I don't consider that cheating.
2007-08-17 13:10:57 · 44 answers · asked by montipez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do guys seem to always have a problem with this but they think its ok to go to strip clubs and look at naked women and because there was no sex involved they were not cheating. Look it was a bachelorette party with a couple of lap dances and nothing happened. Its not like you are going out every weekend getting lap dances. You went home to him and he should also realize that. You didn't cheat!
2007-08-17 13:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by donnaluvsu2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating means different things to different people. I consider that cheating too. The only one who should be dancing like that for u is him...no one else. I know, guys get this done for them, but that's chdeating in my book too. Atleast in a movie, the flesh isn't right up against u, turning u on. But at a bachelor party, it is. But in this case, maybe he should forgive u. U didn't know his definition of cheating, and it's not like u got physical with the guy. If u love the guy and want thigs to work out, just don't be in any lap dance situations with other guys. Good luck.
2007-08-17 13:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally dont consider it cheating. It was a bachlorette party... those things happen..... But it also depends on his standards too. For example, before you got the lapdances? did you think of him and how he would feel about it? If you knew it was going to bother him before it happend, then you shouldnt have done it. But if you thought it was not going to be a big deal and thought he would do the same thing,,,,, then he'll get over it in time
2007-08-17 13:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by nettie0228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyones definition of cheating varies.I believe you were NOT cheating if a lapdance is all you got.You were at a Bachelorette party for goodness sake!! I think he is insecure.Get rid of him, you deserve someone who trusts you.A relationship has to be based on trust. Good luck!!
2007-08-17 13:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'all obviously need to have a talk about where the "boundaries" are as far your relationship goes.
For some people - kissing another person is cheating... for others, anything short of intercourse isn't considered cheating. I've even heard of some women who consider a guy masturbating to porn as "cheating" (-- yikes!)
These boundaries NEED to be discussed - otherwise you'll just continue to have these disagreements and misunderstandings.
2007-08-17 13:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... its not cheating...
that being said...
if my girlfriend did the same i would have SERIOUS ISSUE....
when you are in a relationship you have to not only think of your wants and "is this ok"s but also the ones of your partner.
I have done tons of things and NOT done TONS MORE because i realized that could be taken wrong, or feelings may get hurt etc etc etc...
and thats with my girlfriend who IS NOT JEALOUS AT ALL
to be completely honest....
MOST ALL GUYS ARE SOMEWHERE....
that is just a fact..... im a very mature, confindent and grown adult MAN....
despite that or BECAUSE OF IT.... that stuff doesnt fly with me at all...
im guessing he is just the same way...
i really hope you work it out and all irons out, but keep that in mind next time
2007-08-17 13:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely not cheating!
He's just insecure.
A while back my friends and I threw a bachelorette party to one of our good friends, we had a stripper. Her boyfriend dropped her off at the party and he said to her "If they have a stripper, you better walk out of there". She enjoyed the stripper and she thought her boyfriend was just kidding, she told him about the stripper and he called off the wedding! lol that was too funny. They broke up and end up getting finally marry 2 years later after not seeing each other for a year... that was too funny and insecure from a guy, I thought I should share this with y'all. :)
2007-08-17 13:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Yes_It's_Me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how many is a few? you know if you got more than 2 it suggests you were really into it and actively seeking it out and it wasn't that your friends were just trying to embarrass you.. 6 lap dances is getting pretty close to cheating. it's not a black and white case. you can probably end the matter by getting your friends to issue written statements corroborating your story.
2007-08-17 13:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by gherd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no.
The lapdances are all part of the fun. He'd be doing the same thing at a stag night . You weren't the only one getting on were you?
If he's jealous about it then he needs to get over it. Its him who you love and a bit of fun once in a blue moon cant hurt can it!
2007-08-17 13:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not really, what you need to do is take him to a stripbar to get some lapdances and he will feel much better, go with him, trust me, this works every time!
2007-08-17 13:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋