Is this appropriate?

Question

I let my daughter play over at the neighbors house with her kids. She is a single mom and she seemed nice so I was ok with letting her go. My daughter came home today and told me she now has a boyfriend and she seen them frenching on the couch in the living room. There were also several other children from the neighborhood there also. I feel this is not appropriate to do in front of children. I told my daughter she is not allowed to play there since #1. I don't know the male in the household and
#2. If that is going on who knows what else is
Am I wrong for feeling this way or am I just being overly protective?

My daughter is 10 years old by the way.

Answer 1

I think you're being a cautious parent.

I agree you should know who is in the household where your daughter is spending time. I also agree that I would feel uncomfortable with my daughter being continuously exposed to such behavior. The younger my daughter the more concerned I would be.

However, this could have been a complete mistake. They could have stole a kiss thinking they were alone and the kids walked in and caught them.

Perhaps talk to the woman involved. Get introduced to the boyfriend. As a parent, I'm sure she'd understand your concerns. If you don't feel more comfortable after the discussion and meeting the boyfriend, stick with not letting your daughter play there.

Answer 2

It's better to be overprotective than not in most cases. If you don't know your neighbor very well then get to know her.(and her new boyfriend) Just talking for awhile may help you decide whether to let your daughter play over again. As long as there is not any abuse going on, I wouldn't worry about the french kiss. More than likely it won't happen again and you know kids can exaggerate.

Answer 3

ewwwwww, no you are not wrong for feeling this way. You are the mother and your feelings about situations like this can not be avoided. I would not let my children over at a house with a man I did not know ( the ones we do know can be just as dangerous and we don't even know it but that's a whole nother story). You know, if you see other parents that have been letting their children play over there ask them if their kids said anything about what was going on while they were playing over. Be over protective- there is nothing wrong with it!!!!!!!

Answer 4

You are right here. I would talk to this other child's mom and let her know that your daughter was not comfortable seeing that and you are not comfortable with it either. Let her know that her child is welcome in your home, but for now your child will not be coming over. You can never be too careful. Sometimes these new boyfriends can turn to preying on children. I would do the same.

Answer 5

I think your right on!! I have a girl who lives down the street that my daughter likes to play with, but when this girl came over and was telling me that her dad is in jail for drugs and her "uncle" and her mom live together but aren't going to get married, wow, I got concerned. My daughter doesn't play with her anymore. I think its good parenting and you should be proud of yourself for standing your ground.

Answer 6

I feel you are doing the right thing. The mother could have waited until the kids are gone, before she began her make out session. That is what nights are for.

If she was totally involved with this man...then she was not watching the kids. Who knows what the kids could have been doing.

Answer 7

you are right to have told your daughter she is not allowed to go over anymore. and as you said what else is going on? children learn by example the further away she is from questionable situations the better

Answer 8

So, if you knew the male in the house and it was the kids father, would you allow your child there? Do you ever french your wife/husband on the couch in front of the kids?
I think is wrong for anyone to expose kids in this kind of situation and not sure why you even question your decision on this one.
If your daughter likes the other kids she may invite them over your house to play.
That house is banned for EVER!!Period

Answer 9

I agree with you 100%. These days you can't really trust just anyone to be around your little girl. If you don't feel comfortable sending her over there then you shouldn't. I think you made the right decision.

Answer 10

I fully agree with you , I have a 4 year old daughter and I also am very very funny about whom she plays with and what she does.