What is God telling us in Hebrews 13:4?

Question

God inspired the writer of Hebrews to say, "Marriage is honorable in all , and the bed undefiled: but whore mongers and adulterers God will judge." What is this telling us? Is this saying that what a man and a wife does in the marraige bed during sex is alright, or are there things the two of them together can not do?

Answer 1

he is saying it is only ok to have sex when you are married.

Answer 2

Here's a pretty good answer to that question although the answer was specifically about oral sex.


Is Oral Sex A Sin - What Does the Bible Say?
Couples often ask, "Is oral sex a sin?" The best place to look for answers is in the Bible. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." The first point the Bible makes very clear is that sex - all types - is designed specifically for married couples. Non-married couples are not to practice premarital sex.

The Bible never indicates exactly what a husband and wife are allowed to do in their sexual relationship. However, there are some sexual principles that we can consider.



Mutual Consent - 1 Corinthians 7:5 says, "Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." This verse indicates that each sexual activity should be mutually agreed upon.


Adultery is Sin - The Bible is very clear that any form of adultery is sin, even if both people in a marriage relationship agree to it. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God." Adultery also includes "swapping" or adding sexual partners.

Viewing Pornography is a Sin - Matthew 5:28 is very clear. "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Pornography viewed alone or together as a couple is sin. 1 John 2:16 says, "For everything in the world - the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does - comes not from the Father but from the world."

Is Oral Sex A Sin - Practical Application
When answering the question "Is oral sex a sin," it is important to remember that God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love for married couples. When the husband or the wife does not feel that sex is a "beautiful expression of love," then changes need to be made in that couple's sex life. Evidentially, the actions are not mutually beneficial to each person. Nothing in the Bible says that oral sex is a sin, however it may not be appropriate for every couple.

Is Oral Sex A Sin - Questions to Consider
Consider these questions when answering the question "Is oral sex a sin?"

Is oral sex voluntary and have both the husband and wife agreed to it?


Why do you want oral sex? Is it for pure sexual pleasure or is it to fulfill a sexual fantasy derived from porn?


Have you or your spouse been convicted by the Holy Spirit that oral sex is wrong?


Does oral sex edify and fulfill both you and your spouse?
While answering these questions, pray for guidance from God. He will reveal the answer to you - for your relationship.

Answer 3

What a man and his wife do in the privacy of their bedroom is sacred, and it is for them alone. The only exception is for one to force the other or harm the other in any way. As Paul says elsewhere, the man belongs to the woman, and the woman belongs to the man...they may not deprive one another unless it is for a time of prayer and fasting, and then they must come back together again. Good rule.
However, ANY sex that is not between a man and a woman who are in a committed marriage relationship, God will judge.
It really is that simple.

Answer 4

I think that you got it right. Paul also wrote this:
1 Corinthians 7
4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.

Answer 5

I'm not 100% sure but I think thats talking about sex outside of marraige, cheating and swinging (and pretty much any thing of that 'with another person' nature)

Answer 6

It is saying that you should be married before you get into bed. Judgement is free from those that are married, not given restrictions. If you are not married you should not have sex because those are the ones god will judge; not the married.

Answer 7

an adulterer is somebody who has sex before marriage. sex is supposed to be for a married woman and man who love each other to enjoy in the practice of the miracle of life in which God designed. Using sex simply for personal pleasuere outside of marriage is a sin.

Answer 8

Husband and wife can please each other in bed as they like. But to commit adultery means to be unfaithful to one's partner. This is a sin. Jesus clarifies for us that a man (and a woman) can commit adultery in their heart by lusting after another. Whether in heart or in bed, they are sins and need to be repented of. Thank God Jesus paid the price for our sins, because if He didn't, there would be no hope for any of us.

Answer 9

That is what is being said.....tempered with "husbands, love your wives" and all passages which speak mutual love in marriage.

Christians have a lot of freedom in all things...... including sex.

Answer 10

What you and your wife do in bed is nobody's business but yours alone.