My neighbors daughters hits,chokes,bites.scratches,and throws objects to hurt my children.Her mother just yells at her to stop,and I have had to intervene to many times.Im tired of it,I teach my children to walk away if they get angry at a person.About two days ago my neighbors daughter and her cousin both 5 years old killed a cat by stuffing it in a bucket and putting dirt and broken cement blocks on top.Im getting worried about my childrens safety since we live next door to her.My children are 3 and 5,i really dont want to tell them that hitting and what she is doing is normal and ok because its not.Any advice will be welcomed.
2007-08-17 11:48:35 · 25 answers · asked by alex_aaliyahs_mom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I have always been outside with both of my children when they play with my neighbors daughter.They are always within my sight,and that is how i know that this little girl has been hurting my children.This is an extra detail for those who think im not outside with my children.Since posting this question I have made sure that my children have had little contact with the little girl besides sharing the same bus stop they arent allowed to play with her anymore,and I also contacted Family Services.Thanks to all who replied and all advice that was given was excellent advice.Thanks
2007-08-21 11:25:07 · update #1
Keep your kids away from the neighbor, daughter, and cousin. You also might want to report the cat killing--I don't think much would be done to 5 year olds, but maybe a visit from the cops would keep it from escalating.
2007-08-17 12:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by ALLI P 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First, try to talk to this Woman again. It would be best for everyone if you could all work this out without the authorities.
If she does not do anything to stop her child, the next step is to speak to an attorney and send her an official letter threatening to call the proper authorities if she does not find a way to stop her child.
If she cannot keep or teach her daughter not to resort to violence, then you will have no choice but to contact the police, file a report against the child on your children's behalf (and it would be a good idea to take pictures or video's of the neighbors child being violent or any bruises/scratches/other injuries to give to the police as evidence), and let the police deal with it.
I can tell you, though, that it would be best if you can avoid that for everyone involved. The last thing that you want is a feud between neighbors. But, if this child will not stop and her mother will not put a stop to it, then you have the right to take this to the proper authorities so that it will stop.
Best of luck!
Peace,
Jenn
2007-08-17 12:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by jenn_smithson 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only way this sitiation will stop is if you hold the parent accountable for all of her kids action. For example if her little daughter were to damage any of your property and you sustain any bodily injury due to this child, you should take the appropriate steps. First you need to file a police report after each incident, after about 3 incidences you need to contact your local childrens services as an anonymous caller because neglect is also a form of abuse. Besides if the little girl is already acting like this at a young age, she will be uncontrollable when she gets older and this could pose a threat to you in the future. Good luck
2007-08-17 15:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by kiki_minnie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her mother is obviously not going to step up to the plate to correct her daughter, for whatever reason, it's not good enough. These are your children and you have EVERY right to protect them, in whatever way you can. In this day and age of video camera's, it might not be a bad idea to get her on film, just as a back up.
This girl hurts other children for a reason and killing a cat is just escalating whatever is off with her. You fear for your children's safety, if intervening doesn't work, I'm a mother too and have had to deal with these kinds of kids myself. I make sure I have their attention and tell this girl "You will NOT hurt my babies." Very sternly, if you're worried about hard feelings with her mother, don't be, your children come first.
If this still continues, I would have a talk with the girls teacher or social services because clearly, this is not a very healthy, social little girl.
2007-08-17 12:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, do NOT let your children anywhere near this girl. I know it's hard since she lives next door, but you will just have to go through the extra work of creating playdates with other children.
Second, I hate to say it, but you need to report the cat incident. Torturing animals is an early indicator of sociopathic behavior. Something could be happening to the little girl to make her act this way. Good luck.
2007-08-18 04:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by C C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you see your neighbors daughter outside and hurting a kid, or killing another animal or just up to something bad call the parents and tell them what has been going on and how come you just yell at her, and not punish her or spank her for her actions!! if that girl is getting to a point where she is threating a childs life i would just call the police on the neighbors!
2007-08-21 08:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by hannah m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That child has severe problems and if her parents don't get her into therapy she will end up in jail. A lot of serial killers got their start as children terrorizing animals and other children. If the parents refuse to do anything I would call CPS and the police to report about the cat.
2007-08-17 12:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Waaaaaay too much drama on this one! Don't allow your children to play OR be around these neighbors. Set your boundaries with your own children and they will eventually learn "those" kids aren't the right choice. Doesn't matter that they live next door...you still have your own yard.
2007-08-17 12:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report it to HRS the police or someone so the girl can get physcological help....and tell them about the cat...and your childrens safety..You have to do it for the childrens safety...tell her about all things and that your daughter needs help so she can get better...Becuase kids arent born evil if shes like that it must be becuase theres someone in the house teaching the girl to be that way!
good luck! e-mail me any questions...
bye!
2007-08-17 13:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit letting your kids play with her! How hard was that to come up with? Are you even out there with them when they're playing? The 3 year old is too young to be out there without adult supervision, and I would argue the 5 year old is as well unless there's an older sibling out there too. Either way, it's clear your neighbors aren't going to change, so you MUST.
2007-08-18 05:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋