I am meeting with the caterers as well as the person making our cake tomorrow for tastings. Do we need to tip them tomorrow or send them a thank you card?
Also, if you have any advice on questions we should ask... or what we should expect, that would be greatly appreciated as well.
Thank you so much!
2007-08-17 02:37:02 · 18 answers · asked by clawofiron 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If a building contractor came to your house to show you samples of types of wood for flooring, would you tip him or send him a thank you card? Treat these "wedding industry" bloodsuckers like the grasping tradespeople they are, and not like some exaulted class of social experts.
That said, of course not all tradespeople are "grasping bloodsuckers", whether their trade is capentry, baking, or whatever. However, we must recognize that business is business and that the goal of business is to make money.
Ask if there are any additional fees, costs, or obligation which have not yet been discussed. Watch out for the oxymoron of "non-refundable deposit", a misleading word for FEE. Make sure the information on all receipts is complete and correct; handwrite in and have the business person initial & date any corrections or additions.
2007-08-17 03:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding caterer and the person baking the cake are professional people you have hired to do a job. The preliminary meetings are strictly business and definitely would not call for a tip. However, after the wedding, it is always nice to send a note of appreciation, but not a Thank You note.
2007-08-22 14:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
servers of all types should be tipped when services are rendered.....you could ask the caterer what is their policy on this madder.
the most trouble I've seen was with the wedding pictures..make sure you have a complete understanding about those..far many time I've seen where the pics was satisfying and the money wasn't returned...go slow and complete each step before going to the next one and all will be well
congratulations and may peace and happiness be yours
bless you
2007-08-25 02:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by LITTLE_JOHN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not tip. This is them trying to earn your business. They aren't doing a favor. I have TONS of questions you should ask.
The caterer wants to know your exact opinion--that is why you have having a tasting. You need to have some strong opinions as to what kind of food you want, is this dish what you imagined--or too spicy or doesn't fit in with your theme or too messy. The caterer needs your comments. There is no point in going to the tasting if you just nod and say "sure" to everything. Is this the scale of food you wanted--are you thinking tea sandwiches or foie gras?
The baker is the same. You will need to have a specific idea of how you want it done--3 tiered, fake layers, many separate layers spread out? Unique cake? How do you want it decorated--fondant icing, with a blue ribbon to look like a Tiffany's box, hundreds of flowers? Who is in charge of the flowers--is the florist bringing them and spreading them about the cake or do you expect the baker to provide those flowers? Real or fake-ribbon, flowers, cake topper--they need to know the structural weight limit you want this cake to hold.
Those are some things they will need to know by the end of your meeting. As far as what to expect, it's merely a food tasting like any other. They will show you a lot of pictures and have a lot of different ideas b/c they are trying to get an idea of what "perfect" is to you. Usually you will have already given them your budget so they will be showing and having you taste things that you can afford. It should be a very enjoyable afternoon--but make sure you skip lunch b/c its a LOT of food.
Be decisive and Enjoy!
2007-08-17 09:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
As for tipping no there are there to earn your business. The best web site I found to be heplful was theknot.com. They break it down and your can print all the question of there site then you can pick and chose the one you think work best for you they had so many I never would of asked ( the more you know the nice they are because they know you no sucker!! Hope it helped Best wishes!!
2007-08-17 15:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tip them, you are giving them business. If you want to afterward you can send a thank you card for a well done job.
2007-08-25 00:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't need to tip. They would probably appreciate a card though - maybe after the whole thing is said and done.
2007-08-17 09:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by emilysk8 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, yet tomorrow. Wait til after party/reception is over and then see if you think they should get a tip.
2007-08-23 22:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to pay them for your cake. There is no reason to ad to your already incurred burden by having to tip. Congrats. and have a good life.
2007-08-17 09:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by dellet2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd send them a thank you card and if you want add your tip to it. That is optional.
-Hope this helps.
2007-08-24 15:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋