Do parents suppose to or can help their adult child out in their only 20's who is going to school or just starting out in the world? Helping out meaning with money, let kid stay with them, or just boot them out with no help? Also, should kids take care of their parents. My mother said in her day grown children would give and take care of their parents, I'm in my 20's just starting out and don't have much but feel I should give to her maybe if I was rich and older but now?
2007-08-17 07:49:26 · 9 answers · asked by Tell_It_Like_It_is 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think either should be expected. With good grades, a good head, and savvy skills any young person in college will be able to make it--meaning they could get a few scholarships or really handle their money with ease. That is the parents job up until they are eighteen--provide them with challenges necessary to solve 'real life' problems, teach them about money, check in with their grades...etc. I'm not saying to help a young person out is wrong at all. I think it's great, however, I know that it isn't always possible.
Now, a child helping their parents out? Hmm, probably when they are older 40+ and the parent is about 60+ then the child could help out more but not when the parent is still middle aged and the adult child is still only starting out. I think it's important to help out family but not just when you start out.
Either way, like I said, it shouldn't be expected. This world is one where breaks are few and far between so you have to know how to handle yourself before you rely on others OR provide for others. I hope this helps!
2007-08-17 08:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that parents should help their college kids as much as possible. It is hard to make it these days, more difficult than maybe 20 years ago. I think most people could use at least a little boost to start out with. I also think we should take care of our parents when the get old. I have worked in a nursing home and would avoid sending my parents to a nursing home at all costs even if it means I will have to take care of them.
2007-08-17 08:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by notthatiknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents have the right to kick you out of the house once you're past 18 if they so choose, though that's not necessarily the most compassionate thing to do as a parent. Parents don't need to help you out with money unless they want to. You can take out your own loans and get a job to pay for current expenses and such.
I think when parents are older and unable to take care of themselves then children should consider taking care of their parents, but it also depends on their circumstances as well. One shouldn't pay for their parents care if their own family is starving or something, or if their parents were completely abusive or something.
Personally I doubt your mom is at a point right now (based on your age, though I could be wrong) where she is unable to care for herself, and don't think it's something you need to be worried about right now. You're young and need to go about finding a way to make your own way in life and not be worried about taking care of her just yet.
2007-08-17 08:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by IAskUAnswer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents almost always help their kids out no matter what, BUT if they are adults they need to learn to stand on their own two feet and not depend on mommy and daddy to pay for everything. I know someone that was on a college football team, had a full course load AND worked full-time because his dad had passed away his senior year in high school. He also worked full0-time while working towards his PHD and was pulling a 4.0 GPA. Yes, kids SHOULD help their parents if they can. We cannot help my mother in law financially, but we do things around her rental house so she doesn't have to pay someone to do so.
2007-08-17 08:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it is within your means, than yes. While you may be considered an adult at 18, you are still family, and family is supposed to help eachother out whenever possible. I help my parents and grandparents when they need it, as well as my in-laws. And I know that if I need anything, they won't hesitate to help out-that's what family is for!
Charity starts at home!
2007-08-17 18:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all has to do with how your family situation is. My family is really close, I know if I ever needed anything at all my mother would help me out as best she could. I would help her out to the best of my abilities as well. She does things for my grandparents because she loves them and she wants to make their life easier because they sacrificed a lot to raise her and my uncle. I don't think it's right to just boot your children out once they turn 18, especially if they're trying to go to college and better themselves. But every situation is different and you never really know how things unless they directly involve you.
2007-08-17 08:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by radioactivecupcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..it's not a requirement for parents to help with money. Once you turn 18, you are considered an adult.
2007-08-17 07:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think either is expected, but i know when i get older i will try to help out my parents as much as i can, because i know that they will help me the same way.
2007-08-17 08:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though we don't need it, my mom is always doing stuff for my husband and I. To answer your question, she paid for both my undergrad and graduate school. If we needed anything she would not hesitate to help.
2007-08-17 07:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jaime P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋