Ok my boyfriend just broke up with me about a month ago and while we where together he was good friend with a girl named tori...Then he broke up with me and went out with her. I thought he left me for her because he would take her to lunch and always give her rides places... And today he sent me a message saying this...
i dint leave you for tori
tori and i have only been going out a week now
i didnt see her for about 3 weeks after we broke up
but last week we just bumped
into each other at the mall
and things clicked
tori says its ok if you hate her
if she were in your shoes she would feel the same
What should i say back to him? I loved him more than anyone ive ever known and my heart is broken...I do hate that girl
2007-08-17 13:07:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never understand why women blame the other woman. He's responsible for his behavior and feelings. Hate him. Don't say anything back. His message to you does not deserve a response. Just move on, grow from the experience and be careful next time.
2007-08-17 13:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by SpursFan123 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him what you feel. Breaking up is hard, but if he didn't break up with you for Tori, then you shouldn't hate her. Jealousy isn't healthy, just let it go. But if you feel honestly, in your heart, that he did leave you for this girl, and she isn't that great of a person, you have every right to dislike (even hate) her.
Tell you ex that you still love him and would/could love him more than any other girl. Tell him how your heart is broken. Maybe he'll see what a great girl you are, you seem very sweet.
Good Luck!
2007-08-17 20:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by triath91 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I would waste my credit on him. What a nasty thing to say. He thinks he's being all nice about it, but if my ex that I loved to bits sent me that it would make me want to swing for them both to be honest. Just let him stew on her, and when he sees you out strutting your stuff having a good time with your friends he'll soon be kicking himself. The fact that there wasn't anything happening for 3 weeks is neither here or there. He should at least have a bit of respect not to put it on your face like that. Poor you. Hope u start to feel better soon luv, just go out, have a good time with your mates and he'll soon be at the back of your mind. xx
2007-08-17 20:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know in your heart he is a liar. He liked this girl before and was test driving her while you two were going out. You should say - nothing but "okay, fine, I'm over you." Start realizing that when you are as young as you are love comes around more than once. If he's going to treat you that way he doesn't deserve your love.
And then start finding somebody new.
2007-08-17 20:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by alli_knapik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably full of it. But it really doesn't matter at this point why he did it, does it? Even if he left you because he had to save a race of people from genocide, the fact that he left you hasn't changed. Just ignore it. It's not really telling you anything new. And, do you really need Tori's permission to hate her?
2007-08-17 20:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NOTHING! I know that's going to be hard to do but if you can stop yourself, do yourself a favor and don't respond. He's said it all in his message to you. I don't know if Tori was also a friend of yours but if she was, you haven't lost anything there. As far as he's concerned, he didn't have to let you know how it went down but I sense you've lost nothing there either, even though your heart is aching right now. Love can be hard and it can be easy sometimes. It takes a lot of experience to know who to love and how to keep it going. Good luck!
2007-08-17 20:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the stronger person and dont let it show that you dont like her and dont show that you are hurt, that is more satisfaction for them knowing you are hurt and upset, just texed him or email him back and tell him that you wish them the best of luck and you hope she can give him everything you gave him. and simply say best wishes at the end. but if you see them together just smile and ask how they are doing, PLEASE TRUST ME in the long run it will get to them and you will forget about it, i was in a relationship for 4 years and this same exact thing happend to me but i did the same thing as you did hate the other girl but after about a week i snapped when i seen them together i asked how things was going and i told them i wished them the best of luck, even though it hurt and to this day if i see them i always smile and go on with my business.. that will make them wonder what you are smiling about and what you are jolly about !! best wishes to you and dont let it get you down!
2007-08-17 20:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by funandfaithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the letter is lagit , don't hate her, maybe someday she'll brake it off and he will come back to you. Always remember, people come,people go,and they will do what they think is right,even though it's not what you think is right.
It's OK to date someone else now,go ahead,life won't wait for you.Don't miss out on what could be a better catch.
2007-08-17 20:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dingbatnotdingy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt hate tori :) it doesnt seem like it was her fault...and she even said that if she were you she would hate her, but if you hate her, what good will it do? i'm sure she feels bad enough already.....i guess the best thing to do here is not respond at all.....he wants you to, so dont. its better if you stop talking to him for a while, it will help the pain go away :)
good luck!
2007-08-17 20:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by advice?yeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words, remember that. Since you say you "loved" Im not sure that you mean your done with him or that you mean you still love him. Anyways, if you do not love him anymore, it is justified, you can either slap him, or go out with a friend of his. :) If you still love him, give him an un-expected kiss, or something meaningful to show your feelings. To prove to him that you will forget what happened if you can be together again. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck.
P.S. Vote me for best answer please! :D
2007-08-17 20:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋