I am invited to a co-worker's wedding this weekend. It will be a typical affair. The church ceremony, then the reception and dinner and dancing. But I was surprised and a little shocked to hear that they won't be having a Honeymoon!
What? I prononuce you Man and Wife, and then show up for work on Monday?
Shouldn't there be a honeymoon?
Money is not an issue and I'm the groom's boss. He can have the whole week off - I'm no Ebenezer Scrooge.
2007-08-17 08:21:16 · 27 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Whoa Lord Vader! You grace us with your presence --- Err, it wasn't me that gave you those thumbs down, it must be the Rebels!
2007-08-18 16:28:52 · update #1
Without the wedding, there would not be any honeymoon.
We didn't have a honeymoon. We had a big traditional wedding for 200 guests, which we paid for ourselves. There was no money left for a trip, it was more important to hold a great celebration, which we wanted. We got married the end of July, and I didn't start teaching til the fall term; he as well didn't start work til September. So after the wedding, we basically set up the triplex we were living in - I had lived there a month before the wedding, and he moved in after we got married.
It's been 18 years, and not sad at all we did it that way!
(kazacan - the wedding reception is almost just as important as the ceremony. The reception is for those who witnessed your vows, to celebrate with the couple - it's this public becoming "one with the larger community" which is actually very important, to be with family and friends.)(We learned this in our pre-marital counselling.)
2007-08-17 08:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those trick questions, isn't it? Which is more important, the wedding or the honeymoon, and the answer is, The Marriage!
We married on a Saturday, back to work the following Monday. (His boss *was* Ebenezer Scrooge.) No harm done.
Maybe the couple wants to save the money they'd blow on a honeymoon for the down payment on a house, or for a better car, or furniture, or a trip near Christmas. Maybe he knows you're a good guy and he could get the time off, but she really can't be away from work just now. Or maybe it's simply that they're already plenty intimate and the point of the honeymoon and its romance doesn't really apply, in their opinions.
A truly wonderful gift, the kind that makes people say, "Awwww!" might be arranging for the groom to have the week off, with pay, for a honeymoon at home, especially if you can coordinate a few days off for the bride, behind the scenes. Present it with a bottle of nice wine and the gift will be long-remembered.
2007-08-17 08:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people aren't taking honeymoons anymore. The people that I've known who didn't do it was because of time off or money. You may not think that money is an issue, but do you know how freaking expensive weddings are these days?! I was very fortunate that my in-laws paid for the wedding. But I still ended up draining my bank account a couple of days before the wedding. (Actually, I overdrew on it. Oops!) So many little things come up that you don't anticipate and they add up!! Also, maybe time off is an issue for his bride. Did you think of that? There's also a chance that the honeymoon just isn't that big of a deal for them. I enjoyed my honeymoon, but the wedding was where I had the most fun. Some people just enjoy a big party more than a vacation. Especially if they're able to take vacations pretty frequently.
2016-04-01 20:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either wedding or honeymoon are THAT important in the grand scheme of things. Marriage is the most important thing. If the couple doesn't feel compelled to go somewhere - what's the big deal? Maybe they don't like to travel. I don't see a problem at all with getting married on the weekend, and going back to work on Monday. Some people postpone their "honeymoon" trip for several months - maybe they're planning a big cruise for next year; how would you know?
My husband and I went on our "honeymoon" cruise a month before we got married; this is just how our schedules worked out. We still have great memories - both of the cruise and the wedding. But the most important things for us was BEING married. Not signing the license, not going on the trip.
2007-08-17 08:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the priorities all wrong. The wedding ceremony is the ONLY important part, not even the reception is necessary. Honeymoons were begun because in former years the bride and groom had not been intimate yet. This period was so they would be together , alone, without work stress or prying eyes. The period was generally from "one full moon to the next" and full of sweetness (honey) Couples today have many options and it may be that this couple has decided to take a trip that is better suited to a different part of the year. Butt out! You were "shocked" ?!?!?!!? I am shocked that you have this reaction. Maybe they were hoping that you would be giving them a trip as your gift seeing as money isn't an issue. That's what we gave OUR housekeeper - a week in a resort plus the paid time off. Cheapskate.
2007-08-17 08:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing is the marriage. Neither the wedding or the honeymoon take place about this. Perhaps it is most important to the couple to maintain their regular schedule/balance in their lives. Maybe they just don't like the idea of taking off on a honeymoon directly after the stress of a wedding. They might not care to travel. It could be a list of a million things. All that matters is that they are happy and doing what they want to do - perhaps that means waiting till their first anniversary to take a truly nice honeymoon. Who knows..unless you ask.
2007-08-17 10:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think it really just depends on the couple. For some people, having a huge wedding with a kickin' reception where the booze flows and all the friends and family are having a good time is what's most important to them. To others, taking a nice honeymoon where they can spend a nice vacation alone would be more important.
Personally I'd want the best of both :)
2007-08-17 08:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ari 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know someone doing the same thing, spent 50,000 on the wedding and reception but are having no honeymoon and back to work on Mon. I think it's crazy! We actually were going to have the big wedding and reception, but decided yesterday a honeymoon is more important than spending all that money for people to eat and drink, so we are having a small 15 ppl ceremony and maybe dinner after! And then taking that 12,000 and going on a kick *** trip!!!
2007-08-17 08:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on who it's more important to. The Wedding is more important to the family and friends, while the Honeymoon is for the couple. Perhaps they are delaying the Honeymoon until the Bride can get the time off or it's a more convenient time to take it. Perhaps she works for a school district or something and since school is getting ready to start, it's not a good time to leave.
2007-08-17 09:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither the wedding nor the honeymoon are the important things. The MARRIAGE is more important.
The really funny thing about this is that everybody wants their wedding to be unique and different. But they still have the same components, just with different colours and flowers and decorations. Right down to ring, shower(s), wedding, reception, honeymoon. It's all quite ironic.
2007-08-17 15:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋