is it wrong to have a child?

Question

me and my girlfriend are really happy together and are thinking about havin children. we would make great parents and really want to bring a child into the world. both of our parents would love to have a grand-child from us as well. its not wrong for two women to bring up a child together is it? i want peoples honest opinion but please dont be nasty about it as we are bein totally serious!

thanks for most of ur answers. we have thought of what the child will go through, with other children and what they might say but we still think its a good idea and are going for it. our child will be brought up in the right way and not let those other pathetic little children get them down because our children will be happy no matter what!

people here are mentionin that children need to be brought with a normal family? can i just ask, WHAT THE HELL IS NORMAL???

NORMAL IS NOT MAN AND WOMAN!! BEING GAY IS ALSO NORMAL SO EXPLAIN THAT! i know i asked for peoples honest opinion on here but people who are against tell me if when ur child gets to about 17,18 and tells thet are gay, what would you do? and they tell you they want kids are you gonna be against them? no one is perfect in this world!!

Answer 1

I will just say the BEST opportunity for a child is to have two loving parents, which consists of a MOM, and DAD. That's my honest opinion, take it for what it's worth. Good Luck

Answer 2

I agree. This isn't a gay issue this is about being great wonderful parents and I believe every child needs female and male role models but it doesn't necessarily have to be a male father it can be an uncle and/or grandfather. And its better for a child to not have a male and/or female role model if its a negative one. I'm not gay but I think many children would be better off in a loving home with two females or two males than in an unhappy broken home being raised by a male and female.

Yes sure the child will probably be teased or ridiculed at some point, but again what child isn't? Children will always find something to ridicule and tease another child about. What is important is that the child grows up in a stable loving strong home which will make the child strong and the child will be just fine.

Lol! I'm with Madge probably true!

Answer 3

No it's not wrong-it's perfectly natural for you both to want to have children.

As long as the child is going to feel loved, safe and secure and be well-raised then there shouldn't be any problems.

I certainly admire your courage and determination with this, and think that couples such us yourselves are an inspiration to all.

In all honesty...go for it! Give your parents the grandchild they're desperate to spoil, and give yourselves the one thing you would cherish together the most-another little you!

ADD-IN: What a surprise. A thumbs down. I don't realy care too much to be honest. But one thing I will say; The love two people can give to a child must be the most important gift anyone can give.
There are so-called "normal" parents out there (ie heterosexual couples) who are on drugs, in violent relationships, etc and the child suffers. You get two loving, happy and caring people desperate to have a child and the world clubs together and slate them?! The children this couple have will have a happy upbringing. Which is a lot mroe than some kids from heterosexual relationships will have. THINK ABOUT IT! As long as the child is LOVED, CARED FOR, and RAISED WELL it shouldn't matter at all whether their parents are single, straight, gay, bisexual. SO many bigots...

Answer 4

In some ways you should feel a little bad about punishing the wrong child because you didn't exactly try to get the facts before you jumped to the conclusion. However even though the child that was punished wasn't exactly the one that was picking by your own admission she was standing over with the child that had done the picking laughing. She did nothing to prevent the 9 year old from picking on the 6 year old. She just went along with it. In the future so you don't have these types of misunderstanding try to do fact finding first. You don't want parents jumping on you for no reason.

Answer 5

I think its a sad world that people are still not accepted for who they are. I think its a great idea and you should go for it. If you're happy together and in a loving stable relationship then what more could a child ask for. The main thing kids need is love and security and two women or two men or single parents can give them that just as well as a man and a woman can. ( I'm a single parent and my two kids are two of the happiest kids you could meet)
As for bullying there isn't any guarantee that it won't happen, but you can't guarantee any child that they won't be bullied. It happens over the silliest of reasons. The important thing is how you deal with it and that your their for them. And I think you might even be surprised. Young children can be very accepting of situations when explained to them.
I wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you. Hopefully as more people in same sex relationship have children societies views will change then our children will will grow up to be a very accepting generation.

Answer 6

Go for it, so many children are brought into this world unloved and unwanted by their parents, you guys really really want this baby and will love it with all your hearts, so it will be better off straight away. I recently read a study (can't find it now) that said that same sex couples are just as good, if not better, than the more nuclear mother father unit. If you think about it too, traditionally it was ONLY mothers that did the raising in traditional tribal societies, as the fathers were all out hunting. The mothers did all of this together, and shared the responsibilities of the children, until the age of about six when the fathers would start to "apprentice" the boys. So if you look at it that way, having two mothers is more natural than having a mother/father combo LOL!

Oh I just found an article about that study too, here:

http://www.canada.com/theprovince/news/story.html?id=38cc20ce-7f14-44ea-b4d9-d4cd16d7a269&k=9378

Answer 7

It is only in an ideal world you can say "our child will be happy no matter what". The truth is no matter how you bring up the child, you can not be with it all the time. Other kids will still bully and the child will have a more difficult life. They would spend many hours at school being picked on, you loving them won't take away the problem or their pain.

Think about it, put the childs welfare before what you want.

School is tough now a days without having a reason to make you an easy target for the bullies.

If you want children so badly, why don't you foster and help out the kids that are suffering, you could make their lives better.

Answer 8

More than anything a child needs love and it sounds like it would have plenty of that!
I think it would be great, my only worry is your rights, its a sad fact that only one of you can be classed as its Mother, that must be heartbreaking for the other one. I also think it would be important for the child to also have a male role model, but im sure you understand that.

As i was adopted myself i feel i should ask if you would consider adoption, it would be allowed and sadly there are so many unwanted children. That way you would each have an equal relationship with the child. You could also test the water by fostering first if you wanted.

There are so many single parents in the World and no-one bats an eyelid at them, i cant understand why anyone would be against you doing this.
best of luck

Answer 9

A child needs 2 loving parents, if those parents both happen to be women then so what. Im sure you will give the child all the love that a male and female couple would. The only thing is maybe if the child was a boy, would you have a male friend that he could talk to in the future, about things he might not want to talk to his mum's about?

Good luck for the future x

Answer 10

If you are happy and stable, go for it. You can still bring a child up in a happy healthy home. The world is mean. But it doesn't matter how we live , kids will be kids. There are wonderful books available to help children with these situations. Good Luck.

Answer 11

Nothing wrong whatsoever, and as you have to go through quite a decision process to have a child then it stands to reason that the child will be loved and wanted. Not so long ago children got terribly teased if they were from a single parent family or even if their parents weren't married. In general we have moved on since then, I'm sure that in less than a generation's time people would be amazed that you even had to ask.
Go for it!