I am terrified of dying, and the fear of it is interferring with my life. What can i do?

Question

I haven't always been like this, but every since my dad past away, i've been terrified of dying. I'm scared of how i will die. The thought won't get out of my head, Im terrified to leave my family behind, terrfied of how painful it wil lbe, terrified of when it's going tohappen.

Oaky, i know that everyone dies, and i know that i WILL die someday. I know this. But i am still terrified. My friends and i went to the fair a few nights ago, and i couldnt even ride any rides because i was terrified they could break and i would die a horrible death.

What can i do to get over this fear? Please dont laugh. I know i sound crazy. But after my dad died, i have been going through a lot.

Answer 1

Sounds like you need to see a psychiatrist to get over this unreasonable fear. it is no laughing matter. None of us want to die but most people don't dwell on it. Get some help honey and this ain't the place for professional help. Sorry.

Answer 2

No there is nothing to be laughed at. Fear of death is the most basic of the human feelings Everything that we do is based on this fear. We don't know what we are doing in this world, why we have even come here, and what really is going on. And all of a sudden we will be cut off from it, that is all that we know. EVERYBODY feels that way, we are all on the same boat, and nobody is more secure than another.
Do not miss the life because of focusing on death, because all of us will sooner or later know what happens when we die. This life is good, though meaningless, if you think about it. Try to enjoy it as it is.
You are on the surface of this earth only for a very limited period of time. You have never been here and will never be again. This is your only one chance to be here throughout the whole eternity. When you go under the ground, you will not come back. You will never take part in anything that goes on here on the surface. So enjoy while you can, do not worry about the rest. Everybody is on the same boat. This is true not only for you and me, but for everybody that you see around you.
I can assure you that the "other" side will be as wondrous as it is here. Because the fact that such a world exists and we are in it is an unexplainable thing, a miracle, is you will. Maybe death is like waking up from a dream, stepping out to the other side of the curtain, who knows? Just like we are born here, maybe death is another kind of birth to some other reality.... But you don't need to think about it before the time comes.
Go out, feel the sunshine, drink a nice cup of coffee, go see your friends, and smile.

Answer 3

I have experianced that fear for quite some time now.My father also died so it may be a sense of protection you are lacking.This might sound crazy but I have a fear of snipers.Yeah I know that there is no war going on but every once in a while this panic attack happens to where I think someone is going to shoot and kill me.Preferably a sniper hiding in a bush somewhere. My disillusion is so great I have found myself crawling on the ground Army style (even though I have never enlisted,I have seen enough movies).Hey but I live a normal life and tell myself that I am a little more prepared to die than most people.So I find comfort in the inevitable.

Answer 4

We are already passing through the process of dieing, have been since birth.
It's understandable that no one wants to die at a young age.
The best that we can do is try to provide for our families as best we can in the event of early death.

It's not crazy, but a helluva waste of time and energy to worry about something that may not happen for many years to come. As we age, death does become more acceptable. I hope that you have a long and prosperous life before it becomes a reality.

I have outlived a son and had to make the decision to pull life support, two young wives who died in my arms. And here I am, still.

Concentrate on living. There is so much to see and do. If you can, do it now, at least within your means.

An old movie comes to mind, "Auntie Mame" with Rosiland Russell. One of her lines:
"The world is a Smorgasboard, and some poor *astards are starving to death".

Answer 5

no one needs to laugh at any one, it's only natural you've just experienced a situation in you life and it must have effected you a lot. He was your father and very close to you, perhaps he suffered in his death? I work as a nurse and i see a lot of people dying and sometimes it gets at me , sort of what a kind of death is awaiting me? You see this is part of life that we have to deal with, we just don't know what's in store for us. I think every body is terrified of death, but if this is getting a bit of an obsession to you perhaps you might do good if you vi site a psychologist. who might know perhaps you might die with out even knowing. If you believe in some kind of a God praying will give you the courage you need.

Answer 6

Your death is very similar to your birth. It is not necessarily something you will be in control of. You maybe able to control some of your quality of life issues but you die when you die.

You should seek professional assistance to help you relieve your anxiety surrounding death and dying. They can help to relieve your suffering about this issue.

Answer 7

Yep, you need to talk to someone with a little more knowledge then Yahoo doctors. My opinion is, fear of death is normal when held in line. You've let it get out of line and you might be letting you morning for your dad get in your feelings too. Go see a shrink. (I would have said Psychiatrist but couldn't spell it :)

Answer 8

you are not crazy this happens to all people the fear of death ,its' GODS way of telling you you need him and that there is no one who can help you but him . You must put your faith in him he has made a way through JESUS CHRIST his son.Call out to him.

Answer 9

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