... since you had kids? For me, I can see how difficult it must have been for my mom. It is hard enough to be a parent with some tools and skills and support...her illness just exhasperated everything for her and us. I am starting to forgive her, but still am unsure if I can connect with her. What are your stories?
2007-08-17 04:45:41 · 7 answers · asked by NONAME 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't think it's my spirituality, actually, just my personality. I have a lot of empathy, including for her. She did some things I wish she'd done differently, but I also know she dedicated her whole life to us, and worked her whole life at a job she hated to support us. Plus she's a fabulous grandmother to my kids and tries to help me in any way she can. I'm much more interested in how she is now, versus the mistakes she made then, when she was tired, scared, and not as wise as she is now.
2007-08-17 04:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom died when I was young - I never went through the teenage angst that plagues the young adults of today. I never felt anger or resentment toward my mom.
However, my own daughters, now they are grown, tell me that having kids has changed their way of thinking. They understand now why I said 'no'. My youngest told me recently that growing up she thought I just did not want her to have 'fun', but now she sympathizes. My eldest wants to know where I learned all that patience. Children change things! Having kids is the hardest and most rewarding challenge I have ever had.
By the way, grand-kids are GREAT! I suggest all who do not have children right now, skip over the kids and go straight to grand-kids!
2007-08-17 11:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story is very simple for Asia people because our countries brought up our children so difference from your country . The parent always right eventhrough it was wrong but we've never fighten on them. In case of yours, I'm glad instead of your mom and I guess that you will be a good mother in the future and your kids will be like you too.
2007-08-17 12:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kanes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus said that if we don't forgive others, He turns us over to tormenting spirits.
So, I have learned to walk in forgiveness. Jesus forgave me my sins & threw them into the sea of forgetfulness.
I was blessed with a wonderful mom, but she wasn't perfect. I totally forgive her for any thing she might be wrong in.
You need to walk in forgiveness for your mom starting right now. Even if she hurts your feeling. Just walk in forgiveness. Imagine a boomerang of hurt heading your way, dipped in Gods love & returned to sender. The hurt leaves & you bless your mom.
2007-08-17 11:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by t_a_m_i_l 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to the first responder....
does an illogical belief in a Dawkins book and/or a lack of scientific evidence for the origin of our universe actualy enable people to belittle others? and are people so hollow and heartless inside that that's what they need to feel superior toward others?
To answer your question dear, yes after becoming a mom I had much more empathy for mine.
2007-08-17 11:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After becoming a mother myself I simply understand the sacrifices my mother made for me with her time and her patience. . .I can't say "thankyou" enough to her for being the kind of mother she was and still is. I am lucky to have a mother that is one of my dearest friends.
You should read the book "The Penny" by Joyce Meyer. . .I think you would really enjoy it.
2007-08-17 12:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by sparkles9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm interested to see the answers.
does an illogical belief in a cult book and/or a sky fairy actualy enable people to care about others? and are people so hollow and heartless inside that that's what they need to be more compassionate toward others?
thanks for asking this question, i'm really curious to see the replies.
2007-08-17 11:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋