I had a dream that I was in a store checking out when someone who i knew but barely knew asked me for a ride home. i said sure. we got in the car and i started driving him home when he kissed me. i thought my bf was a good kisser he was nothing compared to this. i went behind his back for a week before i broke up with him in my dream. i didn't even tell him i cheated. but i had a great time in my dream i didn't want to leave. now i don't really like cheaters and i swore that i'd never cheat no matter what. if i'd get stuck in a situation like that i'd call and break up with him first. but now that i've had that dream i feel horrible about it and i don't know wether i should tell him or not. should i? my bf's one of the sensitive sweet overreacting kinda guys. should i tell him? if i did how should i tell him?
2007-08-17 00:09:06 · 37 answers · asked by lilbikerchick_12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldnt tell him, it was only a dream you didnt betray him, so if its going to cause upset to your bf why bother? If you had actually done something wrong then yes u must tell him but you have not so save the heartache. I used to have these kinds of dreams then they turned into a re-occuring nightmare where i was being raped by people i knew. Each dream was slightly different but the basics were the same, and each time i'd wake up crying and even though it was only a dream, and i was raped, i still felt gulity towards my bf. So i told him about it and he was really nice, he took me to the book store and we found a dream bible and looked it up and it actually meant that i was unhappy about a change in my life and was going through a time where i felt insecure in my life (which i was). As soon as i found out what was causing the dream and stopped worrying about having the nightmare, it stopped. But the message i'm trying to give is try finding the meaning of it, it may give you some clue as to help deal with it. xx
2007-08-17 00:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never undermine the security of your loved ones feelings.
Unless you would like to place doubt where there should be none.
Alot of people believe that Dreams are very powerful and are telling of the future, can unlock secret powers.
All I can tell you is that it was JUST A DREAM. This is not like Nightmare on Elm St. Freddy is not coming out to get you and neither is your "dream dude".
You have a real live sensitive loving boyfriend and you need not tell him every little thing that crosses your mind because unless he is a psychic I firmly believe that most guys even though they say they would love to read our minds DO NOT want to know what were thinking 24/7. Remember we have periods, and I have never seen a guy volunteer for our mental thoughts during those moments.
Enjoy the dream/fantasy for what it was, its from a realm where reality and sense goes out the window, you cannot recreate it, so dont try. Just stay with your guy. Its the REAL sensitive sweet bf thats going to be with you right now. Dreaming is not cheating hun. Take Care.-Rachel.
2007-08-17 00:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't help your dreams.. and who knows about your dream? only you. Not even the guy "you cheated on your boyfriend with" knows. lol.
I am a very faithful person to my long time boyfriend, and I had a dream a while back that I cheated on him also. With his brother!
I have no feelings for his brother or anything, and it was just a dream.. it does not signify that you are going to cheat...
I wouldnt suggest mentioning the dream to your boyfriend, seeing as he is the sensitive, sweet and overreacting type of guys.
Just let it go.. as long as nobody finds out about your dream (ha ha) and you KNOW you will never cheat on him, then there's nothing to worry about.
Having this dream though, probably shows you how you would feel if you were ever to really cheat on him and you asking this question shows how much you care about your boyfriend.
2007-08-17 00:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf is the type of guy to take it to heart and maybe feel betrayed by it, dont tell him!!if you really love him and know that it was just a silly dream, telling your bf could completely destroy your relationship. If you are not happy in your relationship tell him that your not sure if you want to be in a relationship. A dream cant help you to decide who to be with as they cant guarantee your happiness. Go with your instinct! Only you know whats right for you!! Good luck
2007-08-17 00:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey!x! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you tell him about a dream?!
Honey, it was just a dream, dreams are false. There is no use in getting him worked up over a dream. All it will do is make him think you're not happy with him and are seeking companionship through dreams.
Is that the case?
I suggest you think about your relationship. If you're not happy, the dream may be telling you to move on. But if you're happy where you are, ignore the dream it was nothing.
2007-08-17 00:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it was a dream it sounds a bit explicit.
Best thing to do is think like this, what would you say or do if your roles were reversed if he had the dream and told you. How would you feel? .
May be he,s lost interest or he,s having an affair-with the bimbo in the dream .Its O.K.to dream if you don,t touch if it was a dream keep quiet..
2007-08-17 00:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you tell him? It was a dream,not real! if he had a dream that he had sex with a celebrity or your best friend would you want him to tell you??? Some things are better left unsaid.
If you are truly happy in your relationship and the dream was just one of those things then you have nothing whatsoever to gain by telling him. If you are not TRULY happy in your relationship then the dream might be indictive of that.
2007-08-17 00:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is walk into a church and discuss this with a priest. This might sound a bit awkward, especially if you're not a christian, but you will find that he/she actually has the best answer. It might not exactly be what you wan't to hear but it'll work and FAST! This is the best remedy because you will express the dream to someone, so the guilt is not bottled up inside you and because you're telling someone who wont be so quick to judge or label you! It'll be fine, I can assure you!
2007-08-17 00:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Foxy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you dreampt that you cheated doesn't mean that you will in real life. Two very different things! Plus.. you should dive deeper in the meaning behind the dream itself. Do a little research on what some of the signs could possibly mean. Perhaps its just your subconcious mind telling you that you are needing more affection from you bf.. who knows..
2007-08-17 00:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun, if this was a dream it doesn't really matter and you shouldn't really worry i have had many dreams and i have enjoyed them so much that i think about them all the time and sometimes they have been similar to yours (the kissing)... and if you want to tell him go o i'm sure nothing will happen..... xxxxxxx good luck xxxxxxxxx
but u know that sumtimes when i ask a question i say dat it was a dream even when it wasn't and if this is the case then you have to explain to him nicely xxxxxxx good luck xxxxxx
2007-08-17 03:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋