You ever sit there looking out the window watching all the couples going out on a Friday night and you're just

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sitting ther eating ice cream. You're home cause you have kids. Most of my neighbors have nannies or grown children or family to babysit. I am a SAHM with a 3yr old and 10 month old and sometimes it's so depressing to see all the couples going out every weekend while I sit T home. To top it all off my husband gets home late tonight - can't even watch a movie together. It all pays off in the end though, right?

how did I know some asshole was going to say "you should have thought of that before you had kids..."

Answer 1

no i usually spend friday night doing something with my kid and husband

Answer 2

I can and can't relate. I want love in my life. I want someone to share my nights with, especially Friday nights. I have a 7 month old and I'm home with him. I'm sure if I wanted to go out SOME nights, my mom would watch him. Me and my son's father has a good friendship and basically that's all it is-a friendship. we dont' see each other enough and it's just complicated. I stay at home really though due to the fact that I just hate all the drama that goes on when you go out. People dont' know how to act nowadays. I'm a homebody, so I would rather be at home cuddled up with my babydaddy watching a movie and eating popcorn or even just laying in the bed looking into each other's eyes. I'm a romanticist so anything of that nature is fine with me. it does pay off in the end though because whenever he does come down or I go to see him, I never want the feeling to end and those are the most happiest times of my life. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else in the world. I guess that's why I dont' have many girl friends. Trust is also another reason I don't have many friends. My best friends are guys because they don't run they mouth and they not talking about you in the streets. I love ice cream! Vanilla is my favorite, lol. I do get bored though I must admit. I need something to occupy my time.

Answer 3

I am 31 and have four children...I know exactly what you mean. I have found ways to keep me busy so that I am not thinking as much about how I am stuck at home. When I feel like that I tend to take the kids out...lets go to the park. Or lets go out to eat. You should also attempt to find someone to babysit at least once a month so that you can get out with your husband for some alone grown up time. I don't know about you but what bothers me most is the lack of intellegent conversation. The end of the day comes and I feel somewhat dumber than I did when I woke up. Recently I started homeschooling so I am around my children every minute of the day. Thursdays I have class...something mentally challenging...then I get to worry about getting a paper done. Find ways to challenge your thoughts and energies. How well do you know your neighbors, is it possible for them to help you out. Find a girlfriend to invite over for a movie. I don't know if this helps you any, but feel free to e-mail me if you need someone to chit chat with. Good luck.

Answer 4

i can relate, only my husband generally doesn't come home for weeks to months at a time, he is in the navy.

so i am sitting here watching SVU while my kids are having a "movie and popcorn" night upstairs. they love doing this on fridays. but yah it would be nice to go out as a family, or even with my husband.

i have a 7 year old, 4 year old and twin 3 year olds and a baby on the way. i am also a stay at home mom.

but yah you are right, it pays off in the end, i love being a mom.

Answer 5

I loved your additional details..ha ha...there's one in every bunch isn't there! To be honest, I think I've lost all desire to go out at night cause I'm soooo tired most of the time. And I don't even have a newborn anymore..my son is 20 months & he's been sleeping through the night for a long time. I get more depressed if it's a nice sunny day & I'm stuck inside. I'd rather stay in & watch a movie then go out at night. It's kinda said because I went out & partied like crazy in my younger days but I can't say that I miss it. I'm glad I did & got it out of my system cause you couldn't pay me to go to a club now. Although, a nice dinner out every now & then would be great!
P.S. Just think that you're one step ahead of all those people going out to meet that special someone, settle down & have kids! One day they'll be doing it too!

Answer 6

Yes it pays off. I'm the same way. Our dates are usually family dates. We go out alone once in a blue moon. However, we stay up later than the kids so we can spend time together. I still get up the same time as the kids do (and I'm tired in the morning) but I need some time alone with my husband.
I feel you though. Going out isnt all that great, anyway. Just save date money up and spend it on an AWESOME vacation. :)

Answer 7

I was 38 when I had my 1st baby... and shes now 16 months old. I love her to death and Im so glad that I had her... yet, I do have to admit that sometimes I do miss being able to drop everything and go out to a club or a late dinner or a movie. I do miss the days when I could just walk out the door and not bring snacks, diapers, a sippy cup, toys, etc.

Sigh... I think its only natural to be human and have feelings. You dont become a robot when you have kids.... its just how you handle them and how you deal with situations that make you a good parent or not.

Answer 8

That has quite occurred to us . My husband and that i've got been approximately to computer screen a action picture so I went to close the blinds and curtains and there became my neighbor around the corner bare together with her boyfriend having intercourse precise in front of her abode windows. We have been given to computer screen a action picture and a stay teach that day .

Answer 9

dont spend our whole life doing it.

Go out on weekends with your husband or something and get someone to babysit the kids, or go with the whole family somewhere.

Whoever said "you should have thought about that before you had kids" is the biggest idiot.

I would say it all pays off, yes, but dont spend every day doing that,

If you're not happy, do something with the family!

Answer 10

get a baby sitter and go out with your friends, even if it's just a quick cup of coffee or ice cream. You deserve to have some fun. If your friends have kids, call them and see if they are game for getting ice-cream - you can even take your kids with you.
You're not in prison.

Answer 11

im sitting here eating ice cream with you...watching neighbors getting ready to hit the town....im sitting here in a dirty tshirt and shorts no make up on...hair in a pony tail....andmy gracious husband is out bowling..yeah it will all pay off in the end...........women live longer than men...