Do you help your wife with the housework, like you are supposed to?

Question

What do the women think of this?

"Many men think that housework is beneath them, and some of them think that it will undermine their status and position if they help their wives with this work.

The Messenger of Allah (SAW), however, used to “sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/121; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4927).

This was said by his wife ‘Aa’ishah (RA), when she was asked about what the Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to do in his house; her response described what she herself had seen. According to another report, she said:

“He was like any other human being: he would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/256; al-Silsilat al-Saheehah, 671)

She (RA) was also asked about what the Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to do in his house, and she said,

“He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 2/162).

If we were to do likewise nowadays, we would achieve three things:

* We would be following the example of the Prophet (SAW).

* We would be helping our wives.

* We would feel more humble, not arrogant.

Some men demand food instantly from their wives, when the pot is on the stove and the baby is screaming to be fed; they do not pick up the child or wait a little while for the food. Let these Hadith be a reminder and a lesson."

Answer 1

Men are the Kings of avoidance, housework, mowing, anything

ANYTHING to avoid pulling their weight, regardless of how difficult this makes theproblems.

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Answer 2

I get home from work before my wife does so most night I prepare and serve dinner (and I enjoy the creative outlet of cooking). I do not have a problem with folding laundry, putting a load of wash on (yes I know the difference between white and colored loads), loading the dishwasher (including the soap tablet), or emptying the dishwasher when it is done.

Fortunately Wicca doesn't state that certain house taking choirs are only for one person to do. Of course, this makes me wonder, if housework is only for women (according to some religious followers) what do single people that live alone do?

Blessed Be )O(

Answer 3

I work 3rd shift, so I end up doing most of the housework anyway. It gives her a break and it keeps the place tidy. Of course when the kids get home, any progress of cleanliness is gone in 10 minutes.

Answer 4

My partner and I divide the chores. I wouldn't have any respect for a man who does nothing around the house. Of course I work all day so I have no intention of being the only person who cooks, cleans, and mows.

Answer 5

When a man thinks domestic work is beneath them - what does that say about woman, the servant of all? My sweetie used to do his fair share, but three major life threatening surgeries tends to take you down, he doesn't even drink anymore - sheesh.

Answer 6

I am a Christian, and yes, I help my wife with the housework although I work two jobs 55 hours a week.

Answer 7

I'm not married

Still, once I went to a pastor's home and he was sweeping the kitchen's floor. A friend asked him: "Do you help your wife with the house work?". He replied: "No, i don't. I live here, thats why I'm keeping it clean". I think thats what its all about

Paz de Cristo

Answer 8

I don't let my husband certain household chores....he's been restricted from the laundry room ever since he poured bleach into my colorful panties wash....they all came out with this nasty grey color. :(

But he helps out all the time. I'd give him a good kick in the rear if he didn't.

Answer 9

I'm not Muslim, but I help with the housework, for it's the decent thing to do!

Answer 10

I wish I could. Share, I mean. She makes me do it all.