I'm dating this guy & he went almost 3 weeks only contacting me twice. I took it for what it was, and said maybe there was someone or something else. He called me on Wed. asking me how come I had not called him from an alleged message he left me on a Monday, but he never said if it was this week or last week Monday. One friend said that when he called me I should've cussed him out another friend told me not because he is not my man, and where it would have been nice for him to call me he technically do not owe me anything, so I took the 2nd friends advice when he called me on Wed., and he talked like normal for about an hour, and that was it. My 2nd friend said since his B-Day is Monday he was probably calling to get "a feel for me" to see if I can be something he "do" over the weekend. I am asking do u think that's true since he never even brought anything up that was remotely close to that when we talked. We talked about work, and our kids, it was like we picked up where we left off.
2007-08-17 07:49:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure what you mean by "something he "do" over the weekend, but it sounds to me that for whatever reason he's not that into creating a relationship with you. I think you were on the right track when you weren't stressing about it and were taking the situation for what it was. If talking to him every week and a half makes you happy, then keep talking to him. If not, forget about it.
I used to hang out with this guy when I was in college. He would hardly ever call me while we were away at college and then he would call me up the first night that we got home from school. He wasn't into me enough to keep things going while we were at school, but it when he didn't have anyone else to hang out with and I was conviently around, he would call me. I took it for what it was because it was convient for me too, but the minute I met someone that I really liked and that liked me too...I ditched the other guy. Your guy may have called you on his birthday because he was lonely and you were a convienent person to call....
My experience is that if a guy or girl doesn't keep in touch with you as often as a boyfriend or best friend would, they aren't interested in having a real relationship with you...
2007-08-17 08:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man, but I do have a lot of brothers.
One thing that I have taken notice on is that when a man is interested in you then they usually will keep in contact with you even if they are busy.
The way that I would take his behavior is that yes, he is interested in you- however, you are not his top pick. He is waiting for someone (to him) better to come along. Truthfully, I don't think any guy is worth that and if you're just looking for someone to casually date then I would continue talking to him. However, I would try not to get too attached to him or fully trust him. You deserve someone who wants to be with you alone and NOT hold on to you with a string.
I hope my opinion helps you- good luck.
2007-08-17 07:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by noramellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be so many things, you spoke about your kids???To me, I am to assume either the both of you are single parents or married, or one married the other single with a kid????I don;t know. But if one of you are married, it means he's trying to see if you are interested in doing something,oh I don't know, maybe, have ex and not let anyone know. If your oth single but with kids, i'm trying to get a feel for if your always around your kid, is there room for me and/or room for us to be like adults. Now I can say from a single point of view, I try to get a feel of women to see if I want to start anything with them, is this someone that I want to give some time to, same interests, goals or to get a feel that Sure i want to have sex with her, she'd be great. Well good luck G
2007-08-17 07:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he was trying to see if the 2 of you could "hook up" over the weekend. He wants sex. But probably figured after a couple of minutes of "trying to get a feel for you" that you were not going to be putting out to him. But figured why burn a bridge, so kept talking to you. Don't think he's interest in a relationship. Just a booty call.
2007-08-17 07:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your nice enough to date him without hearing from him in 3 weeks, he is trying to get a feel for you .
what else can i get away with? can i have sex with others and her too ? can i even tell her about the others? can i have sex with her and not call for 3 weeks ? do i have to do anything to get the sex? like take her to dinner?
thats what it means. you are giving him a lot of freedom and he is trying to find where you draw the line.
2007-08-17 07:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen, Baby Cheeks.
2007-08-17 07:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to get an understanding of you is what "trying to get a feel for you" means. Maybe he was trying to see if you wanted to have something to do with him.
2007-08-17 07:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by troublesomesix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a jerk. He blew you off and now he's talking to you like nothing has happened. Move on!
2007-08-17 07:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy doesn't sound like he's worth your time at all, you deserve someone that wants to call and be with you.
2007-08-17 07:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means, that if you have to go through all this rhetoric with someone, then THEY aren't a person you should be taking seriously or investing time in.
2007-08-17 07:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋