My best friend phoned me and asked me to take off a day of work before she moved. She wanted me and her boyfriend next week to go with her to this amusment park called "Dorney Park" neither of us have EVER been there and it's a good distance from our house.
Today I got a phone call from my Best Friend saying that plans had been changed and that it'd be a lot easier for her to go to Six Flags because she has a season pass there. She said it would end up costing me and her boyfriend less in the long run because we could "buy 1 get 1 free" and split the price of the one ticket or whatever she was talking about.
She explained to me how it was her last week at work
she owes $250.00 for her car to be fixed before she moves
and this insulted me......
She is going gambling at some horse race track with her family tomorrow and needs money for that as well as going to play bingo with her grandmother before she leaves.
She kept apologizing to me saying she thought she was getting another pay check next week but they gave her the final pay check this week.
I'm still VERY ANGRY and very insulted.
She has money to be with her family AND BOYFRIEND for tomorrow o and did I mention her 2 best friends from out of town..... but doesn't have enough to go to an amusment park that we had plans for and that I took off work for.
I don't want to go to six flags
I've been there enough times already this year!!
Do I have a right to be angry?!!
2007-08-17 03:28:37 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-08-17 03:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Aero 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When reading this, I thought the main thing you were going to be angry about was her failure to pay you back + attempts to borrow more money, not that she switched amusement parks on you. If you don't want to go to Six Flags, you could call work, tell them your vacation plans have changed, and that you're available to work tomorrow. Or you could tell her you really had your heart set on this other place, and pay the difference in her fee between Six Flags and the other park.
Sure, if you want to be mad that she changed amusement parks on you, you have that right. But IMO, the more important issue is that you don't be a sucker and a doormat to someone who may be irresponsible and taking advantage of you.
As for having money to place BINGO with her grandmother, one can buy a few cards cheaply. As for going somewhere with her boyfriend, maybe her boyfriend is paying.
2007-08-17 03:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself one question, Why were you taking the day off? To be with your best friend before she moved or to go to that certain amusement park? If you choose to be with your best friend before she moves, then no you dont have a reason to be mad. Sounds like you got excited about the amusement park and forgot the original reason for going. Also sounds like she just wants to spend time with you and you should take that as a compliment. She could have just cancelled but instead she made different arrangement that would be less costly for you and her boyfriend and still be able to enjoy her time with you. Not to be cruel but you are not the only person in her life that she is leaving behind. She is just trying to be fair to everyone. Just enjoy your time together no matter where you go or what you do.
Remember she is moving, are you going to be able to see her as much then?
Good luck and have fun.
2007-08-17 03:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right, but it is probably not worth wasting your time and energy over. She sounds like she has trouble managing money and just wants to do EVERYTHING. Maybe she didn't know how many times you'd been to six flags and thought that you also might want to go the cheaper route. Keep it in the back of your thoughts that this is how she is so you won't get disappointed again. She probably does not realize you are angry. Maybe you should tell her and see what happens. Maybe she will go back to her original plans to go to the other park.
2007-08-17 03:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by catsaver001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think you should be angry. Dorney park is not that fun anyway its to old and falling apart. But besides that she still made arrangements to be with you. She could of just skipped out the whole way. If you really want to go then offer to pay for it or just dont go at all but she is trying to fit everyone in on a tight schedule and you should be more understanding of that.
2007-08-17 03:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like things just didn't work out for her money wise and she is trying to spend time with the people she loves before she moves. You have two choices, you can also spend time with her before she moves, or you can find someone else to go to Dorney Park with you on your day off and stick to your plans. I guess you do have the right to be angry but I think she didn't mean for feelings to get hurt. I think she is just trying to juggle money and time at this point.
2007-08-17 04:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do u want her to do? She doesnt have the money.
About the gambling, I think she feels preassured by her family to go. l mean what is she going to say "sorry can't cuz I have no money"?
She feels confident enough to tell you, but maybe she doesnt have the guts to tell her family that she is broke...I know i would be totally embarrased.
But, u have the right to be mad. After all, she was the one with the idea. And if she doesnt have the money, then why is going to parks and hourse races?
Maybe be a little more comprehensive eventhough you do have the right to be mad.
2007-08-17 03:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by LIZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be miffed, but I also think your friend should get a damn grip. She should pay for her car to be fixed first and foremost, and if she is low on cash, she should skip the horse track, the bingo AND the Six Flags altogether. It doesn't sound like it's time to be spending money.
Kind of sounds like she's taking you for granted.
2007-08-17 03:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing is that she sounds like she really wants to spend time with you. It is the person who is surrounded by people who love them that have the most in this world. She sounds like a lucky person. Money sounds tight. She wants to be with you it seems and she is trying to find a solution to a very real money problem she is having. A good friend would be happy for the time together, because it is that that is important....
2007-08-17 03:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't recall there being any "emotion police"...you have the right to feel however you feel, whether it's justified or not.
I'd say your anger is somewhat justified but it's likely to just cause hard feelings so you may as well let it burn out and go ahead and enjoy time with your friend as best you can. It's not worth holding a long term grudge over.
2007-08-17 03:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're being petty. There are many people who want to spend time with her before she leaves and she has limited money and time. Balancing that and organizing a move is no easy task. Instead of getting your knickers in a knot, why don't you ask if there's anything you can do to help her out?
2007-08-17 03:33:23 · answer #11 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋