I am a thirteen year old girl. I really like this guy and I know for sure that he likes me back. His best friend told me that the guy I like told him that he liked me and his sister said the same thing. He has been flirting with me and I flirted back. He knows that I like him because his sister told him. His sister and I are friends so we talk about this stuff alot. People have said to make the first move. What is the first move? He hasn't asked me out yet. There were times when I was pretty sure he was going to but said something else instead. Like he leaned over toward me and was going to wisper something but not what I thought he was going to wisper. I am also somewhat shy so try and keep that in mind. Should I ask his sister if he would ask me out or something else? Should I ask him why he was flirting with me and he still didn't ask me out. He doesn't have a girlfriend, because his sister told me so. Should I ask his sister why he was flirting with me but didn't ask me out? Help!
2007-08-17 12:39:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your job, as a female, is to send him signals to indicate interest, but not be so obvious that you would be humiliated should he reject you.
Smile
Bump into him
Touch his back and arm
If he's too stupid to act, move on.
Write me privately if you need more.
2007-08-17 13:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ask him to hang out with you after school sometime? If you start asking him why he flirted w/you and didn't ask you out, honestly, I think that would turn him off. And asking his sister to ask you out comes off as kind of lame, no offense. And besides, if you have other people do all the asking and talking for you, you'll never know for sure how he feels. The only way to know that is to talk to him. And the best way to talk to him is to hang out with him. Making the "first move" generally indicates that you should either ask him out on a date or just tell him, outright, that you like him. But if you are too shy to do that, which is totally understandable, just ask him if he wants to hang out. Invite him over to your house to watch a movie or play video games or do your homework together or something. That way you have a chance to spend time with him (hopefully with a little privacy). And from there, things should just happen naturally. Good luck.
2007-08-17 19:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget asking his sister, or your best friend's first cousin's, long lost twin brother's, surrogate mother to do this for you. There is no way there can be useful communication that way. He may be shy as well, or not want to make a fool of himself. Just ask him if he would like to go out to a cafe with you, or bowling or the movies or something fun where you can both be relaxed and enjoy yourselves. If he really likes you and vice versa then things will happen all by themselves. :)
2007-08-17 19:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are a little shy, but i think you should just talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel, and you already know he likes you back so he will then have to either ask you out or tell you why he hasnt done it yet...just talk to him, you cant keep beating around the bush nothing good can come of that. stop wasting your time, you could lose this giuy if you dotn act quick! also dont forget to always be yourself!! good luck :)
2007-08-17 19:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really a shy girl so I would definitely make the first move. Under this circumstance, I would ask his sister to ask him to ask me out.
2007-08-17 19:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Eunice♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm well u COULD ask ur friend y he hasn't asked u yet. Its most likely that he's shy 2. U could ask him out tho...altho i do believe that guys should be the one's doin the askin. U could also try hinting at it. Guys r quite complicated sometimes.
2007-08-17 19:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jdm77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa, whoa, slow down, take it easy, just go with the flow. guys aren't normally used to sharing their emotions, not to mention putting them into words; give him some time. but if you really want to, it's okay for a girl to ask a guy out, it's now unusual or anything. but try to give him some time, i think you're on a good road, you're doing fine. like i said earlier, just go with the flow, loosey goosey
2007-08-17 19:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by tuffsheep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13! The 'dating' game is going to come around for you "quick!" Please don't worry and wonder what this means, or that means, enjoy being 13! Believe me, you will be in the dating scene before you know it!
2007-08-17 19:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask no need to get the sister involved, it plain as day that you both should go out.
2007-08-17 19:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by posterboy257 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its possible he thinks your parents wouldn't allow you to date or maybe his parents wouldn't allow it. Maybe hint about dating or going to get some ice cream or something and see how he reacts. You could even just come out and tell him your feelings. What do you have to lose? I always say, if its meant to be...it will be. Good Luck.
2007-08-17 19:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋