ok, i have been dating this guy and i love him and he loves me too. I knew he was preety old than me but i still went out wid him cuz i thought he is like 6-7 yrs older than me but today i asked him and he told me that he is 36 and i am 17. i know u guyz r gonna say to breakup wid him he is a rapist...but he is not i really luv him and its gonna feel weird wen i c him again cuz now i kno his real age he told me if i wanted to breakup wid him i can... i am in a reallly confused place cuz i dont kno if dis relationship is gonna work u kno wat i mean.
plz think bout it and give me ur opinion . Y ,Y does age matters
2007-08-17 12:18:03 · 12 answers · asked by someone special u can love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think of it this way when he was 19 years old you was only just being born...he had already left school by then etc etc etc.It is really bad babe and you should end it and go out with someone more your age because you will have more in common with a guy around your own age.Age doesnt matter when your older and wiser but it does when your young and not properly matured yet or experienced much in your life....goodluck babe
2007-08-17 12:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is very little if any chance of this relationship working, you may feel good about it now but that is b/c it is the beginning and he is trying to get in your pants. I can guarantee that a man his age is not dating you for your personality or something, There is no reason besides sex that a 36 year old man would want from a 17 yr old girl, sorry there just isn't and besides that if he does have sexual relations with you it is statutory rape in almost all the states. They made that law for a reason, think about it and be mature enough to know when you need to rely on others knowledge and trust their word as they have nothing to gain by telling you to get away from him. So, get away from him, go find a nice guy closer to your age and maybe you will enjoy a long love and friendship relationship that will knock your socks off.
2007-08-17 19:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by REBECKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 36, he is more than twice your age.Ordinarily, I would have called for an end to the relationship ; but I sense something here that is totally based on my instincts and not on anything objective.Until you found out his true age ,you had no problem with the romance or doubt the workability.Now , you say you are confused and don't know if it is going to work.I get the feeling that you are now more concerned with what people close to you( family and friends)are going to say or think rather than your feelings for him or his for you.There are instances of couples with age differences greater than yours(Sophia loren and Carlo Ponti come immediately to mind) who have made a success of their romance.What I suggest you do is 1)get a grip of your feelings for him;.ask yourself if you would have continued to date him if the age difference were smaller2)ask him about his true feelings for you in light of the new realities3)talk to trusted family and/or friends and ask their opinion and not to limit their answers to the age issue4)then talk to your family and if it is needed, bring him along to meet your family5)make your decision.Sometimes age does not matter or is not the sole determinant of whether a couple should be together.I hope you can find the plateau that works for you.Good luck.
2007-08-17 19:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok from a legal point of view, he is SO OFF LIMITS, until you turn 18. Plus hes like twice your age. I mean i get the whole "mature guy thing", but maybe you should break it off until your a little older and know exactly what you want from him and the relationship. You going to be starting life soon, whether that means going to college, or getting a job, or w/e else you may choose. I would suggest you get throught that before doign anything serious with this guy.
2007-08-17 19:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by speakupgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while age does not matter at 17 you are a little young ---- if you both care for each other then maybe just tone it down for a year or so at least --- get to know each other and make sure you dont break any laws as that would really put a dent in the relationship ---- best wishes
2007-08-17 19:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, im not saying that hes a rapist but u see,, ur only 17,, ino this stuff cuz my ex is 16 and shes going out with a 21-22ish college guy, i think its not fair becuz u dont much experience on older guys. i can help u if u want just email me or chat with me on aim. my sn is smoothgangsta313. i need more details and i know i can help u.
2007-08-17 19:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you trust him and that he wouldn't do anything to hurt you, i say stay with him. You love him, and that's what matters no matter what the age. (well, unless he's like, 50 yrs older...) 19 years isn't THAT bad I've heard worse.
2007-08-17 19:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by akgirl1105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can just ask urself whats wrong with him and the fact that hes 36 and that he wants to date 17 year old girl?
2007-08-17 19:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by madame239 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 years is one hell of a gap in age, values and life experience. If you want kids later think about them. Are they going want a dad who is too old to play with them?
2007-08-17 19:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by Pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe, im sorry i know you dont wanna hear this but you need to break up with him! what would your parents think!! just take this advice and break up..think about it..no 36 year old man should be dating a 17 year old he knows he shouldnt be..somethings wrong with him
2007-08-17 19:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋