(I bet you can gues already) Would you seriously date a girl outside of your relgion (if you're married, whould you have?)
2007-08-17 05:17:18 · 9 answers · asked by Chris 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am married so I will answer this in the "would you have..." If I really truly felt that the person was a wonderful person, matched my personality, was sincere and a good person, etc, I would have dated her.
I also would have then introduced her to my faith and attempted to teach her about my beliefs. Dating and marrying are two different things. If she would have accepted my faith, then marriage would have been a possibility. If she would have rejected my beliefs, I probably would have discontinued dating her.
2007-08-17 06:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some very good answers above. I am a married Mormon man, but married to an agnostic.
When I was single I dated both those women who were and those who weren't members of my faith. I was certainly encouraged by my mother to date within the faith because it is easier, and as others said, you marry who you date. But, when you find someone you love, then, well, I figure go with it. Because I married outside of my faith I didn't get married in the temple, but had an awesome wedding.
I think the most important thing is that there exists respect between the two. One cannot disrespect the other for either believing or not believing as they do. Also, one cannot think it is their duty to convert the other to their belief or think that it will happen over time, once they see how great it is.
I attend church every week, but my wife stays at home, doing her thing. Because religion is such a large part of someone's life, regardless of how respectful someone is, religion is going to come up and there willl be difficult times. It may get especially difficult of children are brought into the picture (my wife worries that our son may choose to be Mormon).
So, I guess I obviously would seriously date someone outside of my faith, but only if I was willing and ready to sacrifice some of my beliefs. I was willing to do this for my wonderful wife. Suppose it depends on the person. Good luck.
2007-08-17 15:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by straightup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Before marriage I did date a few who were not Mormon. I would consider it again if ever I found myself single.
But as for seriously dating in preparing for marriage, I don't think I would unless I say a real possibility that she would convert. As I feel it so necessary to share the same or very similar religious values for a family to be strong. I like to think I would only marry in a temple, but if she were recently baptized and waiting the time necessary after baptizem for a temple recommend possibly I would marry with the intention of going to the Temple as soon as possible.
2007-08-17 12:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by B Jones 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I dated men that were not Mormon. It was more trouble than it was worth. Being married in the temple was important to me and that cannot happen if he's not a Mormon as well.
My brother was less concerned about marrying in the temple and always dated non-Mormons. He is now married to a Baptist.
So if temple marriage is of no concern, a Mormon can certainly date and marry outside the Church.
2007-08-17 12:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Regina T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never did. I don't think I would have "seriously dated" one because I think serious dating leads to marriage, and I really didn't want to do that for both eternal and temporal reasons. I think it would be very hard to raise children if I didn't agree with my wife on religion. I can't see that working out for me (for others, maybe, I don't know) And I wanted to be married in the temple. That can only be done with worthy members of the church.
Good question.
2007-08-17 12:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Senator John McClain 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Latter Day Saint who does not yet date.....(Mom says no dating till I'm sixteen..lol), but I think that when I got to date that I'm going to try to date only LDS guys, because who you are around is who you're going to be, and who you are determines the type of person you're going to be with married. I'd rather be married in the Temple for all eternity.
2007-08-17 13:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am married now. But when I was single I did seriously date someone who was not Mormon.
gw
2007-08-17 13:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dane.
2007-08-17 13:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by LooneyLu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its really not good to because it can just lead you to nontemple marriages.
2007-08-17 13:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by NatNat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋