touchy subject so please try to keep it clean as possible!?

Question

I read on here every day about teenagers getting pregnant, not knowing what to do, not knowing how to tell mom and dad, and asking for guidance. I realize that advice is based on your own upbringing, morals, and values. However, I don't agree with everyone that says don't kill a baby, abortion is bad, adoption is better. If you are a mom then you know that there is a bond between you and your unborn child with the kicks, and the ultrasounds, and the excitement of becoming a mother. However, many of you don't know what it's like to give your child up for adoption, and neither do I, but what I do know is from my experience with pregnancy, and those that have given their children up that I've encountered they regret that decision more than anything because of the bond from the pregnancy, and wondering whether their child is ok, and if they chose the right parents etc. etc. An abortion on the other hand I have experienced, and I can tell you that I don't feel guilty about it just like I

don't feel guilty about eating eggs every morning for breakfast knowing some of those eggs were fertilized but when taken from the hen didn't form into a chick. When a baby is still an embryo it's the same thing, a fertilized egg that when taken from the mother will not form into a baby. It is not killing a baby, it is killing an embryo. There is a reason why we don't call embryo's or fetuses babies. They aren't babies, they are developing into babies, but until the can live independently of the mother's body they are not babies. So telling these children don't have an abortion because you are killing a baby, is wrong. Telling them adoption is so much better is wrong. Telling them to have the baby is wrong. We should keep our personal preferences to ourselves, and just answer the question regardless of what it is. If you don't feel comfortable with an abortion question don't answer it. Just please quit answering questions with abortion is wrong, or adoption is the better option. Thanks

my question is why are we tearing people apart with our own biased opinions instead of answering their questions? If they want to know how to get an abortion answer the question, if they want to know about adoption answer the question, if they want to know about having the baby answer the question... so why can't we just answer the questions without ridiculing these kids? or me for questioning this ridicule?

Answer 1

All people are different. They have different phsycological triggers and different belief systems and morals.

While for some, an abortion is a wise choice that they can live with, others feel like it is akin to murder and would rather struggle with the emoitional heartbreak that follows many women who choose the adoption route.

I am pro-choice in the truest sense of the word:

Meaning a woman who has an unwanted pregnancy should be able to Choose between having and raising the child, giving it up for adoption, or having an early term abortion.

People who try to lump all women in this situation together, saying they should all think and do the same thing are wrong.

Trying to compare different people's feelings on this is like comparing apples to oranges.

People need to learn to respect each other's choices and agree to disagree.

Let's be real :-)

Answer 2

I get what you are saying here and sometimes it is best for mommy not to become a mommy. But in reality the only "safe" abortion will be one that nature aborts. When a woman goes to get an abortion it is unsafe and damaging to her body. Regardlise of how many safe precautions, or statistics, or doctor degress one has they said the same thing about blood letting. I belive adoption is a better choice or just dropping the baby of at a fire station, it is better than a mom haveing a baby who isn't ready or doesn't want to have one. And in so many cases a mom who isn't ready to be a mom becomes ready in a 5-10 mins with just the show of two lines. It isn't about killing a baby, abortions happen all the time by nature's calling, but going to a place with knives and drugs i think isn't the answer. I don't think women asses all these risks of surgery, and playing god. People die all the time, but the important thing is it should be done naturally.

Answer 3

Most people later do eventually feel for the child rather aborted or adopted. Why you don't I'm not sure, maybe you convinced yourself the child wasn't alive and that it wasn't a part of you and that it wouldn't have looked like you. At least with adoption they can say they tried they didn't take the easy way out and they didn't kill there own child. That is a nice and gentle as it comes. I am thinking much harsher thoughts.....If you can't handle the answers then don't read them. Everyone has there own opinion and just because they don't agree with you doesn't mean it's wrong. You are closed minded and arrogant thinking adoption is bad... Alot of couples can't have their own child and being able to give them a loving home is a gift like no other in the world. How many people are going to pay all that money and wait as long as they do for a child if they don't want one.... Wake up people eat and cook chickens are you going to eat a human then don't compare them, they're not the same.....

Answer 4

I personally am against abortion. I think that as women they did give us right to do this doesnt always mean it is the best choice.
As far as the argument for adoption, there are a lot of kids out there that dont have homes becasue people want newborns and so these 8 years olds and teens are left qwith no one.

This will get a debate of answers as everyone does have their personal opionions on the matter and it is a very touchy subject with a lot.

As far as answering a question on yahoo answers- I think that most of us come here to find out what many different people and different cultures feel and can give us on our matter of question, we are never going to agree on every matter. Abortion and lfe is always going to be a debate as well as spanking and not spanking is with children.

Most women that do have a abortion or gives there child up for adoption normally does have feelings or regrets in some way what they have done. Not saying that they werent happy with thier descion but they will think about it again in life. You must be the exception to that rule.

I personally beleive if people was more aware of being more proactive against better safe sex practices this issue wouldn't be a debate so much.

Answer 5

I know some women who have had abortions and really regret it with everything they have. They cry 20 years later about it. They feel guilty. It is different with each person. I have never had a child.

I was totally against abortion before I was raped. When I was raped, I told God, I would have an abortion if I were pregnant. Thank God, I was not pregnant. I know each person is going to feel differently at different times in their lives.

I know some women who may regret giving up their child, but they feel it was the best thing that they did at the time they did it.

I do not think that abortion should be part of "birth control". That to me is wrong.

I was also molested before the age of 9 and for a couple of years later. I know things would be so different if I had gotten pregnant from that person. I could never have brought up a child at that age. I don't know that it would have killed me then.

It is a choice for each woman with different circumstances.

Answer 6

This is something that each individual is going to experience differently. I have a good friend who gave her baby up for adoption and she is very confident in the decision she made for her child. Sure she still loves that little baby, but when she thinks/talks about them the does it with a smile on her face knowing she gave them the best possible start in life.

On the other hand, the mother of one of my friends had an abortion at the age of 16. She is now 42 and cries every time she hears someone she knows is pregnant. She suffers incredible guilt.

Personally, I felt a bond with each of my children the moment I got a positive pregnancy test. In my mind, they were my baby from the moment I conceived.

Answer 7

To me, personally, I felt connected and love for both my babies from the moment I saw the BFP. I thought of them as BABIES not as FETUSES or cells splitting. They are babies. And at 6 weeks they have a heartbeat, so having an abortion stops a beating heart... there by killing it.

As for the aborting a handicapped child if you knew, I teach preschool Special Ed.... and I can't tell you how many times I've been THANKFUL that their parents love them and didn't abort them. They are all special in their own ways... loving. Some can't talk. Some can't walk.... but they all FEEL and they all have emotions. And I dare someone to walk into my classroom and point to the child that SHOULD have been aborted!

Answer 8

I am personally against abortions. However, with today's society, I think it is the choice of the woman or perhaps both. There are so many children abused today and the system are overwhelmed with complaints of such. You are absolutely right about the adoption... the mother does later regret giving up her child. I was a teen mom and I tell you what, there was nothing better than the development of my pregnancy, or should I say the progress. After I had told my parents (at 4 mos) it was totally difficult for me. But... later on my parents supported my decision to keep my son. Today, I have a beautiful grandson... and I am too young to be a gma... but it comes along with the territory of becoming a young mother too. At 23 I had 3 kids, but married. Also, after my 3rd child I had my tubes tied... and put myself through college to better our lives.

Women are making great decisions now... and whatever she decides is her choice and her right, and it is none of our concern or our business what she decides to do with her life. We have so many other things going on today to worry about such nonsense.

Great Question Star to you

Answer 9

The issue here is prevention. There are so many ways to prevent pregnancy from happening in the first place, not wait for an uh-oh. With the kind of resources we have available to us ,why not teach girls AND boys to think about what consequences their actions will bring. With so many schools offering sex ed and birth control devises so readily available, we should never have to get to such loaded issues of abortions, or adoptions. It is like shutting the gate after the dog has left the yard.

Answer 10

Interesting. At what point do you consider the unborn no longer a fetus? At birth? Human characteristics are developed months before birth and the fetus responds to certain audio stimuli which is recognized and reacts to after birth. I'm not a proponent nor a opponent of abortion. That's a woman's right but that right must have a clear conscious of the cause of conception and the prevention of another unwanted pregnancy. As for the criminal actions that cause conception, abortion at the earliest I'd agree with.