Im getting married in a couple months in a Catholic church & this weekend I have to attend a pre-marriage course. Has anyone ever been to one? Can you tell me what goes on & what it's like?
2007-08-17 02:39:42 · 11 answers · asked by Chubbs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I thought it was a joke. They talk about marriage and god and how you have to go to church to be good people and then they get into how bad birth control is. Unless you really a hard core practicing catholic it will be a nice long waste of about 4-6 hours. If you have a good sense of humor you can entertain you self for some of it laugh at the ridiculousness of some of the stuff they try to pass off.
2007-08-17 02:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by stank88 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Catholic Pre Marriage Course
2016-11-04 21:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I attended the weekend course back in February, and it was wonderful. The main point of the course is to emphasize communication between partners, and to bring to light issues that may not seem important, but might cause problems down the road. My fiance and I had already discussed just about everything, but it was still helpful. There is a lot about choices within the marraige and respecting each other and treating each other as equals. It was also very relaxing and nice to focus on the marraige rather than the wedding for a change.
For those who seem bothered that the Catholic Pre Cana course would express disapproval at the use of ARTIFICIAL birth control within the marriage, remember that the official stance of the Church is against such means, and a (true) Catholic marraige preparation course is not going to condone it. And remember that NATURAL birth control is, of course, acceptable when practiced for legitimate reasons. Our course had a fairly good presentation on Natural Family Planning (no, this isn't the "rhythm method"), which is what people trying to conceive often end up using (it works both ways with a good success rate) although I wish they had given us more information on that.
All in all it should be a nice experience and a chance to get away from everything and focus on you and your partner and your choices together. You are preparing to receive a very solemn sacrament, and again, it is nice to focus on the rest of your life rather than one day.
As our Pre Cana instructor put it: "If your wedding day is supposed to be 'the happiest day of your life,' what will be left to look forward to?"
2007-08-17 05:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Im getting married in a couple months in a Catholic church & this weekend I have to attend a pre-marriage course. Has anyone ever been to one? Can you tell me what goes on & what it's like?
2015-08-10 16:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Hamlet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Episcopal church you also have to go to pre-marriage counseling. It's not really that big a deal. We just talked with the priest and filled out some questionnaires about things like how to raise/discipline children, how we think finances should be handled. Who does the housework. It is mostly so that you both know what each other expects out of the marriage. If you've always been independent with your money it might be a shock to find out that your husband expects to handle all financial decisions. This way you both go in the marriage knowing what to expect.
2007-08-17 02:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We didn't do the weekend, we did the weekly sessions. However, what they cover is similar.
It's very valuable - take it seriously and you will be amazed how much you will learn about yourself and your spouse to be. Even if you think you know each other well, things just come up - as the other answerer said, for example, about having kids.
It's a great time for the two of you to go over things, discuss things, with moderators to help you along the way.
Go into it with a positive attitude, and you will find it very helpful.
Congrats on your wedding!
2007-08-17 03:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that in my first marriage (haha...effective, huh?)...all jokes aside, my ex husband and I DID have a moment, that had we been older and more mature would have realized we shouldn't marry...part of the pre-canaan is to discuss your role as spiritual leaders in your future children's lives...wherupon my then fiance announced he didn't want kids (news to me)...had we actually taken the information from that class, we wouldn't have married.
2007-08-17 03:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I went to a class. It is a good example of how the Catholic Church tries to run people's lives. Amazingly, they will tell you not to use birth control, which in my opinion is anachronistic and none of their business. We have since become agnostics.
2007-08-17 03:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i was married in april 06, and we had to go to one of thoes things.
honestly i thought it was a waste of time and money. (we had been together for almost 7 years at the time we had to do the class)
neither one of us got much out of it.
for ours we had to sit in a class with about 10 other couples, and they lectured us on marriage and balh balh balh.
then we had to do work sheets and discuss our answers with our spouses.
yours may be different, and you may find it very informitive but we really didnt. its probably helpful for people who have only been dateing for a year, but since we were together for so long before that it didnt benefit us in any way
2007-08-17 02:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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