Whats worse?, never having a girlfriend & being a virgin?, or being a Quadraplegic?, or having Down Syndrome?

Question

Seriously do you thinks it's worse having Down Syndrome?, or being a Quadraplegic like Christopher Reeve was?, or being almost 20 years old & never having a girlfriend, being single your whole life & still a virgin?, also including not being that very social, I have Asperger Syndrome, I don't have a lot of friends, I never get invited to parties, I just got my first job but it's not all that great but oh well, it's better than being at home all the time, at least it gives me something to do, the kind of people that work there aren't the type of people I associate with. I've been feeling suicidal for a while already, c'mon, I'm already a college sophmore & still no girlfriend yet!, I'm afraid to ask girls out, I've never asked one out before but I have gotten phone numbers, but it didn't work out well after that, I'm afraid of being rejected, cause most guys who have girlfriends or have had girlfriends have never been rejected or very few times. So what do you think is worse?

Prostitutes don't count for me, I refuse to have sex with those kind of women because that's just asking for AIDS, but I feel that people who have Down Syndrome or are Quadraplegic have it easier in life because they don't have to go through that social anxiety & frustration, like people will just avoid them.

Answer 1

i sorta know what you are going through with the asperger thing, my twin brother has it. he likes girls and a lot of girls will flirt with him, but he is afraid of rejection and does not ask them out. he will talk to girls he likes, but not ask them out for fear of rejection. the fear of rejection is normal. people who have a boyfriend or girlfriend get rejected more than you think that they do. get over your fear and ask a girl out. if you get rejected, it wont kill you. you will also start getting over your fear of asking girls out after the first one. i think quadraplegic is definitly the worst one out of all of them. i like my contact sports too much

Answer 2

You need to help help ASAP! You feel suicidal and sound very depressed. Go to a doctor/counselor anyone to talk to. Being a quadraplegic, having down syndrome is not as bad as being suicidal. Quadraplegics and people with down syndrome usually want to live. Having asperger syndrome is also hard to live with socially, but try to find a group so you can meet others with that. But please get help you sound like a good-hearted, sensitive person. You will meet your soul mate someday. I am 43 years old and thought I would be alone forever and I just met my soulmate 15 months ago. But I did not dwell on meeting someone, I went to college, became a teacher, had a child, rescued dogs, did volunteer work and had a full-filled life on my own, Join clubs, or a gym. Just keep busy. And don't worry about rejection, make it a learning experience, If you don't try you won't ever have a girlfriend and being regected is funny sometimes, Watch that show on channel 51 (the pickupartist.) Get advice from experts and take out books from the library. You will be fine and you have to change your attitude about yourself and say it will be ok. Best wishes & happiness will come your way.

Answer 3

First off, let me say that being 20 years old & a virgin is not bad at all. I'm 33, and I'm still a virgin, and I don't think it's that bad. I don't have any of those types of ailments you refer to, so perhaps that may be why I have slightly different outlook, but I have had my own challenges in life. As for rejection, it's an unfortunate part of life, and it's something I'm an expert in! Actually, though, it's not really a bad thing, because each time you're rejected, it brings you closer to the person who you'll meet and will 'click' with & want to get together with. Just be positive, and don't go around moping about your situation, or I'm certain you won't attract any wanted attention. Also: get an idea of the type of person you want to be with, so that you don't end up settling for anything just because you're lonely. Hope this helps! By the way: another note on rejection: Every single person in the world is afraid of rejection of one type or another at some point; the successful ones just handle it better and move on, and aren't afraid to take a chance.

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Answer 4

Being 20 years old and a virgin is NOT a huge deal. You are VERY young and when you are 20, things can change in an instant. Just hang in there. I know it's easier said than done but stay focused on school and your hard work will pay off. Sooner or later a girl will come along who you will fall in love with and you'll be glad that you were able to wait for her. Trust me, you are fine. All 20 year old's go through trying to find themselves. It's totally normal.

Answer 5

I can't believe I waisting my time answering this. Many people don't have sex until they get married, so being a virgin at 20 is not something to be ashamed of. There are some people with morals. Wouldn't you want your future wife to wait for you and not sleep with a bunch of guys before she finds you.
As for people with Down Syndrome, and the real reason I want to answer this question. They have the same worries, concerns and social issues you have. They worry about dating, sex and what other people thing about them. They go to school, get jobs and believe it or not some get married. People with Downs aren't that different they you. You should get to know some people with Downs you might start filling better about yourself.
I guess that leave Quadraplegic, yea I thing that would be the worst.

Answer 6

I am due to have a baby in 9 weeks time and opted to have a screening test at 12 weeks pregnant to determine the risk of my baby having Downs Syndrome. (The test returned a result which indicated that my baby does not have a high risk of Downs Syndrome.) However if the result had indicated otherwise, I would not have terminated my pregnancy. My partner and I chose to have the screening done, so that if it was positive, we would have time to prepare for any special needs our child may have. People with Downs Syndrome are beautiful, kind and valuable members of society (more so than many others). I have worked with many children with Downs Syndrome and they are some of the most loving children I have ever met. Although I support people's rights to choose whether or not they have a baby with a condition such as this, I for one, would love my child and support them regardless.

Answer 7

Hey honey, I'm almost 18, and I think you should get the nerve to ask a girl out. Sure, okay, you're 20 but it's not like you're a virgin and 50. So relax.

Just be confident and self-assertive. My boyfriend was shy but I gave him my number, and we've been going out for over half a year.

Just believe in yourself, and just try asking someone out! What;s the worst that could happen?

Answer 8

Your Aspergers explains the stupid question format. But throwing away the rd herrings, you are girlfriendless and in college. Yes your problem is a negative against you, but its not over yet, so don't give up. No need to kill yourself either. Movies of college chicks and jocks are not the full set of relationships in a college. There are plenty of singles throughout that time. And there are plenty of singles into your working life too. You will find someone, but you must persevere with your search and efforts. I was late in getting a girlfriend, and have gone years between as well. You just need to get out and find clubs and activities, in different areas that you may not be involved in now Build up your field of play and build up some confidence. When you partake of many events ou will broaden your chances of finding a single girl who will like you. I know single girls and guys with no problems, who just missed ever forming a relationship, just because the opportunity was never right for them. But they hold no regrets, and even as they get older and older (+45) , they know they may still meet someone. So don't give up. There is someone matched to you who is looking for you too

Answer 9

Listen I didnt read pass 'not being that very social' and already i knew your problem.Your problem isnt that you dont have a girl friend its that your just not happy with your life instead of seeing that you are single see it as wont it be more exciting when you finally get a girl friend or instead of saying your not invited to social events think ohh more time to excell in my studies no one is ever truly unhappy it is how you view life.


The wiseman is happy for what he has but the fool complains about what he has lost.

Answer 10

Dear sweet guy, I think you are worrying too much. You need to relax and concentrate on just being yourself and try to make friends first. Just go slowly. Don't project yourself too much. Start with just friendly conservation. Some things take time. I have seen quads--I have seen Downs--they are not pretty / envious sights. Be happy with yourself. Good Luck

Answer 11

OMG! this is where someone needs to slap you along side the head! and tell you to "grow up". do you honestly think that your life is that terrible just because you haven't been laid? I hate to burst your bubble, but the world doesn't revolve around just you...make an effort go past your comfort zone and meet new people. I am not saying it is easy, nothing worthwhile is easy. You stated in your response..."but I feel that people who have Down Syndrome or are Quadriplegic have it easier in life because they don't have to go through that social anxiety & frustration, like people will just avoid them." aren't people avoiding you as well? seems to me like you just classified yourself and put a label on yourself. I am sorry if I sound harsh, but you need to accept who you are: a young man who goes to college, seems bright but is affraid and is attempting to justify his actions by belittling those who either have no choice in their situation or are in a chair because of some misfortune.