I find myself constantly needing reassurance from men. Is anyone else the same way. How can I fix this?
2007-08-17 08:41:32 · 15 answers · asked by Liberal City 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know, but just hearing that makes me want to reassure you...
(From the little I know of you from reading your Q&A, and from the teeny little picture you have next to your name, I can assure you that you're an intelligent, attractive, morally grounded, and thoughtful young woman.)
If you really feel a /constant/ need for reassurance, you probably do need to worry less about what people think of you, and engage in more introspection. People often talk about the need for 'self confidence.' I think that's putting the cart before the horse. Focus on accomplishing postive things and the self-confidence should come as you succeed. Considering you're almost through college, you must have done a lot of that already. Similarly, you're employed in a challenging profession, at a young age, in a field that has historically been exclusive.
You've earned some self-confidence.
2007-08-17 08:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by B.Kevorkian 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a funny thing, because (as a man) I can tell you that men crave reassurance as much. We love to be reassured that our woman thinks were the "handyman extraordinaire," or "Mr. Loverman." If you find yourself constantly needing reassurance from men, there are possibly two things afoot here. One, you have experienced a relationship that went wrong in the fidelity/trust department (hoping I'm wrong about that). Second, you may be second-guessing your ability to acknowledge your own worth (which is more common than you'd think). You clearly, after reading your little bio, have a bright future around you. You're in college, in a beautiful city, and you are open-minded. Those all are big-time pluses! Just believe you are the "Queen," and some guy will come along and be happy to reassure you willingly that he'd love to be your "King!" Good luck!
2007-08-17 15:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Semi-Evil 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're all desperately insecure. The only man that matters is Jesus Christ and He gives you complete assurance. No need to be reassured, you are assured abundant life. Live the abundant life. Don't let insecurities bring you down. How do you do that? By keeping your eyes on Jesus, your great hope. Seek ye first the kingdom and all these things will be added.
2007-08-17 17:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're insecure. That's why you need reassurance from men. No, I'm not that way because, well, I'm awesome and I know it. Figure out what is good to be you and focus on that, rely on yourself and be independent. Basically only building your self-esteem will fix this.
2007-08-17 15:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by RoseXXX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most women who needs reassurance from men..had a bad experiences in life...most of those women came from a broken family where their father left them or maybe they have been maltreated.
Some just had a traumatice relationship from the past which really hunts them.
2007-08-17 15:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Pinoy_Pride 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
self knowledge is the only way to stop looking for reassurance from anyone, let alone men. once you know who you are and what you're about, you won't need anyone to reassure you of what you already know.
2007-08-17 15:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good luck trying to find reassurance in men.
I think its because its nice to be complimented and when you grow up parents don't do it often, your kids rarely do and so you would hope a man would. Remember you are special. God thinks so.
2007-08-17 15:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
all the time!! i guess its because i never had a stong male figure in my life to tell me that certain guys are full of it and will tell you anything they think you want to hear. if i had been told in advance at then i would have been a little more cautious when it came to believing men. the thing i can think to tell you is to PRAY--it can fix anything.
2007-08-17 15:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by missmaya417 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you should assess yourself with the help of professionals. I'm guessing either of these two:
- You had a former traumatic relationship
- You have an emotional problem with your dad/ your dad abused you emotionally
- You didn't grew up with a dad
2007-08-17 15:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Smile2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are looking for self-affirmation from someone else rather than from within, be it due to self-esteem or self-confidence issues.
Don't let anyone else control how you feel about yourself like that.
2007-08-17 15:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋