Right up until the point he told me about her, my ex was pretty civil with me and treated me like a human being. Now he has found someone else and claims that i'm trying to sabotage their relaitonship (he's known her for 2 weeks) and treats me like I'm 2nd to her in every way. Is this how it's supposed to be? Can ex's really be friends?
2007-08-17 08:03:50 · 16 answers · asked by g 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am friends with my ex but you are supposed to be second to the new girlfriend. Could you imagine being the new girlfriend and him having his ex coming first???? That would be horribly wrong. Deal with it, because that is how it is supposed to be.
2007-08-17 08:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by fairiechild102682 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's can be friends. I was with my ex for 4 and a half years. We split up a year and a half ago and have remained closed friends. In that time we have each dated other people and still continued to hang out. But...not everyone can handle post breakup friendships. Best advice is to behave like friends without trying to give unwanted advice and behave like you're still in a relationship with the person.
2007-08-17 15:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by meneermalik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's can be friends, but BOTH of them need to realize that it is time to move on and that they will not be the #1 person in the other's life any more.
Sounds like you have some jealousy issues. Get over it, he has moved on and this is not your place to create problems.
2007-08-17 15:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a sign that he's still immature and u need to move on...u don't deserve to be treated like that from of all people an ex. and yes, ex's can be friends, but he's not going about it the right way and is about to lose out.
2007-08-17 15:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Angelface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men are not and will never be able to be as civil as us women. don't know why , sure exs can be friends but MEN MEN MEN who knows why they behave the way the do sometimes i really don't think that know why they behave the way they do too. Yeh i am in the very same position as you dear ... but hey life goes on. Listen to that song same script different cast by Withney Houston ... and you will find thats the way men opperate when you really look at it.
2007-08-17 15:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeha, Let it got. If you weren't just friends before dating. I mean friends, like you never even thought of dating him, and were friends for years, then it is nearly impossible to be just friends. You will be friends after dating for around a year of less, but you will eventually find out, you were just dating... without the attraction, or posibility of dating again, it just wont work.
Just move on. The faster the easier it is for both parties
2007-08-17 15:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Howie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's can be friends, usually for a while. But once new relationships start, it can be difficult. Your best bet is to just back off and let whatever happens happen. He's your ex for a reason and you need to focus on your own life.
2007-08-17 15:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Amie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exes can be friends though usually there's too much baggage and nastiness for that. understand that you are his EX, you are second to his girlfriend. you should terminate your "friendship" with him (and i put that in inverted commas cos it seems you feel like you're in some sort of competition with his girlfriend and if you're competing with her, then you and your ex are not friends, at least not to you) and move on to other things.
2007-08-17 15:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's an ex then regard him as one and move on. No point in trying to insert yourself into his life. He needs to move on too you know.
2007-08-17 15:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by fumi takeshiro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it shouldn't be that way. I'm friends with all my ex's, married w/ 2 kids. All but one actually. Ex-wife...
2007-08-17 15:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Navy Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋