My guy is almost 33 years old (NOTE: I'm 30, and I've been dating my bf for about 2 1/2 months). He just confessed to me (last night) that he's only ever had one girlfriend other than me, and that he dated her for about two months when he was in high school (grade 12). Things between him and I have been going well, and the relationship has been progressing fairly normally (e.g., we have been seeing each other regularly; we have started to meet each other's friends and family; we have been having sex for about a month now; etc.).
Is the fact that he has only ever "dated" one girl (other than me) "normal", or should I be concerned?
2007-08-17 03:11:14 · 30 answers · asked by BK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't worry about it some guys are shy or don't really care about dating that much. He sounds like a great guy and I would try and hold on to him and stop focusing on trying to find stuff that's wrong with him.
2007-08-17 03:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by chelsea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with the fact that he's only dated one other girl. Think about it: you said so yourself the relationship is progressing smoothly, so why worry? If you'd like a second opinion I think the progress of your relationship is going fine.
If you think about it too much you may start to over analyze a perfectly normal situation. If you start to question too many things you may hurt the feelings of your guy, especially since things are going so well... why worry about something that clearly is doing fine on it's own? Best of wishes!
2007-08-17 03:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by silentstar53 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Define 'normal'.
What's wrong with that? What's there to be concerned about?
He's honest about history.
Just because an individual doesn't conform to society's 'norm' (out of choice or not - you did not specify), does not automatically mean there is something wrong.
This could be due to several factors... priorities being a major reason.
ps: Would you be more at ease if he'd been in millions of unsuccessful relationships?
2007-08-17 04:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't worry I would just keep it in the back of your mind for now. But some people are just really picky. It is hard to find a relationship. The way I look at it...why date someone you couldn't see yourself marrying? Maybe he just hasn't had a long term relationship...he has probably gone on dates and stuff...but I wouldn't worry...Maybe he was waiting for you =)
2007-08-17 03:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend of mine that only had one girlfriend in high school for a short time that never dated again till he 30+ and meet a korean lady and got married and has a baby girl now.
2007-08-17 03:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kirk Neel 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I hesitate to use the word abnormal in this case, let's just call it unusual. It depends on the reasons for his lack of dating experience. Has he told you why? He could have spent that time in jail or in a mental facility. Either prospect is a little frightening but not insurmountable. If he treats you well & you care for him, I don't think that his lack of experience should concern you. I think I would almost prefer a man that wasn't messed up by past relationships.
2007-08-17 03:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What difference does it make. This guy is in a no win situation. If he dated no one (it's odd to you)
If he dated to much ( he has issues)
Enjoy the relationship and go with the flow. You are reading to much into it. If he is a normal guy and you both get along then don't look to make an issue where there is none. Don't read so much into it.
2007-08-17 03:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that is perfectly normal becasue everyone is different - some ppl will date more frequently and others will date less. The only thing that matters is that you love him!
PS - and for what its worth, its sounds to me that he is more likely to be faithful to you because its when he dates more women is when you should be concerned... if you know what i mean!
2007-08-17 03:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say dont be concerned, Maybe he was trying to find Miss Right. On the other hand maybe ask him why. But if you feel everything is going well. Thats just him opening up to you so you know about him alittle more.
2007-08-17 03:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by victor_cain 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, maybe he was spending too much time trying to make it through college and advance his career. He just may have been focusing on other things, which I don't consider bad. He also could have decided to not waste time dating around until he found someone worthy of his time! Congrats on your New Relationship and Good Luck to you both!
2007-08-17 03:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by ~~*Paradise Dreams*~~ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋