Can I make my shyness go away? How?

Question

I hate it. I get so nervous talking to people.

Answer 1

this may sound funny but talk to your self in the mirror..people have done it befor and really really helped them alot

Answer 2

I used to have the same problem. What you should do is just go out and be yourself. Chances are the person that you are talking to is just as nervous as you.

I took a speech class in college a while ago and their suggestion was to stand in front of a mirror and practice talking to the mirror. By talking to the mirror, it will give you the confidence to talk to strangers.

Most important thing that you can do to overcome your shyness is don't concern yourself too much about what other people think of you. You will meet so very nice people that will go out of the way to be friendly. You will also meet people some not-so-friendly people and it is those clowns that you should not be concerned with because these clowns just aren't worth wasting your time or energy over.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I was terribly shy all through elementary school, middle school and high school. I think the main causes for mine were partly it was my personality, but also we moved alot, my dad was in military and i suffered some serious abuse from a young age...

These are some things that helped me and I hope they help you. First, I forced myself to take a public speaking class in high school and to get a job dealing with the public. It was very scary at the time and hard, but it did help me to start overcoming the shyness. Don't stay away from social situations, place yourself in them so you get used to talking, socializing etc...

Don't think you are weird or strange for being so shy. Many teenagers and grownups as well suffer from shyness to some extent. Mainly it is caused because we want to be liked, want to say the right thing and are afraid we won't. I know when i was a teenager i was very afraid of boys because i didn't know what to talk to them about, when i finally started talking to them i found out they weren't that much different from the girls i was talking too. As you get older, you tend to lose some of the shyness, because you are working, maturing, extending your experiences and with confidence developed out of those situations you lose that insecurity.

I know that you must have hope. If you had seen how shy i was at your age (I couldn't even go to a store and make a purchase that is how bad it was). I never looked anyone in the eye, etc...And now I am 49 years old, never meet a stranger and a people person!

My friends say that people gravitate towards me and everyone likes me. You know why? Because i always remember how it felt to feel uncomfortable, shy and out of control/insecure - those feelings have made me an empathetic person and i try to put people at ease when we meet. I give them a big smile, am friendly, ask questions about them to show i am interested in them and this makes them feel good! So use your shyness as a tool. First, remember that we are all insecure and scared in certain situations - I mean how many people do you know that hate public speaking? We all want to be accepted and liked and then just get out there and take chances and try to turn your shyness around - don't worry only about you try to focus on the other person and make them feel at ease...see what happens!
Identify the reasons you think you are shy and wk on changing them as well...
Don't give up you sound like a great person and it takes time.

Answer 4

It's not easy. You have to make yourself be more outgoing. Try to think of things to say to people before you engage them in conversation. Start with a greeting and then ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and it gives you time to try and relax in a nervous situation. The more you force yourself to go up and talk to people, the easier it gets.

Also, you may find it helpful to find someone to emulate in this respect. If you know people you admire because of their personality and friendliness, take the good qualities you see and incorporate them into yourself. You might even want to ask them how they do it--it could give you insight.

Best of luck! You can do it. Believe in yourself and you can become the person you want to be.

Answer 5

It is a proven fact that smiling releases endophins that can actually ease tension and nervousness. Try smiling and you will appear more friendly, speak softer and slower and take the edge off the nerves. A smile is natures way of making us happy and easing tention, watch some national geographic shows about chimps and you will see that in a tense situation the chimp always has a "smile" on his face. Wish u the best!

Answer 6

I am like you, and i get all tense when strangers and other people talk to me. And when people ask "why don't you talk?" I get even more nervous. People just don't understand what it is like. Tell me if you get an answer.

Answer 7

Practice. Talking with people is a skill, and every skill requires practice. Start talking with people who don't make you nervous and keep working at it.

Answer 8

Hey man, I am the same way too. I was always shy around girls, even if I wasnt attracted to them. But then I met the right girl, and now we are going to be getting married. Point is, be yourself, don't change for anyone, because one day, a lucky girls going to come along, that loves you for who you are.

Answer 9

all u can do is force urself to do whatever u r so nervous about after doing it over and over eventually u can get over the shyness that comes w/ it.

Answer 10

relax I'm like that too. Go out of your shell beyond the limits. Take your mind off that and just be yourself and shake it off. I get nervous just ordering pizza....OVER THE PHONE !