Pleasse help me , im still in love with my ex and its killing me to be so far away from him, i just want to be with him every minute of the day,ive told him how i feel but he says we will never get back together as nothing in common. He said i can still have sex with him as special friends do.HELP ME. im 28. xx
2007-08-17 03:01:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget him. No matter how much it hurts now you will get over it and if he's happy to use you for sex he doesn't care about you at all, don't fall for it find someone who will love you and care for you
2007-08-17 03:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by linz78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have really low self esteem - and the only person that can help that is you. Its difficult, and will take time, but the most important thing is to surround yourself with people who think highly of you.
Unfortunately, the information you have given in your question indicates that he is also undeserving of any love whatsoever if he is prepared to 'let' you have sex with him. Ask yourself some serious questions, like, if you took him up on his offer of just sex, when you were intimate with him would you not feel like a prositute knowing that there was no feeling or affection for you from his heart? Worse still he seems to try to justify using you like that by saying "..as special friends do". I can assure you I have never heard of special friends still having sex when it is over. In fact my best friend is male, and I've never even kissed him on the mouth - let alone have sex with him!
At least to your ex's credit he has been honest enough to set out his stall clearly, told you there is no way it can continue, so now the ball is in your court...
Keep yourself busy, every time you think of him or being with him try to change your line of thought to something positive. You do not say how long you were together but remember it can be like a bereavement, and you pass almost a grieving process for the relationship that you had and will no longer have. You can't make him love you, just try to rebuild your life, and learn from the experience.
The hurting does get better. It will not kill you. In time I hope you will find someone that loves you as much as you love him. All the best.
2007-08-17 10:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy actually said he would never get back with you, but you can still have sex with him as 'special friends'. Let me just say this.
YOU CAN DO BETTER!
why would you want to be with a guy who just wants you for sex and nothing more. Telling him how you feel is not going to do anything but make the situation worse. Girl just leave him be. There are more men out there trust me, one of them will appreciate you.
2007-08-17 10:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by zinistir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 28 ... come on, grow up, stop being so clingy and needy. Of course he said you can still sleep together as 'special friends', he's guessing that he can still count on getting into your knickers whenever it suits him.
Every minute of the day? Girl, you need to get a life going there. No one can help you until and unless you decide to help yourself. I think you should just forget him and get on with living.
2007-08-17 10:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont really want him back, it's just a lack of options. He shouldnt be cashing in on your vulnerability either, he sounds like a chancer and a low-life that doesnt give a rats a** about your feelings. Sorry but true. You need a new man, so get out there and do some!
2007-08-17 10:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Gemma T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him have sex with you. That is only cheaping your relationship. I know it is difficult as I am going through the same thing. Of course, she doesn't want sex but she dumped me for basically no reason. You have to move on. You are young enough to find a quality man.
Good Luck
2007-08-17 10:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by davethepanther 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ewwwhhhh get as far away from him as possible- he is a loser. He has no respect for you or your feelings and is being unbelievably selfish. Once the first 2 months of being apart are over you will start to feel better about yourself and really be glad you stopped all contact.
don't let him anywhere near you......what a jerk.
2007-08-17 10:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by jessieket04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi .. listen baby i know the feeling all though i never been in that setuation before but i can tell you one thing cut the sex only have sex with someone that loves you dont have it with your ex boyfriend dont do it !
if he loved you before that he has a chance to love you again and if he never loved you than he cant love you now .
if the fight that caused you to brake up with him and you are responsible try to make up , if opposite than its the end
2007-08-17 12:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by dicaprio_xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are asking for how do you get over him......make a date with him for sex ......organise....then call in sick or something .....or better still with friends when you are out tell him you cant make it.....he plainly just see's you as a quick shag...well he's gonna have to earn it from now onwards..
2007-08-17 16:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's futile to go on loving someone who can be so cold and calculating.
He wants you for sex, nothing more.
Where is your pride girl.
Wake up and tell this jerk you''re worth more, then go and find someone who'll value you for who you are, not for what you can give this pillock sexually.
2007-08-17 10:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋