Her and I got along great till her other daughter in law-whom she did not get along with left town. Now she tries to start arguments between my husband and I and is acting weird in general. She told my husband I never answer the phone when she calls-I work and take care of our 18 month old. If I am busy I don't drop what i'm doing and run to the phone ( if I happen to go to answer the phone now and I see it's her I don't answe it anymore though). She just showed up at our house yesterday afternoon and I was looking something up online (an article I wanted my husband to see) I looked up and she was here (peeping around the corner in the hallway, god knows why she didn't just walk over and sit on the couch. I look up again and she is gone. I figure she is in the bathroom. My husband is standing here and I ask him. He looks and she just left. I told him, I bet ya $10 she got mad and left because I didn't jump up and make a fuss over her. I won $10.
2007-08-17 12:16:51 · 8 answers · asked by viper pilot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's easy: she's your husband's mother--he deals with her. She's clearly presumputous, rude, malicious and spoiling for a fight. Don't give it to her. Make HIM deal with her to your satisfaction. In a marriage, the spouse is FIRST, even before the child for, as a shrink friend of mine once said, the best thing you can do for your children is to love your spouse.
Tell him to get busy. It might help to give him a list of your grievances. I'd write it down--that way he isn't put in the position of having to defend her. Be fair but firm.
2007-08-17 15:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem throughout my marriage but worse because my husband sided with his mother. I grew to dislike my mother-in-law and resent my husband. As long as your husband stands up for you and puts you first in his life I would say to just tolerate your mother-in-law and don't allow her to make your life miserable.
2007-08-17 19:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are me!!!!
I now have nothing to do with my MIL but our situation is the opposite, her daughte rmoved into town. We took her and her daughter in for 4 weeks for my SIL to steal from us, lie to us, exploit us, and then she tried to hurt my baby!
My MIL doesn't believe all this even though she knows exactly what her daughter is capable of and what she does. But would she listen - No!
Just recently she told my husband she had been trying to call me, i said no she hasen't, my phone has been by me all day and she has NOT tried calling, 3 times she told him this and 3 times i made him check the phone log to see for himself that she hasen't called! I'm nothing to her anymore, she didn't even call her granddaughter on her birthday to wish her so!
When she didn't call my daughter, i ended it with her. I haven't said anything to her face, we haven't seen her in 9 weeks and when we do speek to her she throws this pitty party in our faces about her daughter. Even my husband has had it with her so we don't phone her anymore, we don't visit period! I don't what to suggest in your circumstance, but just don't give into your mother in law, smile, ask her how she is, and when she keeps arguing, your husband will see just who is in the wrong, at least your braving it and being nice, she'll come out looking bad in the end just like my MIL has!
2007-08-17 19:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are perfectly capable of handling the problem. My only suggestion is that you should be sure to keep the door locked.
2007-08-17 19:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would lock my door so she cannot just walk right in. She has to respect your privacy and know that you have a family to take care of.
2007-08-17 20:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man i would hate my mother in law getting in between me and my hubby. hubby needs to put his foot down with mommy before things get worse. talk to her first if nothing changes then let the man deal with mom.
2007-08-17 19:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by grunt's wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your husband said anything to her??? its his mother, he needs to tell her that its your lives and you are doing a good job taking care of them..( him and your baby) . and that you are busy and dont have to answer to her......
if she doesnt like that, tough....and as for coming over unannounced, thats her fault for not calling.. you are not obligated to entertain her......
2007-08-17 19:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move! That's what I did to get away from my wife's crazy family.
2007-08-17 19:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by gregoryb96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋