what do you think?

Question

what would you do if your child called you from a party drunk?

would you go pic him up, would you ground him, what would you do?

this is hypothetical,


i am 17

i just want to see what people would do.

Answer 1

I lived this very same scenario when I was 16 (I'm 40 now). I called my mom for a ride (sounding perfectly sober of course ~ ha!) she came and picked me up, I walked out the front door and fell down the stairs. I got sick when I got home and was very hung over the next morning. She decided that was punishment enough and my pulsating head would teach me a lesson ~ she was correct!

No matter what age they are explain the dangers of alcohol, drinking and driving, etc. If it becomes a regular habit seek help ~ and yes I would start grounding them at that point. If they call you for help, always go pick them up. You never want to chance them getting a ride from someone else at the party that may have been drinking too.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I would definatelly pick them up. I would be proud of the fact that they heard all my lectures on not getting in a car drunk and driving or riding with someone that was drinking.

As far as punshing it really depends on the age at what i would do, I am assuming this isnt a legal age child , so I would tell them again about what drinking could lead too, maybe make them go a aaa meeting and listen in to how it affects families and the aftermath of it.

I always tell my children that no matter what you do if you need my help please call me, even if you think you will get in to trouble because although you may get grounded or such that it is more important not to hide things because I will never be able to help you.

So commend the child for calling you and being responsiable enough to know not to drive or get in a car but make them aware of it is illegal to be drinking underage.

Then as a parent I would want to know where the booze came from and get in contact with that person.Me and that person would have a chit chat and proably the law called.

Answer 3

I would absolutely go pick them up. I don't know this kids age or the situation, but calling you, drunk, took an act of courage. At this point, he's been exposed to it, and you can ground him, but I think that would be a waste of time. Instead, I would sit down, have an open conversation about what happened. How pleased you are that he called (God forbid he got in a car or drove in that state) and discuss drinking, parties and being a kid. While he made some bad choices (this could be the first time this has ever happened) he exercised good choices too in calling you.

The best form of punishment if you want it to be effective, is to have your child up bright and early to do some chores.

Answer 4

I would go pick him up. It Wouldn't matter how old he was or if he had a license or not. He is showing maturity in not driving while under the influence, which is the right thing to do. If underage I would have a good talk with him the next day as to grounding ,I would take into consideration that he did call for a ride so the grounding would be something agreeable to both of us and for a short time.

Answer 5

Well it would all depend on th age range of the child. But first and foremost tell him you appreciate that he was honest and that he was rational and very smart not to drink and drive, since he did call you he obviously trusts you very much and feels comfortable discussing things with you. It is very important that you keep this bond since it can be hard to maintain as a child gets older and starts to go out more on their own. I definetly would go pick him up, he may feel that he cannot confide in you if you make a "huge deal out of it" and refuse to go get him. I would lay out some ground rules, tell him what you expect out of him when he goes out alone, talk with your child about the danger of alcohol and drinking and driving, but wait until he is sober. Tell him that you are proud of him for deciding not to drink and drive, but you would have rather he decided not to drink and explain why. Also explain to him that if he is under age and caught the consequences can be severe. Talking is key the silly comercials you see on TV are very right about that

Answer 6

I would pick my child up and thank them for not driving drunk or getting into a vehicle with someone who had been drinking.

AND

If my child was younger than 18, I would tell them that I will not accept that behavior (drinking at such a young age) and it will be the last time they drink until they are old enough or don't live at home anymore.

Answer 7

it depends,looking at this from the point of view of a child, not a parent. if the child is 21 or older, they are on their own! if they are like still in high school then go pick them up, then wait to punish them. at least they called for a ride instead of getting in the car drunk or with someone drunk.

if you live in the U.K. then your drinking age is different, and I would say anything over drinking age leave them.

Answer 8

I told my son if he is ever at a party and drinks to call me to pick him up no questions asked I DO NOT WANT HIM GETTING IN THE CAR WITH A DRUNK DRIVER. I'll deal with his drinking later. Its inevitable a teen will be in that situation at some point. The best way is to avoid drinking altogether. Have a soda or energy drinks are cool. If you feel pressured or don't want to seem not cool say you have stomach problems and drinking alcohol makes it worse. When you tell peers you have a medical problems they seem to back off.

Answer 9

Yes,I would go pick him up.. no matter what people think-their child is not perfect and ALL (I'd be totally shocked if ALL were TOTALLY honest and never ever tried alcohol) try it at some point. I'd pick him up, and I guess depending on his/her age would depend on the punishment of talk. If really young-i'd go to whom had the party and talk to them andyes ground him. If he is a little older teen, definetly a major talk and if first time/maybe no punishment--alot depends on his reaction and attitude.

Answer 10

I would go pick him up, take care of him, let him sleep it off - then make him clean the house from top to bottom with his hangover.

I will DRILL into my children the fact that you never drive while drunk. I don't want them to drink underage at all, but I hope and pray that they will always know they can call me if they do have too much.