how do I behave?

Question

Ok people, I have went on a few "dates" now, well, 2 lol but, I found that I really don't know how to act towards the girls..I don't know what to do. I just kinda stand there like a stupid dummy and talk to them, I make them smile, they say they had fun, but none of em want a relationship, just friends...so I need more advice..I'll be 23 september 10th, I want a girlfriend.

Answer 1

Okay well be a little flirty show them that your into them. (But not to flirty) Making them smile is a great plus!!! Also make them laugh. Most girls love a guy who can make them laugh. Help her to be comfortable around you.Don't act to shy. Its okay to because every girl likes a different guy. Well good luck on your date! Hope you get a girlfriend!!! =)

Oh P.S.
Don't act to desperate. Let them know your looking for a relationship but not to much where they think you HAVE TO have one. If you know what I mean.

Answer 2

Sounds like you need some self-confidence! Get some. Women love a confident man. When on dates talk about her. Ask questions about what she does for a living, what she likes to do for fun, hobbies, thoughts on life, childhood, etc If you center the conversation around her she will see that you are really into her. But you will also find out more about her and you will be able to use that as discussion fodder for later in the date or on another occasion.

Don't try to be someone that you are not.

Answer 3

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A general rule is to think about and concentrate on her. The better the consentration the more you will see and get your mind in an objective frame where you will see and know automatically what to do. It is your thoughts that get in the way. You have to use the capacity that only humans have to get outside yourself, you only have thoughts you are not them but the observer. We all know that the observer is not involved and can see clearly. You will be both on your own wave length and womens. The are actually more objective then men, but you can rival them. The ones that can't see outside themselves tend to be needy and drain you. Love comes from within and anyone who looks outside to another is a drag. The contradiction is that you separate from your emotions and can reach deeper more sensitive ones if you realize you only have emotions like you only have thoughts and you are conscious of them but you are not them. That can't be emphasixed too much. When you are emotionally involved with yourself you can not see her emotions or think straight. It's not you but no one ever showed you or was a good role model. Capiche? No one selects my answer when I say these things, but i have just given you the secret of life and the skills for the 21st century. The subconscious is a powerful computer way beyond your conscious mind. If you use it like an operator instead of getting involved in your own puny thoughts, you access your genius. In the above comment it sounds different, but you are also more objective about her and not emotionally involved since you aren't in a commitment and you want to not make a mistake in who you get involved with by letting emotions run you. Instead you run the emotions.

Answer 4

You need to stop thinking about what they want and start thinking about what you want. This is the type of man women find attractive - cocky and selfish. If a woman starts falling short of ur expectations on a date you should complain to her and ask her what is up with that - maybe just end the date and take her home. You will be surprised how attractive you become to a woman when you are breaking up with her.

Answer 5

omg september 10th is my bros b day, lol ok im a girl and i say ur doing and ok job, gils dont want ok, they was absoulutly fab.i think if you really want a gf your gonna have to start a level higher, like buying gifts supriseing them at work with a kiss and flowers and try more dates, always remeber , let the girl talk , u listen good luck budd! :)

Answer 6

You just haven't met the right one yet. Don't worry...you'll find the girl that makes you feel like you're doing it all right. Sure, you'll be nervous, but there's a girl out there that will make you feel completely comfortable! These other girls that say they just want to be friends...it's only cause there's no chemistry between you. You find someone...be patient. Good luck!

Answer 7

You are probably just too nervous when you meet these girls. If that's the case, that's perfectly normal but those girls are not for you. You are probably looking in the wrong places for a relationship. I suggest a different approach. Don't be too silly and if you get too nervous, let them know. There is nothing wrong with that. It happens to the best of us. ;) Good luck in finding your girl.

Answer 8

Respect them....do nice things for them....compliment them....eventually someone will take notice....Don't rush into a relationship just because you're lonely.....try to be friends with a girl first.......because communication and trust and respect for each other are the keys to a good relationship

Answer 9

happy b'day in advance but,..
to get a girl isnt that easy.
probably cuz u might be a happy-go-lucky guy.
show some seriousness in life and have some fun too.dont worry abt not having a relationship.
when the time is right , she will come

Answer 10

Stop trying to be someone else. Just be yourself. You may turn some girl off but, you will also find someone to be with who likes you for you.