5

Yes, It is very normal to FEEL, disrespected at that, but your actions is what is more important!
Just don't take others actions to offense, not only will it waste your precious time but what if you are judging him totally incorrect After all people act and react differently all the time and it could of just been his way of showing appreciation or not?We don't know for sure? Don't even think about it because your better then that to let it get to you....................Right?
Insha Allah everyone else thinks highly of your attributes!

Answer 6

Wow - you are really snatching an insult from the jaws of a compliment. It sounds like you are really trying hard to take a harmless comment the wrong way.

Relax. He was telling you you did fine, and that you were engaging. The polite thing to say is "thank you" and move on.

Answer 7

Take it with the Good side; as he was talking about your personality.

In the past.. I refused to talk back to such people; but I found Great Imams did that.. Al Ghazali replied insults with a sarcastic way.. so was Abou Hanifa who replied the insults of the Caliph by the Quran itself.. That's way the Caliph said his famous word:

"To have a devil debating with you is better than having one of Abou Hanifa's students".

You should have insulted this guy politely....

Answer 8

lol.. its normal for u to feel that way, but u shudnt really be so offended.
i guess thats the first time u've received such a comment. Where I live, thats the norm. You get it in the streets, at the mall, at work, school, etc...Dont worry abt it, he was tryin to flatter u with his words. He thought he cud win u over...

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Are you drunk ?..... or were you drunk when you conducted this 'demonstration' ? Gaawd, you are wacko at best babe. You broads better learn to accept & recognize when you are complimented instead of being offended & acting "victimized". you females don't know what you want anyhow so it doesn't matter. Look, if you are going to be offended by every li'l innocent remark made to you or about you, I advise you to sober up, or go back under your rock !