2007-08-17 05:42:07 · 16 answers · asked by getagrip 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
be advised that this WAS reported and there IS an investigation and that this was the least of the accusations
2007-08-17 06:15:16 · update #1
It isn't normal for any adult to "pants" any child.
2007-08-17 05:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question, says to me that your gut know this is wrong. Human instinct is a powerful thing that we should listen to more.
When i first read your question, i was mortified. Then i thought about the age of the stepchild. For instance, i know some stepbrothers who think it would be hilarious to do this to their friends or stepfather, not that they would be fast enough.
However, when you are talking about a child, the only people who have the right to lay a hand on the child are it's parents. In this case, when a parent has to give the child a small smack or something when naughty. You know what i mean.
But! I don't care how close the stepparent is to the child's biological parent, or how old the child is, there is something very uncomfortable about a non-biological person doing this. A step-parent has no rights to a child that isn't theirs, except when this person has actually adopted the child. This brings responsibility.
I advise you to speak to the other parent in this situation if they are around, and tell them what the 'step' has been doing. Let the biological parent's talk about this and make it clear to all, that the 'step' is not allowed to touch or harshly discipline the child. Even if the biological parent says it's ok. It's not! The child has legal rights and those responsible for these, remain with the parents.
This also included humiliation or embarrassment, in order for the 'step' or anyone to have a laugh. It's apalling that some could berate a child this way, as the child's wellfare and happiness should be of most importance.
Speak to the biological parents, especially to the one not in the home with the parent and 'step'. Someone needs to protect this child, even if the ones responsible cannot.
2007-08-17 13:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by MAGICKSTER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is still in diapers and laughs very hard because you did it to him/her while playing, I dont see a bad thing in that. My nephew would probably laugh if I "pants'ed" him, but he's still a toddler. He would probably just call me a "punk!" if I did it lol.
But usually when a kid is potty trained, you shouldnt really do that because it makes the child embarassed. Which can lead to trust issues later on I imagine..
But if the step parent is pulling the kids pants down over and over and it's not really a fun game for the kid, then he/she needs to just stop it. I would say the age limit on doing something like that is 3 years old.
You never really specified the situation though, is it all in playfulness, or has it become something wrong and creepy? Only you can decide that...
I went to a ballgame once with my nephew and there was a man in the stands with a little girl in his lap the ENTIRE time. The little girl must have been 4 years old, she was very small. He didn't let her get down off of his lap and was patting her back and rubbing her leg the whole time. I thought it was creepy and weird.. even for a father to be doing that to his child. If you feel like that's the same situation that what the stepparent is doing is WRONG, SAY SOMETHING!!! Don't let it continue because down the line the person might go even farther as to hurt or even victimize the child.
2007-08-17 12:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Starlight*Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I would say it is not normal for any adult to pull down a childs pants.
2007-08-17 12:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by L Boogie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Why would any adult want to act like that?! Tell them to grow up and tell your blood parent what's going on, in front of the step parent. Something needs to be done to stop this childish, embarrasing situation.
2007-08-17 12:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by S&yW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but its not uncommon for step parents and children to have a very awkward relationship were lines are blurred and situation come up that are totally inappropriate. this sounds like one of those situations
2007-08-17 12:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by MYAB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not normal. It's inappropriate for anyone to pants someone else, especially if an adult is doing it to a child.
~Kyanna
2007-08-17 12:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm not really... this would be something that not even a parent would do unless they were potty training and the child needed help. In that case it would be okay for either.
2007-08-17 12:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no. I have lived with my stepson for 7 years and haven't felt theurge to pants him as yet.
2007-08-17 12:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Um no.
Though my six year old cousin gets a kick out of doing that to me.
2007-08-17 12:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋